You know what my mom would say…”their just jealous!” DON’T pay any attention to what they say! No matter what the present is calle you DESERVE it…you are a HARD working woman who just wants to do things your way! And planning it out is perfect! UGGGHGH to some people..ignore it you are a beautiful, intelligent, generous and loving woman! you don’t need those comments I am glad you deleted them and blocked them:)

haha… love your comment Danielle 🙂

I agree with you that there should be a lot “more planned and thought out pregnancies”.

There is a lot to plan and think about and while you can’t plan or control or predict everything, educating yourself about the options and choices and possibilities will help you make better decisions in the future. Also, all the resources you are gathering for yourself will help others who are thinking about starting a family.

A digital SLR is a great things to have when you have a baby. So whether you call it a push present for you or you just buy it, you should get one!

Wow 🙂 I hope you get all the presents you could possibly want : ) and you are so right, the baby is the best present ever. Of course, you will definitely need a cool camera to document all the special moments that are to come : )

Let them hate. Your blog is wonderful and you’re better off without the trolls. Push presents are always going to be a point of contention but I see no reason why. If you want one, great. I think your choice was awesome. No diamond earrings for you! Lol. I’ve seen many women choose far more selfish things. Cameras are a great thing to have, especially with a new baby. Plan on bloggy sister. It helps you keep your eyes on the prize!

Awww I’m sorry you were trolled FM. Some moms are so self righteous and hateful. I think you are overplanning but it’s so cute and fun to read because you write well so I don’t mind 😉 You and your husband are adorable. Don’t change a thing about your writing and planning. It’s YOUR life, not anonymous’. And just in case you’re wondering, I got diamond earrings for my push present 🙂

I just don’t understand why people feel it is their place to say your blog is silly or premature or “wrong” in some way. I hope you never feel the need to apologize for over-thinking or over-planning! Why do other people care? And why would anyone be so rude as to imply that you drive your husband insane? You are passionate about something, and you write about it. There is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with that. Yes, you are a bit obsessive, but the topic here is CREATING A HUMAN LIFE FROM SCRATCH, which is pretty much one of the most life-changing amazing things we can do! It certainly warrants some passion, planning, and even obsession.

As if anyone even has the right to tell you what you can and can’t write about! I love this blog, because I also am married and we aren’t sure when we want kids yet. Reading your entries always gives me something to think about. If someone isn’t interested or can’t relate then they don’t have to read it, but how SELFISH for them to assume that just because your blog isn’t relatable for THEM, then it must not be relatable for ANYONE. They are just one person, the world doesn’t revolve around them. There are many other people in other stages of life. There are plenty of blogs that already deal with motherhood and infertility. Let people like us have somewhere to go too.

You tell ’em girl!

Oh whatever! I can’t even concieve (I had hysterectomy when I was 21), and I enjoy reading your blog! It’s your blog, write whatever you want. It’s the same for my blog, some people find it offensive with the stuff I write sometimes, but who cares. There are always those cowardly haters out there who can do nothing better than leave anonymous comments. Keep writing, and enjoy it!!!

Oh..in my culture, we don’t get diamond for engagement ring..do I go around telling people it’s selfish when a girl dreams of getting a diamond ring?? Do I tell people that it puts more financial strain when you are already planning a wedding (that will definitely cost some!)? Do we go around telling those excited girls who are planning their weddings that they are being obsessive by planning so much?? NO!!! Having a baby definitely needs more planning than a wedding! so you go on planning! Every baby in this planet deserves well-planned parents!!

I can’t imagine any woman who has gone through labor thinking that a labor gift is a bad idea. I can’t see anything wrong with a gift to recognize how amazing and wonderful you are, and to acknowledge the fabulous job you just did to bring a new life into the world.

Plus, once the baby is born, it is nice to have a little something special to remind you that you are as special AS A WOMAN as you are as a mama.

P.S. I vote for the earrings AND the camera.

Wow I hate trolls. I think that yes a healthy baby is the best present you could ask for. But I also think that a little kudos from other people would be nice too. Heck you just pushed a watermelon out of you…I don’t think hubby will be doing that anytime soon. But at the same time I don’t expect my husband to give me a present for it, but if your hubby is willing to and you want one I say go for it. I think that yes the camera is expensive but since you aren’t one of those people who got married ASAP in college AND had a baby before your first anniversary sans planning that you can afford a vacation or a camera.

I totally understand in your last post what you are saying about picking between the camera and the vacation. I’m guessing you can afford to do both but if you do both then you won’t have any money in your savings account. My hubby and I are the same way. We can afford to do fun stuff but we can’t afford to splerg on two big things because we wouldn’t have any money in our savings account for a few months. For example I will be going on a vacation to British Columbia in a week to see some of my old friends. My hubby and I wanted to go to Disney World too but since I’m going on this vacation we decided we will do something else that is less expensive so we don’t wipe out our savings account. This is what responsible people do…they plan. And yes sometimes you can’t always plan for everything but when you can it makes life just that much easier.

I’ve personally written you an email and have commented before. I love your blog! You remind me so much of myself and your PUBLIC planning is going to do wonders for my PRIVATE planning. I feen for your next blog post day in and day out. It’s like having a favourite tv show. Next time someone leaves you commments like those just respond by saying ” HI HATERS” lol 😉

Wow! I read your blog and have never been offended by anything that you’ve posted. Then again, I’m very thick skinned and don’t give a @#$% about what people think of me. It was also the first I’d ever heard of a push present. You are entitled to do what you want, however you want to. This is your experience, no one elses!

Plan on sister! I am mommy of four and two out of the four were not planned pregnancies. I admire you passion for planning this major event bound to take place in your life. I hope you get your camera. I can’t put mine down. I documented my preganancies, then the babies as they grew. Everyone has a personal scrapbook and babybook to document all their accomplishments. I wouldn’t have it any other way! I even went as far as getting 3D/ 4D ultrasound pictures and videos done in my third trimester. I love it!

I’ve never experienced trolls either, but this is the web. If you disagree with something no one has a pistol to your temple saying “Read on” Leave the page. Mama said if you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say anything at all! I live by that!
Good Luck Baby Making!

Ridiculous!! I have been seeing this happen more and more to the blogs I read. There are so many haters out there who are jealous and out to get those who have things that they simply can not have. If you want the push present, and want to label it that way, that is YOUR decision! I find it totally appaling that people are so immature as to put “anonymous” comments. If you don’t like what you’re reading, then leave. It’s that plain and simple. Insecure people are out to get others who seem to have things going well for them- knocking you down makes them feel better about themselves. It’s so unfortunate and can really ruin a good-hearted person’s day. Just know that you have a lot of followers out there who are in the same boat as you, learning from you (Me!), and just enjoy reading what you have to say!

Wow.. I know there have been times when I have read blogs and thought, huh.. but you know I just don’t leave a comment then. Something our mother’s all taught us, if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.
Sorry you have to deal with all that.

Those people have forgotten one of the most important things about being a mom.. you have to take care of yourself too, otherwise you will have nothing left to give your kids and they want everything!

So you get your push present and LOVE it!

Okay so let me first start by saying being pregnant is in no way shape or form easy and the better you can plan to make it work for you – at the right time, in the right place, and to keep yourself sane WHY NOT?! How many woman can actually say they planned everything? I wish I could have but I don’t regret a thing. Granted sometimes we can’t plan everything to a “T” and sometimes we are fools in planning because God has something else completely different planned for us BUT when we can WHY NOT?!

I’ve never TTC before so I have no idea how it is for people except for what I read and
I too wonder why some of the mommy blogging community is so hard on those who aren’t as traditional or have the same thoughts as them. Silly, I say. Your blog is so unique and Im sure many other woman find it VERY informative and entertaining. I have an aunt who has no children that found your blog through my follow friday on Twitter and loves to read it now.

As far as the financial strain, too much planning, lack of mental & emotional health, and selfishness “they” are claiming you don’t have I tell them to calm down ’cause I see it as just the opposite. I see you as being very dedicated and I think you’ll be an amazing mother.

All of these woman and maybe men come to your blog and read it apparently and your writing and thoughts provoked such emotion that they had to leave comments – so pat yourself on the back.

Wow…”how sweet” they took the time to comment on your blog…they do love you :-)..LOL

How awesome..the posts and responses (Today) We all are entitled to our little niche of the world and the fact that they stopped by your niche long enough to comment..well….! Good Job girl! You must be doing something right…and don’t fret about the “un-followers”…they come and go, hopefully bringing and keeping in a core reader group to stay with you as long as you like…That’s my hope anyway..

So sorry to hear about the meanie comments. Some people just need to keep their thoughts as THOUGHTS! I’m all for expressing your opinion when it’s helpful, but some people are just out to be MEAN and ruin your day. The worst part is that they write a hurtful comment, press publish, and forget about it. So you’re left with the hurt feelings that you can’t get out of your head.

On a happier subject, I have a feeling you would LOVE yoga. I think it’s such a fabulous idea for you to get into it before and during your pregnancy. Good luck with it!

Im expecting a push present, absolutely, its traditional for an eternity ring – diamonds of course- to be given on the birth of the first child. I asked for something else, but Mr said eternity ring or nothign… and im not one to say no to diamonds!

You tell ’em. I don’t allow anonymous comments. Cowards!

By the way, I think a camera is a GREAT idea! That’s exactly what I’d want for a push present, personally.

WOW,WOW,WOW. Trolls, SAHM, push presents. There is so much to learn.

All I can say in support of what you are doing and what you are trying to do is live your life! Everyone has an opinion, a comment, advise. That’s what filters are for. Trust me folks are full of opinions about me, my choices, my life and what matters is what’s right & true for me. I posted the four agreements two days ago. If you have time please read it [if you haven’t already done so] and keep it moving. DO YOU and keep your head up.

The fact that you went through the trouble to respond to the aforementioned “trolls” speaks volumes about your character. Keep your head up you baby making machine you 😉

What is a SAHM?

Obviously, the haters are coming out because you doing something right! Since when is planning considered OBSESSIVE?! Oooooh, dont get me started on that, cause I could rant all day on that topic alone (ive been made fun of for my planning too and I just wish i could tell everyone who thinks that to shove it up their…woooosaaaaah *breathe in, breathe out* lol ) Lawd, I wish I WOULD get some cowardly comments on my blog like that (i dont post enough to warrant that lolol)!

Dont you love it when strangers wanna come and tell you all about you but dont know you from a can of paint? ARGH!

YOur blog is fun.
BLog on.
TRolls be damned.

Wow, I had to catch up and go back a few posts. I cannot get over some of the comments. I think you are perfectly in the right to think about having a baby way before you have one or even get preggo. I have thought,dreamed and planned for my baby since I was 14 years old. I think you have a very motherly heart. (if that can be a real word!) Who says you cannot yearn for something you know you were made to be?

I’m not a mom, nor am I a long time reader of your blog but I am a blogger and I get trolls too! I try not responding to them as I know most of them (I’m a volunteer puppy raiser of service dogs and most readers are other raisers) but sometimes it’s hard to ignore them!

I’ve got to say, my husband and I have been married a year this weekend and I just turned 21. We’re not in any place to have a baby although we’d both like to be parents when we’re ready financially and stable. I’ve got to say, though, I don’t think you’re immature in having this blog and researching everything! One of my favorite things (besides looking at dog stuff /wink/) is researching cloth diapers, reading pregnancy blogs and spending time with my 3 year old niece and 8 month old nephew!

I’m sorry you’re dealing with blogger trolls, they’re exremely obnoxious and annoying and no one wants to deal with them! I greatly enjoy your blog though!

O.K. so I’m late to the party, sorry, I was off at some other blogs (theartofmanliness.com)trying to balance out all the estrogen over here.
Couple things,
I may have said this already but if ya’ll want to do a push present than fine. Your argument that a woman deserves one if thats what she wants is a little off in that wanting does not equal deserving. I want lots of things I will never deserve, like an Olympic gold medal.
As to the trolls, delete away…maybe.
unless you go private, blogs are a public forum. You are posting and inviting comments. If you state your opinion be ready for those of others, no mater how rudely stated.
Think of it as standing on a soap box in a town square, if ya don’t want attention, get off the box and be quiet (I’m not suggesting you do that).
Now after all that, I delete coments from my blog all the time. My blog is written to purther a specific purpose. I craft the message in hopes of conveying a specific idea or in hopes that understanding will be gained. Occassionally there are coments that go against, or would hinder this understanding and consequentially, I delete them. You are surely in the Mommy blog arena where some want all to be sift and fuzzy… and many have a strict guidline of what is soft and fuzzy. Play nice if you like, but don’t take trolling personal. Trolls are Trolls because they lurk. They lurk because they are angry and abnormal. They rarely have friends. Taking them seriously would be like finding the craziest person you have ever met, shooting him/her up with crack, then asking and taking inportant life advice….
Bad idea.

Anonymous comment #2 said “You’re not even pregnant and planning your push present? I’ve never heard of anyone so obsessed with being pregnant before. “

HA! This person obviously doesn’t know me. Or anyone who has purposefully tried to conceive, for that matter.

Linked over here from MyBrownBaby and have enjoyed reading. Thanks for sharing!

Some people! While everyone is entitled to their own opinion so are you. I read a book while I was expecting and it mentioned a “push Present” (don’t remember the name they used) but I loved the idea! I think every women deserves something from dinners, spa day or even said camera. that’s actually between you and your family. I hope you got your camera! its well deserved!

I also wanted to say that I’m also an over-planner but you can never be too over-prepared. Nothing went as planned with my daughters birth-day but because I did my research I felt a little more prepared than not at all!

good hell. have those 2 ever pushed out a baby? any one that does that deserves way more than a digital camera. it is hard work, and even though the baby in the end is the best gift it is always nice to feel appreciated. and I think it is great to actually plan to have a baby!

So sorry to hear about the meanie comments. Some people just need to keep their thoughts as THOUGHTS! I’m all for expressing your opinion when it’s helpful, but some people are just out to be MEAN and ruin your day. The worst part is that they write a hurtful comment, press publish, and forget about it. So you’re left with the hurt feelings that you can’t get out of your head.

On a happier subject, I have a feeling you would LOVE yoga. I think it’s such a fabulous idea for you to get into it before and during your pregnancy. Good luck with it!

Infertility does not give a person an excuse to be as rude and insensitive to others as they wish. Neither do ‘pregnancy hormones’. I’ve been through BOTH of those scenarios- hardcore- so it’s not like I don’t ‘Get it’. However, we always have control over what we say/do. A lot of women (myself included sometimes) just love to be the martyr and infertility can really feed that drive- IF a person allows it to.

That said, I also think ‘push presents’ are lame if labeled as such. I don’t blame you one bit for wanting that nice camera to get good photos of the much anticipated baby- I bought a good camera right before our twins were born and I’m so glad I did. You will be to so I say go for it in terms of making the purchase. I see nothing overly materialistic about your desire for the camera.

I think the irritant to people who read the post is the labeling of the purchase as a ‘push present’. I’ve got no problem with the purchase, I just wouldn’t use that label. In my mind a ‘push present’ is something one of those old, creepy rich guys buys for the barbie doll wife he purchased who’s 30 years younger than him. It just kinda conjures that image for me. Maybe others as well.

PS- I am NOT the annonymous commentor(s). I always own my words and TRY to respectfully disagree when I must. I’m like you- I have no problem with differences of opinion but don’t want to be insulted in my blog living room either!

Wow I hate trolls. I think that yes a healthy baby is the best present you could ask for. But I also think that a little kudos from other people would be nice too. Heck you just pushed a watermelon out of you…I don’t think hubby will be doing that anytime soon. But at the same time I don’t expect my husband to give me a present for it, but if your hubby is willing to and you want one I say go for it. I think that yes the camera is expensive but since you aren’t one of those people who got married ASAP in college AND had a baby before your first anniversary sans planning that you can afford a vacation or a camera.

I totally understand in your last post what you are saying about picking between the camera and the vacation. I’m guessing you can afford to do both but if you do both then you won’t have any money in your savings account. My hubby and I are the same way. We can afford to do fun stuff but we can’t afford to splerg on two big things because we wouldn’t have any money in our savings account for a few months. For example I will be going on a vacation to British Columbia in a week to see some of my old friends. My hubby and I wanted to go to Disney World too but since I’m going on this vacation we decided we will do something else that is less expensive so we don’t wipe out our savings account. This is what responsible people do…they plan. And yes sometimes you can’t always plan for everything but when you can it makes life just that much easier.

Just read this and made me lol, you are awesome! I never asked for a push present bc I didn’t know what to call it but my husband got me all kinds of things. It was almost like an unspoken thing, he just knew ha. I’ll have to make a little Push list next time.