TTC Update and Another Cutest Baby Contest
I got my first “I miss you” comment.. Ok, well it wasn’t exactly like that but it felt nice anyway. Along with raising money for March of Dimes I’ve also taken a break from my usually TMI blogging. Trust me… I’ve been going through withdrawals myself, but at the same time it’s been a nice break. I’m REALLY not thinking about the stress of it all as much since I’m focusing my energy on something else.
That said, I have A LOT to say. This break has given me a lot of time to think, and has brought a lot more questions to my mind. I don’t want to post about them just yet because I don’t want them to get lost in the shuffle of all of the features, nor take away from them, so I’ll go back to my journal-like posts around the 20th. Who knows though… I could slip in a whine session, or announcement in between, we’ll see.
But until then.. expect to see A LOT more features! … No joke! I’m featuring 30 sponsors in the next two weeks, so that’s a couple a day! Tell your friends about it cause the sooner we reach our goal the sooner we can celebrate! Just $1 goes a long way, and you can win a great prize! $15 guarantees you a prize!
But as for my update… Right now I’m just confused about the whole TTC advice thing. 1. I thought Mormons got pregnant easy. I mean, why in the world do they preach on and on about procreating, and make it seem so easy?.. Ok ok, I know it’s not but still. With how many times I’ve had people ask and tell me “when are you having kids?” It’s like they expect it to be like “POOF! Pregnant!”
2. Some say “chart chart chart” and others say “just relax, and don’t think about it.” I don’t know how many people have told me the month they stopped “trying” it happened. Huh, interesting, no? But on the other end people rave about “Taking Charge of Your Fertility.”
As for me, thinking about it too much… Especially the conflicting messages gives me a headache, so I’m “giving up” a little prematurely. I realized all of the tracking and planning still only gives me a 25% chance from any given month, so why over-analyze? … I may change my mind tomorrow, but for today, this is the plan. In another 4-10 months I’ll see a doctor, but until then, I’m not going to send myself into a pre-midlife crisis.
I have General Conference on DVR since I work on the weekends, if you watched, let me know your favorite talks! I’d love to especially listen out for those!
Also, I’m starting another cutest baby contest! You have until next Sunday at 11:59pm CST to email me your photos (only last time’s winners are excluded) to babymakingmachine{at}gmail.com. I’ll run it the last week of the fundraiser and it’ll end the event with a bang! Anyone who’s considered “your baby” can be entered… pets, husbands, older kids, whatever! haha!
The baby boy winner of the contest will win a blog button and an adorable binky clip from CJ’s Fine Designs
The baby girl winner of the contest will win a blog button and a mini album of choice from Hampshire Rose Memories.
Features on both shops coming soon!
PS: If you are one of the winners of the first contest please email me your address info!
It’s a difficult road but this is the start to something to big. All I can say is welcome to motherhood, its ups and downs, round abouts, and sharp curves where, at times, you cant ever see the other side. 🙂
Whichever way you plan to go with the TTC, I gotcha in my prayers. *hug*
And, youre doing a great job for those babies who need ya!
I’ve never heard about mormons conceiving easily haha. If that was the case, there would be a lot more children on the earth. Mormons have the same infertility problems as other people do.
And you have to do what is right for you. Sometimes relaxing and just not trying work, other times charting works. There is no real way to guarantee a pregnancy. If there was, infertility would be a thing of the past.
Good luck, and don’t get too discouraged. Sometimes it just takes time, which is why they have the 6-12 month ttc lapse before going to a doc. Everything has to line up, and sometimes it doesn’t. The odds are still really good, especially if you are ovulating and ur hubby’s sperm is good. 25% is actually a lot.
*hugs*
Well I missed you! 🙂 Sorry I didnt comment it hehe! I think it is best to just go with the flow! Just forget all the planning and let it happen for a month or two!
The whole thing with charting is that you have to know when the “good” days are and to get an idea of how your body works. Temps and CM will give you the best picture (and cervical position – but I don’t actually do that one).
Picking the month you want to have a baby born in is a little odd. Unless you are uber fertile and get pregnant at the drop of the hat, most people don’t have the luxury of picking when they will conceive.
Good luck either way whether you’re trying for the next few months or not!!! And great job on the contests and tweets and sponsorships – you’re pretty amazing!
oh girl I’ve thought all those thoughts and more about ttcing! It took my dh and I 5 yrs to conceive due to me having PCOS and dh just not being ready to jump all the way on board. I lift ya up in prayer hun! HUGZ!
It just seems like members of the Church must be very fertile with all the kids you see at Church on Sunday! What you don’t see are the back stories. I honestly had never thought that much about infertility until I started reading more blogs. I’ve read the stories of many LDS women who took a while or are still trying to conceive. Hang in there! And if you feel like taking a break from all of your contests, we’ll be here to cheer you on!
Thanks for the mini-update. I hope your “not trying” brings your BFP for you. 🙂 As for me, at this point, I feel better being in control, although DH would love for me to take the “wait and see” and “if it happens, it happens” approach. I’ve waited almost 7 years to do this, so I’m about increasing my chances by being aware of my fertility. I’ve only got a couple of days left in my 2www. So far, I tested twice…BFN. But I’ll probably try again in the morning.
Can’t wait to hear more from you on the 20th. I certainly do miss you!
TTC is definitely NOT easy for all Mormons haha. I know many that try for a long time. I think you’re smart to not worry for a few months. Maybe it will happen for you unexpected. General conference has been great! I Wish I had DVR so I could watch it over again without distractions. Hope you have a great weekend!
I just found your blog through another that I read and I am so glad I did!!! I love it!!! I am a follower now too!!!
i don’t know if i have heard of Mormons conceiving easily. i know we have the typical big families that ppl are all over:) Truth be told, no one can really tell you probably what you are looking to hear right now…but you. It sucks to wait you are ready. So far i liked Monson’s talk at the end of the first session today. I always love his talks!
I agree just go with the flow and it will happen when you least expect it to. I know sometimes that’s easier said then done. YGM re: cutest baby contest 🙂
Nothing about motherhood is easy. Really, cut yourself a little slack! The science of conception isn’t exact. With my oldest son, we got pregnant the moment we stopped birth control. With my youngest, I assumed it’d be the same, so imagine my shock and stress when it took three months. We did nothing different than we did the first time, it just took us a little longer to get the baby we were meant to have.
from what I’ve read, it seems like most people that DO go crazy with charting end up relaxing and letting it happen. Personally, I don’t plan on charting but DO plan on figuring out when I am ovulating, maybe use a kit for the first couple of months to get the approximate dates down. After that I plan on trying to have fun with it and live as if I AM pregnant (no alcohol, eating well, exercising). You know what is right for you and your sanity, continued good luck!
I’ve been missing your personal posts too. I’ve also been missing out on the contest action (that’s what a newborn will do to you). I love what you are doing for March of Dimes! of course I am submitting my baby girl into the cutest baby contest. ;-}
p.s. I am a believer in relaxing and letting nature do it’s thang (unless you’ve been ttc for a year or more then go see a doc).
TTC is not easy for anyone (except those very lucky few who fall on the first month!)… It took me 4 months with my first and we REALLY tried and this time around it has taken 4 months also! (except dont mention on my blog because noone knows yet!! eek!)
Your good to relax but at the same time maybe use opks just. we got pregnant this month by using opks as i found out i actually ovulate uch later than i thought (i thought it was day 14, but in fact it was day 17/18)…
🙂
Take care and im sure it will all happen very soon!
Ha. I laugh at the women on here who are all “we tried so hard and it took a whole 4 months!! Baah!” Not that that isn’t torture, it totally is. But that’s what I kept hearing too, so now that I’m on month 7 of trying with no luck, I keep thinking “so, shouldn’t this have happened like 3-6 months ago?” and it makes me feel like a failure. And I’m not, it has nothing to do with me being a failure and everything to do with the Lord having a plan. So what I’m saying is, if it happens next month or next year, it’s the Lord’s plan for you either way. So have faith. And when those pesky women at church ask you if you have kids yet or when you’re planning on having kids right after you just got your millionth BFN, just smile and know you’re not alone.
@Jessie – don’t worry, it took us over a year, you’re not a failure. Or at least you’re less of one than we are 😉
@ Futuremama, I tried charting and found that it stressed me out more than it helped. So I quit, but we still didn’t conceive for a while – it’s all in God’s hands. My friends chart as a method of contraception (which is supposed to be easier than charting to conceive) and they now have three children, only one of whom was planned… lol.
It took us almost two years–and I wished I’d started charting A LOT sooner (or using OPKs), and yes, I am one who recommends “Taking Charge of your Fertility” to all my TTC friends (well, who’ve been trying for awhile, like over 6 months). It’s great for explaining how your cycle works (more in-depth than the high school biology I thought was good enough). I wish I’d read it sooner. I think the whole “just relax and it will happen” thing is just silly. I mean, of course it doesn’t help to stress, but neither does it help to just sit back and expect it to happen at random. That’s what I did the first year, and it wasn’t until closer to that year mark that I thought “okay, I shouldn’t be praying all the time for this to happen, and then not use the resources out there.” Of course, I just stumbled on your blog, and I don’t know how long you’ve been trying. 🙂
And isn’t the “average” about a year, anyways? Funny when applying that to some of these comments… I’d say 4 months is one of those “lucky few”! 🙂
Thank You for joining my blog. I hope to get caught up with yours soon.
TTC is definitely NOT easy for all Mormons haha. I know many that try for a long time. I think you’re smart to not worry for a few months. Maybe it will happen for you unexpected. General conference has been great! I Wish I had DVR so I could watch it over again without distractions. Hope you have a great weekend!
Well I missed you! 🙂 Sorry I didnt comment it hehe! I think it is best to just go with the flow! Just forget all the planning and let it happen for a month or two!
The whole thing with charting is that you have to know when the “good” days are and to get an idea of how your body works. Temps and CM will give you the best picture (and cervical position – but I don’t actually do that one).
Picking the month you want to have a baby born in is a little odd. Unless you are uber fertile and get pregnant at the drop of the hat, most people don’t have the luxury of picking when they will conceive.
Good luck either way whether you’re trying for the next few months or not!!! And great job on the contests and tweets and sponsorships – you’re pretty amazing!