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The Talk

After my last post I really started to think… A lot. And the more I thought about it the more I talked about it, and the more I talked about it the more emotional I got. I’m not sure if my hormones are going haywire or if it’s just me but my mind has shifted from thinking about “the urge” to thinking more seriously about the whole baby makin’ thing. I’m looking more seriously at my baby bucket list thing now too because the time line which I pictured myself being able to complete it is quickly shrinking. That’s right… You’re eyes aren’t betraying you, I think I really will need to start looking for one of those time lines with sperm swimming towards an egg. No, I’m not kidding if you find one let me know, I want it… Because I may be exchanging my remanding 2 years of birth control for something a little less effective. I’m not going to say when in case I change my mind tomorrow. But if I find that widget I keep talking about maybe I will. *smile* Ok, maybe not.

But I am excited, because now I feel like I have a date… A plan, and this whole parenting this is starting to feel less like an “us vs them” thing to me, and more like a reality. One thing that was left in the comments section that really struck me was “I think it’s one of those things of when you’re ready, you’ll know,” The Blond Duck said. “Kinda of like getting married. You want to be as sure as you were walking down the aisle.”

That really struck home with me. Never have I been so sure about something in my life more than I’m sure of marrying my husband. I know there’s a difference between being nervous and scared, and being unsure. I’m not feeling unsure, not this time–But that is scary.

Hmm, the more I think about it the more I think I may not tell you when it’s baby makin’ time because then there’s no surprise! I like surprises! Plus, I think if I talk about it too much I’ll either 1. Not be able to get pregnant for like 6 six years or 2. It will be LAME when I do, because it’ll just be like “Finally… You’ve been talking about it forever!”

I will tell you it’s not like tomorrow or anything… And if things don’t take right away we’ll be cool with that too. And hopefully I won’t change my mind tomorrow.

Hmm, what do you think? Did you share your baby makin’ timeline?

Oh, but I have to tell you a funny story but warning: it could be TMI.

When we were having this “Talk” hubby said “Well, we’re going to have to start doing it more cause at this rate it would take us about eight years.”


I’ve been waiting for you to say this. Your posts are always so unsure, but at the bottom I can see a little bit of “knowing”. But just remember it isn’t something you can think about and it will suddenly come to light.

It’s like falling in love. It’s a GIANT leap of faith and you just have to know that it’s going to be ok. It will be hard, but it will be easy as well.

But don’t do it just because everyone else you know is having kids or anything. You have to do this for you!

Haha, bless Brian’s heart! That is so funny.!. I love that he said that. I’m excited for you.!. This is great.

Young Momma says:

I don’t know about a spermy ticker, but I will say that in *my* mind, you’re over thinking it.

I don’t know. I know a lot of women who have made sure that their lives and careers were in place before getting pregnant. But you’ve said you’re already there, right?? Married, degree, the whole eight…. 😉 (we’ll minus one for the baby lol)

I think it’s something you have to just know. Yes, you want to be a mom. Is there anything you feel you MUST do before having a baby? Like that trip to Figi?? lol Well, if not, then what are you waiting for??

I enjoy reading your blog and think it’s awesome that you’re being super aware of what it takes to be a mommy – but just know that you will know when you’re ready.

LOL your Hubby’s comment sounds like he was talking to my Hubby LOL

I wish you all the luck in the baby making journey, and I think you are ready in most ways. It’s just that little What if I miss out on this and that, on back of your mind that is kind of nagging you to double think your baby decisions.

But I’m positive when time comes and you find out you’re pregnant you’ll be ready and happy!!!

Jenna says:

I’m sure Dillon would agree with Brian! Haha.

When we finally decided we were both ready to take the baby plunge, it just felt right. Leading up to it: we were both intensely scared. There is no turning back once sperm meets egg. But once we both agreed it was time, the burden seemed to be lifted. We felt at ease and just knew it would be OK.

Having a baby IS just as serious as getting married. It’s a lifelong commitment and it’s NOT easy. But it is so rewarding. The joy your own child brings to your life is incomparable to the joy of anything else, besides your marriage. Actually, I think they go hand in hand, but that’s my opinion.

I like Lilypie for my tickers, but I don’t think they have any spermies. 🙂

Jaime says:

Wow, what an epiphany! Best of luck in your upcoming baby makin’ adventures! 🙂

Nichole says:

Yay for you!!

(and I sooooo didn’t share my timeline. . . still haven’t.)

Um, I’m still not ready–and my kids are 9 and 6. You are NEVER “ready” to have kids… bills get due, jobs happen, you want bigger better things, you want everything to be perfect. And life is never perfect. Not perfect enough for kids, at least. Don’t walk into it willy nilly, but don’t think that there’s going to come some “magic” day when you’re going to feel like the stars are aligned, the planets are in order, and the gods are conspiring with, instead of against, you. That baby may not come when YOU want him/her to, but he/she will be right on time.

mzzmyrick says:

Hey I’m giving a talk this Sunday and I ran across this paragraph and my thoughts turned to you. (I’m procrastinating can you tell??!) Not sure if you’ve seen it or not. I thought it an interesting perspective. I’ve been pondering the whole thought of when would be a good time for kids, even for us. Wondering did we rush it? And my personal answer is no. Even though we struggle with this and that, I wouldn’t give up the time I’ve had with my son for any additional money, comfort or security.

Hey on another thought, as I read your baby bucket list I realized that those are things you can accomplish even after baby is here. Or are those things you definitely want done before? I need to find you bucket list post… need to stop procrastinating.

Dallin H. Oaks, “‘The Great Plan of Happiness’,” Ensign, Nov 1993, 72

The Savior taught that we should not lay up treasures on earth but should lay up treasures in heaven (see Matt. 6:19–21). In light of the ultimate purpose of the great plan of happiness, I believe that the ultimate treasures on earth and in heaven are our children and our posterity.

President Kimball said, “It is an act of extreme selfishness for a married couple to refuse to have children when they are able to do so” (Ensign, May 1979, p. 6). When married couples postpone childbearing until after they have satisfied their material goals, the mere passage of time assures that they seriously reduce their potential to participate in furthering our Heavenly Father’s plan for all of his spirit children. Faithful Latter-day Saints cannot afford to look upon children as an interference with what the world calls “self-fulfillment.” Our covenants with God and the ultimate purpose of life are tied up in those little ones who reach for our time, our love, and our sacrifices.

mzzmyrick says:

J,
It’s me again. Obviously I’m getting a lot done! LOL. It’s just been a trip for me because my topic is The Plan of Salvation, and you wouldn’t believe all the talks and articles I’ve seen with reference to women and raising families. I’m getting hit with it left and right.

That and how Satan isn’t a nice guy 😉

Beth says:

My husband and I are TTC as well. But, no we’ve chosen not to share that with most people, especially our families. We both agree that we REALLY want it to be a surprise. Of course, the road to conception can be quite comical so we have however, shared the news with a few close friends.

Of course, it up to you and your husband to decide what you’ll do. But, I’ll be interested in finding out what you’ve decided!

…and just so you know, my husband told me something like this: “Unless you’re planning on having a child through immaculate conception, we’d better start working.” LOL

devri says:

oh sweetheart, I never shared, because it just happened. but everyone does it there one way, and nothing is wrong with it.. It is all you and your hubby, no one else, ok maybe the blogworld.. lol

LLnL says:

We are waiting too, but it is hard. I don’t think that I will share my timeline because it is so complicated that I will just share when we are successful. However now that I’m blogging I can’t help myself, I probably share it all, we’ll see.

I think it is incredible that you are sharing your journey. I appreciate it cause I reminds me that I’m not alone.

Janna Bee says:

I didn’t tell anyone that we were trying for a second child. It was really fun to see the shock on people’s faces! That being said, you should do what you are comfortable doing on your blog!

mzzmyrick says:

Hey I’m giving a talk this Sunday and I ran across this paragraph and my thoughts turned to you. (I’m procrastinating can you tell??!) Not sure if you’ve seen it or not. I thought it an interesting perspective. I’ve been pondering the whole thought of when would be a good time for kids, even for us. Wondering did we rush it? And my personal answer is no. Even though we struggle with this and that, I wouldn’t give up the time I’ve had with my son for any additional money, comfort or security.

Hey on another thought, as I read your baby bucket list I realized that those are things you can accomplish even after baby is here. Or are those things you definitely want done before? I need to find you bucket list post… need to stop procrastinating.

Dallin H. Oaks, “‘The Great Plan of Happiness’,” Ensign, Nov 1993, 72

The Savior taught that we should not lay up treasures on earth but should lay up treasures in heaven (see Matt. 6:19–21). In light of the ultimate purpose of the great plan of happiness, I believe that the ultimate treasures on earth and in heaven are our children and our posterity.

President Kimball said, “It is an act of extreme selfishness for a married couple to refuse to have children when they are able to do so” (Ensign, May 1979, p. 6). When married couples postpone childbearing until after they have satisfied their material goals, the mere passage of time assures that they seriously reduce their potential to participate in furthering our Heavenly Father’s plan for all of his spirit children. Faithful Latter-day Saints cannot afford to look upon children as an interference with what the world calls “self-fulfillment.” Our covenants with God and the ultimate purpose of life are tied up in those little ones who reach for our time, our love, and our sacrifices.

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