The Trip–Part 3: The Decision

If you missed it or are new, here are parts one and two of “the trip that could change my life.”

St. Maarten. My husband is no stranger to this island. In the first third of my trip I was feeling the urge. The second part… Not so much. In this third and final part our our getaway my eyes were opened.

On the third to last day of the cruise we stopped in the beautiful island of St. Maarten. My husband lived there for 6 months on his mission so a lot of it to him felt like dejavu. He showed me around the streets of the small island and when we passed an alleyway we couldn’t resist going to look at the pretty clear ocean and the beautiful white sand. Then when we got there we couldn’t resist the jet skis… Something he couldn’t experience while he was doing his two years.

It was an exhilarating experience, probably the most fun we’ve both had. I’d never ridden jet skis before and he’s never tried them in the ocean. We took turns driving each other through the waves, but carefully enough not to tip over (is that even possible? We were scared it was).

Later that afternoon we rented a four wheeler and I got a personal tour of the island. We found his old missionary apartment and ate Roti at a Trinidadian stand…. Pure B L I S S ! !

The next few evenings were fun, but they didn’t live up to that day in St. Maarten. Our last night we were alone at our dinner table. I was tearing up knowing our trip was coming to an end. I fell in love with our waiters from Indonesia. I don’t think I’ll ever forget Katut and Made… They made my week! Katut told us about his two daughters and Made told us about his new wife. He said she was working now but when they had kids she would stay home. “Women have special feelings, special love,” he said. He expressed how important it was for women, where he was from, to be there for their children because they have nurturing qualities men don’t have. I could agree.
I teared up thinking about the hard work and dedication these men put in, and all the time spent away from their families to put food on the table. What dedication and selflessness. It really made me think about my many blessings. I get to see my husband everyday. I have a job I enjoy and have the opportunity to get online and blog every night… Sharing my hobby or writing and ranting with the world.

We may not have much when we have kids but I think I could be ok with that. Seeing them really inspired me to get my priorities straight and think about my future as a mother.
So in conclusion, I’m inconclusive. It was a life changing trip in that I fell in love with my husband all over again, it was what a I needed… An escape, a getaway. It gave me 24/7 attention with the man of my dreams and motivated me to be a better wife. It also gave me a lot more questions about motherhood to look out ladies, I’m back!

Brittanie says:

Cruises are great, aren’t they? I think you meet the most amazing people. And it always seems like they give you time to re-evaluate your life. Glad you got some time to think.

I want to go on a cruise 🙂 Glad you had good time 😉

WishTrish says:

Hey! Just dropping in from SITS, to say, “Hello!” and “WELCOME!!!” I’m so glad you are with us!

So cool that you went back to where your hubby served. I think that is awesome! My hubs joined the church when he was 20 and we were married in the temple a year from his baptism day. I look forward to growing old with him and serving a mission together someday. That will be grand!

Anyhow, I will keep reading! I’m so glad you found SITS! It’s a joy to see other LDS Moms (Yes, sharpei-mixes count!) in the blogging world!

Bloggy Love to you!

April says:

stopping in to welcome you to SITS!!

Randi says:

It looks like such a great time. Isn’t it neat when you meet random people that make such an impact on you, or your views, or your life?

tara @ kidz says:

Sounds amazing! Just what the marriage doctor ordered!

Jamie says:

So glad you had such a great trip and got to have some fun with your husband! Welcoming you from SITS…what a great blog you have hear 🙂 Hope you have a great week Jennifer!

Rachael says:

hi there! i am stopping by from SITS to give a warm welcome! it sounds like a trip that gave you just what you needed 🙂 have a fantastic tuesday!

What a wonderful memory. I’ve always wanted to visit St. Maarten. And Katut and Made sound pretty cool too!

Tiffany says:

I have some wonderful memories of a St. Maarten trip… what a beautiful place!

Welcome to SITS- thanks for jumping in and commenting like crazy- that’s what its all about!

Mamarazzi says:

LDS here too…

Stopping by to welcome you to SITS! You are going to love this bloggy playground filled with amazing women!!

The Rambler says:

Part of the Welcome wagon of SITS gals and wanted to stop by and say hello.

I’d love a trip away with the hubby. Lord knows we need some one on one time.

Hope to see you around SITS!

sandy says:

Stopping by as from The SITS welcome wagon! It’s great to meet you!
I hope to see you again soon:0)

Mandy says:

Welcome to SITS, it’s always fun to meet a new SITStsa!:) I’m glad you had such a great trip, it sounded fabulous. I gave up a lot to become a mother and I can honestly say I’ve never regretted it–I got back a lot more than I gave up. Yes, it’s hard and yes, sometimes it’s crazy, but I have never felt more satisfied, loved, and encouraged. I still go on at least one trip alone with my husband a year (in September–Costa Rica for a week, this week we’re going to Seattle for a long weekend) since he’s my #1 priority. 🙂

Again, it looks like the SITS welcome wagoneers have been here already.. I’ll just say welcome anyway..

Okay lady you asked for it.. advice that is. I’ve got four kids. I never planned to have any. I wanted ‘more’, the career, travel all the things that non-moms seem to get. Then at 23 I Ryan desided he needed to be born. Boy howdy I had no idea how much life was going to change. I love being a mom, and I’ve found over the years that if you work really hard you can sometimes strike a ballance between motherhood and womanhood. No they are not the same. At the ripe old age of 37 I now have four kids, I’m working on a book, I’ve been published (a big dream of mine), I own my own business and for the most part life is great. So my advice is go with your heart. It’s not a sacrafice it’s a choice. And besides the two of you are just too darn good looking NOT to bring children into this world, you OWE the rest of us that!!!

But you CAN have both, my love. I promise you, you can. It’s hard work. But it’s possible to be a good wife, a good mother, a strong career woman, and happy. Of all these things, the most important is happy, because that dictates how well a job you do with the other three things.

I can’t wait to see what the future has in store for you and your lovely husband!

Jaime says:

It’s fun reading about your trip since I won’t be going on one anytime soon! St. Maarten sounds amazing! Thanks for sharing.

Lisa M says:

Dropping by from SITS! Sounds like you had a wonderful vacation! Reconnecting with your husband is always a good thing, and I’m glad it helped you to figure out what you wanted 🙂

Brandy says:

Welcome to SITS! It’s always nice to meet a new blogger – especially one that loves cruising like I do. It’s been a year since our last one and I’m already “jonesing” for the next.

Stop by and say HI! sometime.

Angela says:

Ahhhh, the ocean and the white sand. Your making me jealous. It’s nothing like getting away from everyone to have time alone with the one you love.

Great post and I look forward to seeing what the future brings to you and you husband.

greedygrace says:

Welcome to SITS! We’re happy to have you!

This is a great blog, I’m loving it! I have one little girl, a son that I lost through a failed adoption, and I’m struggling with whether or not to add to my family again. I’ll definitely be back for more advice!

K says:

I love that you said you fell in love with your husband again. I love it when that happens.

I hope you find a decision and feel peaceful with it.

Welcome to SITS! I hope you enjoy being part of the group (I really do).

Veronica Lee says:

Hi Jennifer! Welcome to MBC!

Eudea-Mamia says:

Oh, I need a whole afternoon to dig through your blog!! Very cool stuff.

I’ll be back – Welcome to SiTS!!

Hello and welcome to SITS! I hope you find you enjoy it as much as we do!

There is nothing like being a mommy. My baby is 9 months old and inbetween the thinking I might going crazy and changing diapers I just have to take a break and realize…This is amazing! He is such a wonderful blessing to my life and I couldn’t imagine life without him. Once its time you will soon learn this great lesson too!

Hi. Visiting from SITS. Cool blog.

how fun! I so need a vacation!

Anonymous says:

I’m certainly not trying to judge – but I got a little confused by seeing your wardrobe choices on your vacation. You did get married in the temple, right?
I just didn’t notice any garments in several pictures. I am curious as to your opinion on this matter since you seem to be so open minded and willing to answer questions honestly.
I really hope this doesn’t bother you, I am just curious!

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I'm a former journalist, and lifelong creator striving to make the world a better place. This is the space where I share my journey in making the most of every day by cherishing our individuality and celebrating our differences.

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