I can think of a bunch of reasons why I should have a kid right now, and about a dozen reasons why I shouldn’t. But the #1 reason why I can’t have a kid right now… I told my best friend I’d wait for her.
Shannon and I have been best friends since the fourth grade… And I mean BEST friends. She met my husband before any of my family did (and lucky for him she approved).
We don’t talk on the phone as much as we like but when we do we can easily pick up where we left off. I was her matron of honor, and she will be my children’s Godmother. We’ve lasted though moves across the country, and rare vacations to visit each other. Basically there’s LOTS of history… And we told each other we’d have kids together…. Well, not together but you know what I mean. We’re hoping we’ll at least be living in the same state when we have kids, and that we can go through the whole pregnancy process together.
When I agreed to the pact I had no objections. I was already married and she was dating her now husband at the time. I knew it would be about five years before my husband and I would even be THINKING about having kids, and she’d be bit by the baby bug shortly after getting married and VIOLA, we’d be ready at the same time!
Well, as my five year mark is quickly approaching, and my baby fever is reaching a boil, neither of us are thinking of really making the plunge. I think if she jumped I’d jump, but she’s not going to jump with me yet. We’re SO much alike… Even when it comes to this topic. Both of us crave stability, reassurance, knowledge of the fact that we’ll be able to EAT, and both of us love our career choices.
Shannon will be a great, world class veterinarian one day. I’m sure I’ll be interviewing her about some innovative procedure she invented on my nationally televised talk show… But until then, we are both trying to get by as students/amateurs and find the right time to jump into the game of double dutch aka parenting.
…But I think my time line is shrinking at a faster rate than hers.
If you couldn’t tell, I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately. I told her about my blog but it scared her… I can’t have kids yet. DUH!! Why am I even thinking about it? We’re suppose to do this together… Not exactly, but you know what I mean.