As I’ve developed my blog I’ve found I’m in the strangest “no man’s land.”
Single and Newlywed blogs didn’t quite fit into my theme as I’m past that stage of marriage, and I hardly mention my husband.
I’m close to fitting in the “Baby Blog” group, except for the fact that I don’t have a baby. I try to cheat sometimes and count my dog, but that didn’t always fly.
“Mommy Bloggers” are open to letting me hang out with them because I’m “different” but I often felt excluded when meme topics would surround children and “stay at home motherhood.” My mind is always flowing with questions about motherhood, and I think one thing moms like to do is give advice. Solicited or not. I’m always here to listen/ read, and ready with open ears… Er, eyes.
And last but not least, “Infertility Bloggers” almost always immediately rejected me… How could I know what it was like to want a child? I haven’t been trying for as long as they have, a few even wrote me hate emails and comments telling me how the tone of my blog offends them. Lord knows that’s not my intention at all, in fact, I had no idea people could be so upset about me writing about my journey. I’ve never tried to compare myself to someone else who’s gone through as much, but sometimes people take me the wrong way.
I mistakenly tried to add myself to a list of what I thought were “TTC Blogs” But come to find out they were “infertility blogs” and I’m not allowed on the list cause I haven’t been diagnosed with infertility.
I’m not going to complain about that… It’s a high price to pay to be on that list, and I’d hate to offend someone who thinks I don’t deserve to be on it.
A “Fertility Blogger” I guess you could call what I’ve been. So many blogs of that sort are infertility blogs, so I think the fact that I’m writing about the process before knowing the state of my fertility is slightly revolutionary. No one really knows what to think of it.
And with that I’ve decided to make my own blogroll! I know a few of my blog friends are TTC bloggers too, and I’d love to have a blogroll of them to visit. Haven’t been trying long enough to be on Stirrup Queen’s list? That’s ok! I’ll add you to mine!
It’s ok if that’s not the theme of your blog, I can know to visit you often though, and check up on you! Also, let other TTC bloggers (if there are any others besides me) know about it too!
If you’re not a “Fertility Blogger”, let me know what kind of category you’d like to be in and I’ll add you! I’ll add a “Future Mama” list to it too. Maybe a “Trying for #2” “pregnant” even “baby blog” group as well. Let me know if you’d like to be added and how and you’ve got it