Ok can I be a little honest about my selfishness right now? …Never stopped me before.
Alright, well one thing I think about a lot when it comes to having kids is timing. But this isn’t always in regards to how old I am and how ready am… That’s a given. The timing I’m talking about is in regards to when I have kids in relation to my (/our) siblings.
My husband and I are both the oldest children and we were the first to get married out of our siblings and we could be the first to have kids (aka grandkids). Sometimes (actually most times) I think that I want to be the first to have grandkids for our parents (aka grandparents).
There are many reasons for this. For one… I think the first always has a special place in grandparents’ hearts. I know I was the favorite (or did they just tell that to each of their grandkids?) and while it’s not always fun to be the oldest child, being the oldest grandchild is kind of cool. They are the first part of the next generation of posterity. I mean common, the sacrifice was always the “first born” no one asked for the second or third! The oldest = coolest ok?! (Can you tell I’m the oldest child?) And while I think the oldest CHILD has it hard (babysitting, way stricter rules, no cell phone, allowance, curfew, and all those other things the younger siblings get away with, etc.), the oldest grandchild… Well, they pretty much have a sweet gig.
I however, do think that my expectations of having the coveted “first grandchild” could be a little overrated since we don’t live close to either of our families. Therefore our kids won’t be in close pampering proximity and even if they are the oldest, the others, who live closer could have a better opportunity to see the grandparents and get spoiled rotten.
Now on the other hand, if we didn’t have kids first, I could get first hand, down right honest reaction on the whole parenting scheme straight from the trenches. It would be like an up-close, behind the scenes, exclusive interviews, uncut version of parenting. I’d witness how my siblings/ siblings-in-law handle it, and see how the grandparents react… Then learn what to do and no to do. Guinea pigs I guess you could call them.