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The Perfect Age–Poll Results

In my quest to find the perfect age to have a child I asked many of you! 188 people voted, and here are the results:
Age Results

20-25
59 (31%)
25-29
93 (49%)
30-35
31 (16%)
35-39
4 (2%)
Older
1 (0%)

I’m with the group that voted 25-29 but I obviously don’t know from experience, I’m just guessing. I’m REALLY surprised how many think younger than 25 is the perfect age, but happy to know that if I did have a kid now 31% of you wouldn’t think I’m crazy. My mom said she felt 30 was the perfect age for her… That’s when she had her 4th child though! I wonder if that’s the opinion of several women who had their first child real young and had others several years later.

I’d love to talk to the one person who said older than 39! Talk about a minority!

Why did you choose the age you did? And if you didn’t, tell me what you would have chosen. I’m really curious to know what most people see as the perfect age. I know it’s different for everyone, but I’m interested in knowing an average agreement.

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Hello! Ok, on another topic now. I’m thinking of starting a second post every night with my feelings of that day on the parenting thing because seriously, I swear, every day I have a different experience and different emotions about the whole thing. I don’t want to bombard everyone with a million posts every week so for now I’m just going to add it to the end of the post of the day.

Today I feel exhausted. I’m really mad at myself because I can’t stay awake and all I want to do is sleep. That’s not a bad thing right? Well it is if you want to BLOG! I haven’t been thinking much about babies today. Oh wait… I did once while I was at WalMart. I saw this gift card with cute little baby booties on them and got all dewy-eyed.

I’m not feeling like I want kids today. Nope, I’m too tired for kids today. Maybe tomorrow I’ll change my mind.


Mammatalk says:

Oops! I missed this poll. Well, I had always planned to start my family in my late twenties. Then I hit my late twenties and I was still single. Ooops. So, I had my kids at 34 and 37. Worked for me. I think that your experience and stage of life has more to do with it than an actual age. I am so glad I waited b/c I am more mature and I had ten years of teaching experience under my belt. I had all that time to practice on other people’s kids. Although, I don’t think I had the energy I used to! Also, I know I am going to be a tad bit grey when they graduate. Pros and cons with everything. Good luck with your venture.

Wow I am surprised at the 20-25 range…I didn’t know who I was at 20-23, but I guess each family has to do what works for them. I agree with the comment above…I probably won’t have kids until 32+.

Love your blog!

Mallory says:

I’m only 21, and I have a 10 month old. I think having kids young (20-25) is the best. We know, medically, that having kids after you turn 36 is considered “high risk”. I don’t necessarily agree with that, but it is something to consider. (Especially because I want at least 6 kids, and I want to have them before I’m “high risk”.) My mom was a young mom, and she loves it, because she is still young enough to enjoy her grandkids! I, personally and as an LDS woman, feel that marriage and families are so extremely important that it doesn’t make sense to wait. If you find your mate and get married, we are commanded to multiply and replenish the earth. (But, the decision IS to be made between the husband, wife and God, so I try not to pass judgement on those that wait.)

I am also trying to prepare myself mentally, emotionally and physically to have a baby someday and I am the same — one day I am SO gung ho about it and the next I am thinking “no way!” It is quite a roller coaster, but I know that is normal. I know i’ll never feel 100% ready, but that is half the fun of just diving in!

I was really surprised by the results as well. It always seems like the majority is the 30-35 group. I thought it was really interesting to see that it was third and also how high the 20-25 group was. Now I wonder if the 20-25 yr old was so high because there were a lot of LDS voters, or if its not just largely us (LDS) like it feels sometimes. I myself was a 25-29 year old, but I am also already married, and like someone else mentioned if you did not get married until your late twenties or later it changes your children plans.

Jessica says:

I had my first (and only so far) at 24. At the time I thought I was totally ready and had waiting long enough. But now, I would have been ok it we had waited a few more years. Either way, it all works out in the end.

Goldibug says:

I got pregnant with my first baby when I was 18. He was born when I was 19. The pregnancy was planned and I was married. I would never change the decision to have him at such a young age! He is so precious and I am very grateful he came when he did. It forced me to look at how important life is and to grow up more. Once he was born I realized that I acted to much like a child and that it was time for me to grasp the reality of being an adult.

I had my daughter when I was 20. I got married at 19, and I was ready for a family. I wouldn’t change it for anything. Plus, since I had her earliesh, I get to play around with her before my back and knees give out 😉

Jenna says:

I had my first at 20…it still seems young to me! But I definitely wouldn’t want to wait until after 25. I want to be done having kids by 30!

Cecette says:

I was 23 with my first baby and hope to be around 25 with my second. It just worked for our family. Also I don’t think you are ever 100% committed to the timing of getting pregnant. I know I wanted kids and I knew I wanted to be almost done before 30. So after getting married we decided that we were not going to decide when our first baby was. Now we are more proactive because I don’t want them too close together.
love your blog!!

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