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You Asked for It

Thank you so much for all of your advice in my Ask Me Anything post! Your questions were great too. I was going to answer them on my MomTV show but I got a lot of questions from the crowd so as promised, I’m giving my answers in a post! I’ll also add my MomTV show to the bottom if you missed it so you can see answers to your other questions!
Talking with Tami said…

I wanted to know if you are a lil nervous about having a baby in today’s trying times?

Answer: Yes! I get nervous every time I watch the news… And I WORK in news. I have learned you can’t wait on others to make yourself happy though, so we’re just being smart, and doing what we can to make our home and family as safe and secure as possible.

Aimee said…

I’ve been dying to ask this … Why is the G in makin{g} in brackets??? I’m some what new to your blog and feel like I am the only one who doesn’t know!

Answer: Oh yes, everyone knows THIS! How could you not know?! …Kidding! I put the “G” in brackets because I registered babymakingmachine.blogspot.com but when I went to buy babymakingmachine.com it was taken, and I had to go with babymakinmachine.com so sometimes there’s the “g”, sometimes not, and so yea…
PS: I just bought babymakingmachine.com too!

Ashley said…

Oh I have one. 🙂 did you “feel” pregnant before you found out or were you completely surprised when you took a test?

Answer: I was totally shocked. I didn’t “feel” pregnant like some people say. I did before and was disappointed so I was in denial the second month. The ONE clue I had (TMI alert!) was creamy CM. That normally wasn’t there that time of the month so I thought “Hmm, maybe!”

heather said…

My question is, when you find out the gender of the baby, will you tell us some names you have picked out?

Answer: When I find out the gender of my baby I’m not going to share it on my blog! Surprise surprise! You’ll have to wait until Spawnie gets here! Yea, I may cave, we’ll see. I don’t think I’ll share the names unless it’s in consideration… Names I’m sold on I’ll keep secret from the name thieves!

MommyJ said…

Okay… here’s a question. What does the husband think of the blog? Does he cringe at personal info shared, or think it’s great?

Answer: My husband has a love/ hate relationship with my blog. He loved it before we were TTC, but once we started trying for a baby he didn’t want me posting about that. It was hard cause I’m very open and non-private. He’s the opposite. The month off posting for March of Dimes was perfect cause he was happy and we got out of that phase! He likes is ok with me blogging about my pregnancy. Eventually I’ll get him to do a guest post.
marfmom said…

1) My question was actually same as MommyJ’s. Oh, but another is, do you think you’ll use your child’s real name on here, or come up with a pen name for him/her?

Answer: I think I’ll use Spawnie for awhile, then use his/her real name, but mostly use Spawnie. Kinda like my name. I use it now and then, but usually go by “Future Mama.”
Betty said…

Considering how your husband was a bit nervous about baby-making plans until recently, how’s he enjoying your pregnancy now?

Answer: He actually is really excited about it. He’s come to our appointments and enjoys seeing Spawnie and nagging me about prenatal vitamins and drinking my water. He’s in it to win it.
Kelley with Amy’s Angels said…

Here is one–Are the good friends you have, who don’t have children, nervous that they’re going to “lose you”?

Answer: Most of my good friends have children. We have a few couples… Ok one couple, we hang out with who doesn’t yet, but I imagine they won’t be too far behind us.
Mallory said…

Question: What names do you have picked out, if any? (I know someone else asked a name related question, I’m curious, too!)

Answer: Ok you pulled my arm! One name I like (but it’s not my #1 choice) for a girl is Tatiana. And we’d call her Tiana for short. Hubby’s not sold on that though, and he is on our #1 choice. I just thought I’d give you a taste of my taste. Oh hint though: In one of my OLD posts I have a list of names including our top choices 😉
~Mendie~ said…

How much time are you planning on taking off after the baby is born or will you stop working and be a stay at home mom?

Answer: This is a touchy subject for me right now. I plan to take 12 weeks off but I’m trying to see if we can work that out financially. It may be more like 6-8 weeks, but I pray I’ll be able to do 12. I’d love to take a stab at being a SAHM one day but I don’t see that in my near future.
Ashley said…

okay so I have been totally behind in reading blogs so Congratulations!!! I am so excited for you! I guess my question is are you going to work once the baby is born? I am sure someone prob. already asked but I didn’t read any of the questions above.

Answer: Yep, read above 🙂
joanofalltrades said…

Are you going to buy/rent a doppler to listen to the heartbeat at home?

Answer: I have a friend who says she’ll sell me hers so I may take her up on that if my hubby lets me splurge. Maybe it can he his Christmas present? Tehee!
http://www.blogger.com/profile/13040156793081625893 said…

Hello! I just started following along with your blog, and am in love! I went on a rampage after I found out we were expecting, and came across your blog… I had no idea we were so close with our pregnancies… I’m 9 weeks 2 days today, due on June 20th, 2010. We also have our first appointment to hear the heart beat next tuesday! I’m looking forward to following along with you, and now on to my question:

Have you already started thinking about nursery decor and such, or are your waiting until later to keep your mind busy?

Answer: Congrats on your pregnancy! I’ve started thinking about it. I know I want to make a name wall-hanging decor thing with scrapbook paper and wooden letters. Just need to know what colors/name to make!

Fernanda said…

Hi There!

I was soo happy to find your blog as a thinking about TTC, but not infertile blog. I like you were before you got pregnant, congrats by the way, am very into learning as much as I can about being preggers, babies and children before even trying to conceive. I am soo glad to now be seeing your journey through pregnancy! Please give us all the candid, insider perspective you can on pregnancy!

QUESTIONS FOR YOU:

While Preggers:
1. Body Image, and how that changes for you as the months progress.
2. Labor Fears and Birth Plan
3. Maternity Clothes: Creative Alternatives or what you found works best

After Baby is Born:
1. What you feel towards baby and how it is similar or different from what you imagines.
2. Post Partum Recovery
3. Labor: how was it compared to how you expected it to be.

Answer: Ha! I’m going to have to answer these all in individual posts along the way! Great questions. I have been thinking a lot about body image, and labor fears lately so I’ll start with that soon!

Oh, and as for maternity wear. I discovered Moody Mamas! They have a line at Target too! Affordable and cute!

Emily said…

What is your favorite childhood memory? What memory do you most look forward to making with Spawnie once he/she is here?

How is your DH reacting to your preganancy? What do you think some of his fears are about having a baby? What are your fears?

What has been the hardest part so far of being pregnant?

Answers:

My favorite childhood memory: The one that comes to mind right now as I’m sitting in my livingroom next to the glow of the festive Christmas tree I decorated is celebrating Christmas with my family. I loved decorating the tree with my siblings and getting up in the middle of the night to see what Santa brought us. We had a lot of fun holiday traditions with Easter and Christmas.

Memory I look forward to making with Spawnie: I look forward to doing things together as a complete family, with Snoop and all. Going to parks, on picnics, making cookies, having family night once a week and family prayer every night. I think I’m so excited to see this child we’ve made mold into a wonderful person and teach him/her so much! I’m also really excited to cheer for Spawnie at sports cause I already think we’ve got a little athlete growing!

My husband and I don’t TALK about the pregnancy that much right now. We have a crib already (unassembled and in our hallway) and we talk about my sickness, and laugh about my cravings but don’t talk about the “what ifs” that much yet. I just bought a book I hope will help with that, it’s called “Pregnancy Journal: A Guide for Expecting Parents” (thanks Baby Dickey for the recommendation!) it is a diary we can fill out with prompts and stuff, I think it will help us get more excited for Spawnie.

We aren’t really vocally SCARED (I am sometimes) but I think our fears are just “Ok, how EXACTLY is this all gonna work out?”

Hardest part so far with being pregnant: Deciding who to tell and when. I was excited to post about it on my blog but nervous to tell everyone else. Family was elated and while I haven’t made an announcement on Facebook or anything, people I hardly know at work have asked me about it. I’ve chalked it up to over-excitement and have gotten over it. I think a Facebook reveal may come after New Years.

I also had a hard time with worrying all of the time about miscarriage. It has sometimes been hard for me to really enjoy this pregnancy because I keep waiting for the ball to drop. I’m trying to enjoy every day though so if there is a tragedy, I won’t have regrets.

Dumb question from a commenter yesterday:
“What would you do if your kid was ugly?… You’re rude, yada yada.”

Answer: If my kids was ugly I’d ask the doctor to put it back, or ask one of my friends if they wanted it. … Are you kidding me? My kid won’t be ugly, that website is stupid, and it was all fun and games!

Oh, and to all of my red-headed friends out there. I LOVE red heads! Even dated one once! I think we just joke about “read-headed kids” cause sometimes it’s like “where did that come from?!” Hey, I’m black, my hubby is blond. I’d be shocked if our kid had red hair! … They’d still be cute though.

Thanks so much for all of your questions! These were fun! Here’s my MomTV show if you missed it, with more answers! PS: Leave my face out of it.

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Mommy Bee says:

While Preggers:
1. Body Image, and how that changes for you as the months progress.
2. Labor Fears and Birth Plan

After Baby is Born:
1. What you feel towards baby and how it is similar or different from what you imagines.
2. Post Partum Recovery
3. Labor: how was it compared to how you expected it to be

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SUCH good questions. 🙂 I think when you write those posts you should set them up with mr linkys so that others can share their posts. Especially when dealing with something like labor you’re going to find that different women have different feelings, and I think it would be interesting to be able to read a variety of views. 🙂
(BTW, I would have posted in your birth story carnival except I didn’t have a story to tell yet…i should probably go back and put my link now that I have one, eh?!)

Mommy Bee says:

maybe i should add that I’m totally going to take that question list and use it for posting ideas myself anyway, mr linkys or not! LOL!

Stephanie says:

thanks for posting on my blog – my parents would totally sympathize with you on the “where did that red hair come from” thing?? Haha. They are both white with black hair – my older sister was born blonde and then along came me with the red!! My sister’s hair turned dark over the years and mine – still red =)

ps – my mom totally said she thought I was ugly right after birth. We laugh about it now! Is that crazy?!

Emmy says:

Fun to read! Lots of great questions.

I loved this! Thank you for being so open and sharing your answers! : )

Em says:

Thanks for the red-head love! We don’t know where are our ginger came from… But it sure is fun to have a spunky red head!
Loved reading all your answers, and can’t wait to read more as you progress in your pregnancy and get to all the exciting milestones!

Sophia's Mom says:

So great you took the time to answer all these questions! I’m really enjoying following your pregnancy.

http://www.thewannabewahm.com

Jess says:

haha im a total redhead & my biggest fear ever is having a fro’d out redhead! I mean I wouldn’t mind if it was straight redhead or even semi curly but a fro heck no! I have nightmares each of my kids come out with a puffy redhead! They do all have a tint of red though 😉

Wow – that was a lot of questions to answer! Congrats on your pregnancy and good luck with the weeks (and months) to come! If you think hearing the heartbeat is great, just wait – feeling the first movements is the best feeling ever! You’ll love it!! Stopping by from SITS to say hi =)

Thanks for answering my question. I thought my friend was crazy for getting one, but now I’m pregnant, I think it’s totally normal. I’m almost poking my stomach wanting him to move so that I know he’s okay. I know he is like, “geez mommy, let me get some sleep!”

Ana Lee says:

Good answers 🙂

Mammatalk says:

I love your blog. You’re personality is so adorable!

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Fernanda says:

Wow! I am amazed you answered each comment!

FOOD FOR THOUGHT ON POST BABY BODY

I saw this today and wanted to share it with you. Its a post I saw in a forum. Here is the link: http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showpost.php?p=14747489&postcount=5

Here is what this person had to say about her thoughts on her after baby body. I think she has great points and a great perspective.

“It does feel quite a bit like a rite of passage, four weeks postpartum, to sort out the closet. Staring into the mirror as I try on nearly every piece of clothing I own, I’ve had plenty of time to see how pregnancy changed my body. I truly liked my body when I was pregnant, all dramatic curves full of visible life. It’s funny, then, that the part of my body that bothers me the most postpartum is the place where the baby used to live inside me. The lower part of my belly has never really been flat–I’m too curvy and Italian for that–but it used to just fit into the crook of my hand. Then for a few months it was stretched as tight as it could go. Now it’s all soft and squishy and poochy, with a few purplish striations where the baby stretched too hard against the skin. Without the baby, it looks deflated. The lower hem of my shirts get hung up now on my love handles.
I read something recently, I forget where, about celebrities who pose for beautiful pregnancy photos but get tummy tucks and liposuction and breast lifts as soon as the scheduled C-section is over. It’s true, I think, that in this society we do celebrate the pregnant form, but the flab and sagging and stretch marks postpartum are considered something to be ashamed of. I hate that I’m catching myself even remotely buying into that mindset. I thought I was too smart for that.
But honestly, I’m not unhappy with the way that pregnancy has reshaped my body. I understand why it looks the way it does. And I love that my body was able to create and grow my son, and now it’s able to give him all the nourishment that he needs to thrive. And I know that over the next few months I’ll live a healthy lifestyle and my body will return to a more familiar shape, though maybe still different and less girlish than it was before I became a mother.”

Best regards!

Fernanda says:

Hi There,

Just wanted to let you know I started a thinking about TTC blog. I am currently doing tons of research as I plan on TTC so check it out. Hopefully I will post some info on nutrition, gear, etc that will be helpful to you.

Best,

Fernanda @ http://www.lightandfluffy.tumblr.com

Fernanda says:

Wow! I am amazed you answered each comment!

FOOD FOR THOUGHT ON POST BABY BODY

I saw this today and wanted to share it with you. Its a post I saw in a forum. Here is the link: http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showpost.php?p=14747489&postcount=5

Here is what this person had to say about her thoughts on her after baby body. I think she has great points and a great perspective.

“It does feel quite a bit like a rite of passage, four weeks postpartum, to sort out the closet. Staring into the mirror as I try on nearly every piece of clothing I own, I’ve had plenty of time to see how pregnancy changed my body. I truly liked my body when I was pregnant, all dramatic curves full of visible life. It’s funny, then, that the part of my body that bothers me the most postpartum is the place where the baby used to live inside me. The lower part of my belly has never really been flat–I’m too curvy and Italian for that–but it used to just fit into the crook of my hand. Then for a few months it was stretched as tight as it could go. Now it’s all soft and squishy and poochy, with a few purplish striations where the baby stretched too hard against the skin. Without the baby, it looks deflated. The lower hem of my shirts get hung up now on my love handles.
I read something recently, I forget where, about celebrities who pose for beautiful pregnancy photos but get tummy tucks and liposuction and breast lifts as soon as the scheduled C-section is over. It’s true, I think, that in this society we do celebrate the pregnant form, but the flab and sagging and stretch marks postpartum are considered something to be ashamed of. I hate that I’m catching myself even remotely buying into that mindset. I thought I was too smart for that.
But honestly, I’m not unhappy with the way that pregnancy has reshaped my body. I understand why it looks the way it does. And I love that my body was able to create and grow my son, and now it’s able to give him all the nourishment that he needs to thrive. And I know that over the next few months I’ll live a healthy lifestyle and my body will return to a more familiar shape, though maybe still different and less girlish than it was before I became a mother.”

Best regards!

Niki Rowe says:

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