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The Clock is Ticking!! Need Baby Makin’ Secrets!

I can’t believe I’m so close… So close to taking the plunge. I’m ready, more ready than ever to try to join the mommy club. Things are falling into place better than I imagined. Don’t laugh, but I’ve had a countdown on my iPhone for a while. Counting down to the day my “baby makin machine” would turn “ON.” I remember looking at it when it was more than 100 days away. I’ve changed the date several times, but this time I think it’s sticking, and I’m finally only 32 days away… Ok, I’m going to just round down and say a MONTH! I’m so excited I’m literally thinking of making a paper chain.

Everything is falling into place too. I’m not a Suga Mama anymore! When I was in Chicago my husband got an interview and a JOB that he likes A LOT! I feel very blessed. The economy hit us pretty hard, but we’ve been blessed an able to rent out our condo for another year, and now this! I was ready to just go for it like NOW but we’ve agreed to stick with our September goal. But when I really think about it it’s like HOLY COW… Scary!! I’m excited, scared, and going into hyper-planning mode all at the same time!

I’m debating on all things pre-TTC, and my original goals and plans are all starting to change. I’m trying to decide if I still want to do a procreation vacation (aka baby-makin’ moon). Part of me does because it would be fun, but then part of me thinks I don’t care anymore, I just want to get this show on the road!! But then again I’ve talked about it and I think kicking it off in a fun way would be… Well, fun. And since I’ve talked about it for so long I kind of want to just do it the fun way like I planned. Oh, and can I just say I was looking at my Fertility Friend chart and it looks like I’ll be ovulating around the 1st of September, so who knows… Maybe I’ll get the first egg right away! What do you think? Baby-Makin Moon? Yay or nay? I’m also a little worried about over-planning and scaring my husband out of it. The goal is NOT to do that!!

Oh, and I know I’ve been a blogging slacker lately… At least for me. Blogher took a lot out of me. I’ll be doing more wrap ups on that later, but I’m hoping to get back into the routine of posting daily again! I’ve got a lot to say my (hopefully) LAST month pre-trying to be a mommy.

I’m looking up a lot of things about trying to conceive and so I have a question for you… Besides sex (obviously) if there was one thing that helped you get pregnant what do you think it was? I hear, laying down propped up at the hips for awhile helps. What else worked for you, or have you heard?


Amaprincess says:

Good luck on your journey! My first appt with the RE is on Tuesday! I’m looking forward to having you ladies to share the experience with!

Nikki Cogg says:

How exciting!!! I’m so happy for you two, sounds like things are really looking up and you’ll be a mama in no time! If I had any hints I’d let you know, but I haven’t had a baby yet, so I send you love and best wishes!

I honestly have no idea. We tried and tried when we were first married and did not get pregnant – four years later we did. Without trying. I would think charting your fertility and going for it while ovulating is probably the biggest thing.

🙂 I would say doing IT every OTHER day…. all month long. HEE HEE… seriously after 10months of trying for our first we tryed this method and BOOM we were pregGo!

SoMi's Nilsa says:

I’m no baby making machine (yet – we agreed not to put it on the table until at least October), but my very unscientific, untested and unproven advice is to relax and have fun. Sometimes, when we force our bodies to do things, it revolts. So, you might as well kick back (or up?!) and have a good time!

Emmy says:

Best thing that worked for me, sorry to say, was not trying. With my son we tried… my body got all messed up, my periods were crazy irregular, it took us 7 months. My daughter, well we just weren’t careful one night and 9 months later there she was 🙂
I know you have been very excited and anticipating it, but just continue to trust that what is supposed to happen will and it don’t worry about it too much.

MommaYoung says:

Go for it, make it a memorable one!

I have a good friend who was told to have sex doggy style and keep her butt in the air for 20 minutes. After 4 years of trying the regular way, doing it that way actually worked! That’s my only tip….

Anonymous says:

Don’t stress over it. We tried for 7 years. I gave up after 6 1/2 with in 5 months our daughter was conceived. The only advice I have for you is to. Not let hubby get all stressed out about when he needs to perform, I.e. when you are ovulating. That will not help his swimmers in any way. Also I have heard if he’s dumps his swimmers in an Instead cup ( they are a menstrual cup. sold nest to the pads, and tampons.)and you insert it right after sex, it will help them stay in place and I have a friend that did this and got pregnant the first time.

Good luck

Arin says:

My tip would be like some of the others-Relax and don’t try-and Pray. Whenever we just relaxed and forgot about the idea of “getting pregnant” that’s when it would happen. It’s hard to reverse the anxious feelings you have-but I think a vacation is a good idea-keep it all about the romance and you and your husband.–keep your mind off making the baby and wham it will happen!! I got preggos with my three a week after my period would end. Best of Luck!!

Mommy Bee says:

The most helpful thing I know of for getting pregnant is (ironically) to get your mind on something else…anything else…preferrably six other things. I know a lot of people who have gotten pregnant the same week/month that they moved, or on the month when they had ‘stopped trying’ or ‘took a break from ttc’…really it happens all the time. And like I said, it’s about being not stressed…when you get uber-focused on ttc, then your body picks up on the stress and it actually makes it harder to conceive (at least for a lot of us).

The other thing of course is charting–if you know which days you are fertile it will help a lot. LOL!!

Congrats on making the plunge! How exciting, and yes, scary! It took us 3 cycles to get pregnant. I am an impatient lady, so the third time around we started using pre-seed (a sperm friendly lube), and I used ovulation predictors. We DTD on the fertile days, and others of course. Then you know the rest… Good luck with your journey. I hope to see a BFP in your future!

My only advice is to do it every other day. Don’t worry about fertile days yet, just have fun with it for your first cycle and see what happens.

Stress does hurt you, but as long as you aren’t trying for a year without results, relaxation will definitely get you somewhere.

Good luck and lots of baby dust your way!

Keya says:

Since your only a month away you should start trying now because most women don’t get pregnant on the 1st, 2nd, or 3rd try.
And it will get very fustrating if it doesn’t happen when you want it too.
Good Luck

Keya says:

Oh & those ovulation predictor tests are great!

Lyndsey says:

Not trying!

That’s when everything worked for us…the one month I was completely SURE that I WASN’T pregnant!

I did the charting etc…, but it was when I finally relaxed and just had fun with my hubby that we got Kaius 🙂

kellytirman says:

the books “Taking Charge of Your Fertility” and “Preconception Plain and Simple” were key to me getting pregnant. Good luck!

My hubby and I are trying now too. I’m glad to have found your blog. I have heard RELAX from everyone. It is not easy when you want so badly to be pregnant. I do agree. Stress just doesn’t help with baby making. Put your mind on something else. Enjoy your hubby. Hey, if you need a blogging friend…I’m happy to encourage you.

I think I’ve said this before – if my getting pregnant had involved all this planning and thinking and deadlines, I don’t think I’d have felt the joy as much.

I just didn’t see it as a big to-do list thing, it was more of an expression of love and hope we had together. No pressure, just love.

I’d hate to have my husband think it was just another thing on his “honey do” list (guess that would be the “honey do ME” list! lol

Mama Seoul says:

Definitely do the Baby Makin’ Moon! It will be fun.

I highly recommend temperature charting so you know when you are ovulating. Not everyone ovulates on Day 14. Some people do it earlier and some much later.

Have sex throughout the month (it is better for the sperm). We tried to do it every day, but every other day is just as good. If you can’t quite manage that, don’t worry. Sperm can live in the body for up to 5 days, I think. The egg is only good for about 12 hours, so my plan was to make sure there was a continuous sperm influx so whenever the egg dropped, it wouldn’t be alone.

You seem to have a lot of energy that you can channel to keep baby makin’ fun. For effective baby making, I don’t think you can make every sperm deposit a romantic all-night love fest, but if you kick off with a fun, romantic vacation and plan to have some romantic nights throughout the month, some exciting quickies and some regular quickies (in the morning before heading to work is a good time for a regular quickie). Since you are the most enthusiastic and are worried about scaring your husband off, you should take the lead on planning for the fun parts. You will also be temp tracking, etc., but don’t bog him down in the details if you think it will stress him out. Just let him enjoy the process.

Don’t buy a bunch of pregnancy tests and don’t test too early. Temperature charting will let you know. If your temp stays elevated for 18 days past ovulation and your period doesn’t start, you are probably pregnant. Wait a little longer than that to take the test. Tests are expensive and can be disappointing to take when you get a negative.

I’ve taken 3 tests in my baby making process and only one was negative. I have two kids and one pregnancy test left.

If you have sex throughout the month, you will be pregnant within a year unless there is a problem. I think the average is 5 months of trying so don’t be discouraged if it takes more than a few cycles.

If you don’t have any fertility problems (and you are both young so you most likely don’t) an occasional hot bath taken by your husband shouldn’t hurt things too much.

There are lots of great infertility blogs with great advice and support for how to approach infertility, but don’t get ahead of yourself. At this point, just relax, track your ovulation, have sex and have fun!

Also, I would just stick to temperature tracking so you can see the pattern of when you ovulate. Ovulation predictor kits are expensive and sometimes can give you a false positive. If you are having sex throughout the month, it won’t matter exactly when you ovulate, you will be covered, but you will start to see a pattern and pay extra special attention to the days leading up to your usual ovulation. Also, if you do end up having fertility problems, those temperature charts (which also record when you have sex and you can record info about cervical mucous and other things as well) can help your doctor see what is going on to help you.

I used Ann Douglas’ book
http://www.amazon.com/Mother-All-Pregnancy-Books-Conception/dp/0764565168

Taking Charge of Your Fertility is supposed to be good as well:

http://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-Your-Fertility-Reproductive/dp/0060937645/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1249086744&sr=8-1

Good luck!

Nichole says:

I’m SOOOO excited for you! It’s amazing how quickly you find you’re ready once you’ve made the decision. . . I was the same way.

I’m sure you’ve read it in books – but be on the bottom and do the elevating your hips/legs in the air trick afterward. And no need to do it every day unless you are in the EWCM stage. Keep the romance up and don’t make it all about conceiving. Have fun and don’t stress.

As for a babymakin’ moon – personally I’d rather have a pre-baby get away during the second trimester or so. In fact, we leave in 3 weeks for the beach and I’m so excited to get away from all things baby and spend some quality vacation time with hub while I’m still feeling somewhat decent (I’ll be 29 weeks).

Again – SO excited for you!

Anonymous says:

I have 4 kids and they were all concieved differently. All planned and all on the first try…. laugh if you will but the first was in a hotel, on the back -boy- (boring) second on the beach , missionary -girl-(gritty and sandy) third was in a cornfield (no joke) standing up -girl- and the forth was in our waterbed, -boy-

I think the most important thing is to be relaxed and have fun!!!!!!

Lolly says:

You’re so adorable!! The best advice I have for you is to have sex and lots of it. Don’t worry about getting pregnant because stressing out about it will actually be counterproductive. Relax and have fun!

Just have fun! We did NOTHING..I promise.ALTHOUGH we were on a cruise so that probably helped a little bit;) IT just happens so have fun with it and don’t stress about it. The more you stress the less likely you will get pregnant! Relax and enjoy it!! Best of Luck!!

Jessica says:

How exciting! You are totally right…it’s right around the corner!

Mrs4444 says:

Relax. That’s it. I had my babymaking on a schedule, too. It worked out perfectly, too, even though for my daughter, my son had picked up ecoli bacteria in Central America on a business trip. We joked about naming her Nikolai, heehee. Don’t worry-she’s perfectly brilliant and healthy, heehee.

awww so happy and excited for you!!!!!!!

Lynn says:

Both times I conceived were basically on the 1-2-3 hayo! I’m pregnant. The 2 times we tried. The 2 times we got a kid out of the deal. This lady was on top both times. Nothing special was done. Not that it wasn’t special…
Just go with the flow and whatever happens, happens. I’m one fertile myrtle but this baby making machine has officially been closed for business after the last rider got off. 2 babies is enough! :o)

My best, Lynn
PS. If you can afford it then why not go for the baby moon? Just don’t name the kid after the place “Hello, this is my daughter Cancun”

Tamara says:

Aww shoot, its baby making time!! lol

The Dimino's says:

I think the baby making moon is a great idea!!!! Just think of it as a vacation though!!! My little man was conceived in the Dominican Republic!! I was on clomid though because we had tried for a year and nothing happened and I have PCOS! I think it was just relaxing and enjoying everything that really helped!!! Just go have fun and take a vacation!!!

Sometimes, the greatest gifts in life come as surprises! I recommend just loving the life you live. Make each day beautiful! By the way, enjoy the quiet while you have it:)

You have a beautiful blog!

Kelly says:

If you are going to chart your BBT, I would say start now so that you have something to compare it to when you “flip the switch”. The first time I got pregnant it was like 2 seconds after I went off birth control, so you never know. We’ve been trying now for four months. Good luck!

agh says:

Wish I had some good advice for you but since our babe was a surprise all I know is that not “trying” worked for us haha. Just relax, don’t dress!

The818 says:

Ahem. Kind of embarrassing, but I’m pretty sure the time that worked was standing up from behind. Now I’m blushing. Don’t know if it’s a tip, but according to my early dating ultrasounds, the first time was the charm!

Mammatalk says:

Much luck and love on your quest!

andrea v says:

If you haven’t heard about the saliva ovulation microscope, it’s inexpensive and really works.

Good luck… and RELAX!

Tania (via SITS)

In my country, Brazil, they swear by the theory of “putting-your-legs-up” for about 10 minutes after sex. I laughed my way through this as we TTC. I would say that what I think worked best for us as we were TTC was to surrender to the universe the intention that when this little soul was ready to be it would be. Throughout our pregnancy (I am about to pop any day now) we tried to be take comfort & draw strength just knowing that if this little soul is meant to be she will be.
Best of luck!… PS: I suggest a “baby moon” around 2nd trimester when you get a boost of energy (or just get your energy back) instead of a baby-making moon just because it could be that you conceive at a different time than at the baby-making moon. As much as we all wish we could plan and conceive right away, that is not always the case. Maybe have a “baby-making staycation” in your own home where you could get creative and spice things up each time you TTC.

Nancy says:

Really, the best advice I can give you towards getting pregnant is to just have fun. The stress will make things harder to conceive. I had fertility issues and it wasn’t until we weren’t trying so hard that we finally had our kids… each time the fertility doc had nothing to do with our successful pregnancies.

Good Luck!!! I love how “prepared” you are.

No advice on MAKING the baby as every woman is so different. Good luck. I hope it is as easy for you as it was for me and my husband.

That said, DEFINITELY take the baby-moon. You won’t regret taking it, but you might regret missing it. This may be the last trip you ever take without kids, and it WILL be the last trip you ever take without the THOUGHT of kids.

MommaD says:

i seemed to conceive easiest when i was exercising and eating well. that, and the hips trick 🙂

Robin says:

Wow! What an exciting time! I respect your planning, but you have a point: don’t over plan…some things can’t be controlled, despite our best efforts and intentions. I wish you luck in this awesome journey!

Happy SITS Saturday Sharefest!

-Robin
http://www.robingillis.blogspot.com

Youre my second follower. Thanks so much. I LOVE your cartoon logo (is that what you call them) Its so cute. I see a lot of people with those, but yours really stood out to me. Probably because its black and, other than this skanky looking one, its the only black one ive seen. So here’s input to your blog. I dont know anything that will help you get pregnant because I wasn’t trying. I thought i was practicing the “natural birth control” method. haha, clearly didn’t work. Maybe you should get on that. As far as the baby makin moon, girl, dont go on a vacation thinking youll get pregnant there. That might put too much pressure on you two and ruin the vacation feeling. You dont want it to feel like work, you know. Go on a vacation just to go, and if you get pregnant there, then that’s a blessing. But dont plan it around getting pregnant. A lot of people get pregnant when they finally stop trying.Maybe take a break from the planning and let it flow? hope that helps.

foleybf says:

Have you ever heard of Deanna’s Plan?? it’s a method of TTC http://community.babycenter.com/post/a3017655/deanna_s_plan

Basically you start to “try” everyother night starting on CD 8..on CD 10 you start OPK’s and once you get the go you “try” 3 nights in a row, skip a night and then 1 more time for good luck. I hear it has a HUGE succss rate! Good luck!

Jen
http://www.afterthealter.com

Mammatalk says:

Ya gotta get a fertility bracelet! Hubs bought me one and I was pregnant by the end of the day.
Needless to say, I have moth balled it deep in my jewelry box.

foleybf says:

Have you ever heard of Deanna’s Plan?? it’s a method of TTC http://community.babycenter.com/post/a3017655/deanna_s_plan

Basically you start to “try” everyother night starting on CD 8..on CD 10 you start OPK’s and once you get the go you “try” 3 nights in a row, skip a night and then 1 more time for good luck. I hear it has a HUGE succss rate! Good luck!

Jen
http://www.afterthealter.com

Robin says:

Wow! What an exciting time! I respect your planning, but you have a point: don’t over plan…some things can’t be controlled, despite our best efforts and intentions. I wish you luck in this awesome journey!

Happy SITS Saturday Sharefest!

-Robin
http://www.robingillis.blogspot.com

In my country, Brazil, they swear by the theory of “putting-your-legs-up” for about 10 minutes after sex. I laughed my way through this as we TTC. I would say that what I think worked best for us as we were TTC was to surrender to the universe the intention that when this little soul was ready to be it would be. Throughout our pregnancy (I am about to pop any day now) we tried to be take comfort & draw strength just knowing that if this little soul is meant to be she will be.
Best of luck!… PS: I suggest a “baby moon” around 2nd trimester when you get a boost of energy (or just get your energy back) instead of a baby-making moon just because it could be that you conceive at a different time than at the baby-making moon. As much as we all wish we could plan and conceive right away, that is not always the case. Maybe have a “baby-making staycation” in your own home where you could get creative and spice things up each time you TTC.

agh says:

Wish I had some good advice for you but since our babe was a surprise all I know is that not “trying” worked for us haha. Just relax, don’t dress!

MommaYoung says:

Go for it, make it a memorable one!

Emmy says:

Best thing that worked for me, sorry to say, was not trying. With my son we tried… my body got all messed up, my periods were crazy irregular, it took us 7 months. My daughter, well we just weren’t careful one night and 9 months later there she was 🙂
I know you have been very excited and anticipating it, but just continue to trust that what is supposed to happen will and it don’t worry about it too much.

SoMi's Nilsa says:

I’m no baby making machine (yet – we agreed not to put it on the table until at least October), but my very unscientific, untested and unproven advice is to relax and have fun. Sometimes, when we force our bodies to do things, it revolts. So, you might as well kick back (or up?!) and have a good time!

I honestly have no idea. We tried and tried when we were first married and did not get pregnant – four years later we did. Without trying. I would think charting your fertility and going for it while ovulating is probably the biggest thing.

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