The Babymoon
We’ve all heard of a honeymoon, but what about a babymoon? Nowadays, people do it while they’re pregnant, before the baby is born as a “last hurrah” before parenthood The couple will go out when the mom-to-be is in her second trimester or so, and get couple massages, eat good food, and just have a romantic getaway (according to my Google results). OR (as my well educated already mother blog friends have informed me) The time after the baby is born and there’s bonding. Family is there everyone’s all lovey dovey and giving the new parents time to sleep, etc. I’ll eventually probably do those things too–But I’m gonna invent my own type of “babymoon” for now– A “baby-makin’moon” (and it’s self explanatory).
I’m down for anything that gives me an excuse to go on a trip! Oh yea, I’m down with that. What better excuse to go on a vacation and get it on? But Now my question is “where to?”
Originally I had it all planned out… I wanted to start baby makin’ on my 5th anniversary on a cruise to the Caribbean. Well, I don’t really like to do the same thing more than once, and not that I’m complaining but we just went on a Caribbean cruise so I’m looking for something different, and our 5th anniversary is in December and we may celebrate this a little earlier than that. If I went on a Disney Cruise I think I’d be ok with that, but I doubt I’ll be able to convince my man to do that before we have a little one.
Right now I’m thinking either bed and breakfast in the mountains, a cabin in the mountains, a Jamaican cruise for Jamacin’a-baby as my friend @Kimba told me, or some other beachy place. I’m thinking the less activities and people the better. No kids (as not to scare us out of it), so that’s making me think not a cruise, but it’s not completely out of the picture. And possibly someplace cold so we’ll want to stay inside *wink wink nudge nudge*
I know there’s probably a good chance the deed won’t be said and done after the BabyMakin’Moon but it would be a fun way to start the baby makin’ machine, no? And what a great way to celebrate the start of a new stage of life. It’ll be memorable, that’s for sure. Did you do one? What did you/ would you have done? Suggestions?
I’m actually so set on this now that I don’t even want to try make a baby for real until I’m on this stinkin’ babymakinmoon! Don’t you love these excuses for fun things? First it was Push Presents and now Babymakinmoons, what’s next?!
lol I love Kimba’s Jamacin’a-baby idea. I didn’t go on one. My baby is 24 and I don’t think we had even heard of Babymoon before during or after lol. Beside mine was a total surprise too.
I’m going to stick with my original idea. A cabin in the mountains/woods – back to nature!!
Hmm, I have definitely never heard of *that* kind of babymoon. Or rather, i’ve heard of couples taking a romantic trip during the pregnancy because they know it’ll be a while before they get another chance, but I have never heard the term babymoon used for it.
I HAVE heard the term babymoon, but the context was to talk about immediately after the baby is born, in the afterglow, when everyone is welcoming the little one, mom is resting and taking it easy, and everyone is taking care of them both… (once she has to start doing everything again then “the babymoon is over” ya know?!)
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I think that would be fun, and very sweet! What about going somewhere like Vail or Park City? In the winter… you can ski if you’d like, but also cuddle up by the fire and enjoy each other ; )
I’m with Mommy Bee, in that the only type of babymoon I have heard of is after the baby is born. Typically 40 days/6 weeks that most cultures keep the mother resting and limited visitors.
Babymoons are actually the time AFTER the baby is born when you stay in and bond with baby. What you are describing is just a vacation without kids/second honeymoon.
We didn’t go anywhere – getting our son took us to Guatemala and we were so excited about it that that was good enough. And as for the second one – well she took us by surprise. 🙂 But I really have to say that I never felt the need for one last hurrah before I had my kids. I was looking forward to them so much and I never really considered myself as losing anything by having them. I think I would go to Las Vegas. I know that is not really a romantic, stay in and make a baby kind of place but it is somewhere that I just do not see the point of going with kids. Have fun!!
I took my kids on the Disney Cruise and barely saw them and I still had a blast! Disney has a private island and they have an adult only section. YES, there will be tons of kids but they honestly did not bother me. My son was 7 and he took his friend with him and my cousin and I participated in all of the adult events. I’d say keep that option open :-).
Tiff
Great idea Jen! I’m with you on this AND the push present 😉
Some people’s babymoon IS their honeymoon. Haha. Don’t forget!
I still vote Hawaii. Go to Oahu. See the Polynesian Cultural Center. Stay at Turtle Bay. Enjoy the beach.
Whatever you do, have fun! Planning trips around children is a whole different ballgame. You won’t get your “newlywed” time back ever again.
What a cute post! I’ve never thought about havin’ a Baby Makin’ Moon. I’ll have to tell Hubby. I bet that’s just what we need to get the job done!
Love your blog. I saw your comment on SITS!
Babymoon?? I went babymooning but never realized that it was babymoons. During pregnancy I have to accompany my husband to several business visits, so I was pregnant and always out of town.. pretty exhausting, compared to the non-pregnant state of myself, but I do really enjoy the last time strolling alone (not literally “alone”, but.. you know, just walk without having to worry that you precious somethin-somethin is running away or toppling a pyramid of cans. I am a babymoon pro! Go get your suitcase ready, mom-to-be!
Here’s my two cents on where you should go – a bed and breakfast in Savannah, GA. Everything is
quiet and slow there, and it’s a beautiful place. I sort of went on a few babymoons while I was pregnant, because I travelled a lot for my job, and let me just say this – travelling while pregnant is not always fun, so your idea of taking a romantic vacation before getting pregnant is a good idea in my book. Good luck!
PS – Found you through SITS today – saw you as the first roll caller. I’ll have to check in to see how your journey goes!
I have no experience with either baby-makin’ or cruises, but I’ve never imagined a small room on a ship to be the place for such goings-on, at least not if that’s your goal. I like the idea of a quiet cabin or B&B in the mountains!
Mts of Colorado, in a cabin, with a hot tub on the deck. During the day it’s nice enough to get out, but cold enough at night to stay in. Plus that hot tub!!!
Hey, you actually could conceive on this babymakinmoon. Start charting now…and plan your days away for when you will be most fertile.
I’m getting excited for YOU!!!!!!
Be sure to read my blog for funs ways to tell DH. Just put it up today and I’m sure there will be some more responses over the next few days.
Hawaii, Oahus North Shore. You can rent your own house for a VERY reasonable price. Let’s face it on a “baby making moon” how close do you want to be to your neighbors? Those cruise ship walls can be a little thin. If you decide to visit here I can point you in the right direction.
Today (first tuesday of the month) is Two Cents Tuesday on my blog. I think you will fit in perfectly. Hugs, Jen
Thanks for stopping by my blog–I will envy you greatly if you have a baby a week or two early. As long as it’s healthy of course! 🙂
And I think a babymoon is a fabulous idea! We went on a cruise and found out we were pregnant while on the cruise, and we were so happy to have one final last expensive vacation without kids, finding babysitters for kids, etc… do it while you can! 🙂
I totally think you should have a babymakinmoon!! How cool would that be?!
Hey girl…you sure were up early on SITS today!! Well the common BabyMoon is before the baby’s born so the parents can get one last time to ourselves…BabymakinMoons are catching on and exactly what you have planned!!
I went on a weekend getaway in my 7th month and it sure was nice to get away from all the “baby” stuff and just enjoy being with hubbs…
My best advice for you is to just “let it happen”…sorta, if you stress yourself out so much about body tempreture, what’s he wearing down there, who’s where, what am i supposed to eat to help me get preggers…you’ll send your body into a tailspin and a stressed out body don’t wanna carry no baby!!
The one thing I did do was use the ovulation tracker @ babyzone.com and left the rest up to fate (oh, I did also take folic acid pills)…I got pregnant in 6 weeks after being on the pill for over 10years!!! I never even got a (.) after taking my last pill!! The next thing I knew I was hunched over the john, begging for death and peeing on a stick!!
Don’t put too much thought into it and it will happen….
I wrote a post on Cloth diapers for you! lol
I totally wish I had taken a babymoon! We haven’t been on a trip, just the two of us since baby was born!
Ooooooooo, a babymakinmonn. What a great idea. Wish I’d thought of doing that. Hawaii sounds heavenly right now! We didn’t do the actual babymoon because I ended up being dog sick most of my pregnancy, but I highly recommend one last hurrah before you life is taken over by a tiny little cryin’/poopin’ machine! Hi from SITS!
We are going to try and go somewhere before the baby is born! However, even in the 2nd trimester before you are huge you don’t want to be going anywhere super warm cause you are feeling like a blob!!!! And no way do you want to be in a bathing suit or see other really cute bodies in bathing suits! However, we learned to go on a trip when the baby is done nursing! Like a “hurrah!!! This kid isn’t attached to me anymore” trip! And by then the baby weight is gone and you can go somewhere warm and fun and start trying for that next baby!!!!!!!!
We are going to try and go somewhere before the baby is born! However, even in the 2nd trimester before you are huge you don’t want to be going anywhere super warm cause you are feeling like a blob!!!! And no way do you want to be in a bathing suit or see other really cute bodies in bathing suits! However, we learned to go on a trip when the baby is done nursing! Like a “hurrah!!! This kid isn’t attached to me anymore” trip! And by then the baby weight is gone and you can go somewhere warm and fun and start trying for that next baby!!!!!!!!
What a cute post! I’ve never thought about havin’ a Baby Makin’ Moon. I’ll have to tell Hubby. I bet that’s just what we need to get the job done!
Love your blog. I saw your comment on SITS!
Great idea Jen! I’m with you on this AND the push present 😉
I took my kids on the Disney Cruise and barely saw them and I still had a blast! Disney has a private island and they have an adult only section. YES, there will be tons of kids but they honestly did not bother me. My son was 7 and he took his friend with him and my cousin and I participated in all of the adult events. I’d say keep that option open :-).
Tiff