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Not so fast 2019. I can appreciate the fact that you’re here, but I must say I wasn’t ready. I was having a jolly old time in 2018 and then you snuck up on me.

Last week is a bit of a blur. Usually New Years is one of my favorite holidays. I love making new goals and starting anew. But these last two years I’ve been a little off. Last year because I was in a first trimester haze. And this year because we just made a big move, with two kids and a baby. A move we were extremely blessed to make. And I’m SO thankful for.

The good news is I know from experience that it’s ok if you aren’t ready to jump in with a new gym membership and resolutions to check in every day. Or if you don’t hit the ground running on 1/1/19. Last year it took me a few months to feel up to making goals but once I finally did I was ready to roll.

I don’t think it’ll take months for me to feel ready to get going. I actually am hoping I’ll be ready by my birthday next week, or the end of the month at the latest.

I stopped making resolutions years ago, but I always make new year goals. Right now my goal is to set my goals next month.

Until then I’m trying to unpack the last dozen or so boxes and get set up in this new home of ours. I’m still basking in gratitude and relishing in some lingering holiday cheer. Still glowing in the wonderful aura of 2018.

Once again I’m wondering how this next year can possibly top the last. But who knows, I’ve said that before too.


It’s something else isn’t it? Watching something you made–Or at least grew and gave birth to, grow into a person with a personality, thoughts and opinions of their own. Of course this is gradual. I mean it starts when they’re babies and shove away the peas on a spoon. Then it evolves into requests for a certain book, song, or TV show. Then maybe a favorite dress, or pair of shoes. And then before you know it their requests and passions are dictating your schedule.

Tiny gymnast 6-years-old. It's crazy watching your child become a person. Tiny gymnast 6-years-old. It's crazy watching your child become a person.

My daughter first started gymnastics about three years ago. She was just a toddler and participated in a mother’s morning out program with gymnastics twice a week. It was obvious she had no natural talent so I did what any irrational wannabe-tiger-parent would do and signed her up for an entirely different activity. This time it was dance: Ballet, tap, jazz and then a hip hop class on the side.

That was fun. We enjoyed it, but after a couple of years I got tired of hunting down the lost tap shoe minutes before class started. And days and days of recitals (and recital fees) so we decided to hang up the tutus. She didn’t object, or put up any sort of fight. In fact she was happy with her art class and we were starting homeschool. We didn’t have time for much else.

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Fall hit and that meant football. A lot of football. Every year for the games Lil’ J gets decked out in team spirit with pom poms, jerseys and/or cheer outfits. She roots and chants little cheers I remember from high school.

On the vision board she made last year she has a photo of the BYU cheerleading squad. Apparently this is a dream of hers. I say apparently because I know her mind can change and even if not, it’ll be a stretch but HEY… I’m not ever one to knock down someone from their big dreams.

BYU Fangirl

We signed her up for some trial tumbling classes and though she was admittedly not very good, she still wanted to go each week. As an early Christmas gift we bought her a couple months of private lessons for her to work on her technique.

Week after week I’d watch and cringe as she’d stumble out of a cartwheel, or botch a handstand.

“Is it even worth keeping this up if they aren’t any good? I mean how much time do you give someone?” I’d say to my husband. I mean we know she wasn’t born with a natural ability and that’s ok. I believe with hard work, anything is possible. But how long do you let the delusion go on?

“She’s a kid!” My husband would say to me. “Only 6! She doesn’t need to be good, she just needs to have fun.”

He’s always coming at me with sense and stuff.

Tiny gymnast 6-years-old. It's crazy watching your child become a person.

I decided to back off a bit. Not that I was saying any of these things to her–This was me just internalizing and ranting to my husband. But I chilled out and just encouraged her. I offered to help her practice, take pictures or record her if she wanted. I’d stay after and ask her coach if there was anything we could work on between lessons.

I don’t know exactly what happened. It seems like one day I was begging her to practice and the next she didn’t want to stop. She walks into lessons ready to listen and learn and try her best. She asks me to text her coach with updates on her progress at home. She can hold a handstand and do a backbend with ease. She’s surpassed any gymnastics talent I’ve ever had, and with hard work, she’s actually getting pretty good.

And she’s set some goals of her own. I’m still working on my 2017 goals but she has her list set. She wants to eat healthier, work out with daddy and get her back and front walkover (by her birthday in July). I don’t think that will be a problem for her.

BYU family superfans

Who is this person? This person who once did backflips in my uterus. This little 6-year-old who has not only opinions but dreams and goals.

She is my child, emerging as her own person.

 

{Lil’ J is 6 years and 6 months old at the time of this post.}

Helping kids grow into their personalities.


I sheepishly have to admit as I sat down to work on goals for 2017 I needed a refresher on what they were last year. I wrote them down but on what and where? I’m not sure. Luckily I had them saved on my blog. I hit many but not all of them:

2016 goals evaluation

1. Spend more quality time with each of my kids and husband, together and individually: I definitely made this happen. Between date nights, a solo trip with each kid, and beginning our homeschool journey, I felt way closer to each member of our family.

Interracial family

2. Find at least one moment to cherish every day: Though my Cherish365 photo project came in and out all year, each night as I said my prayers I was able to name at least one thing from that day that I was so thankful for or cherished.

3. Spend more time with our pup Snoop: Though we could always be doing better, I think Snoop had more walks and more outings this last year than any since we’ve been parents.

Cherish 365: The days are long but the years are short. A project to making moments last and cherish every day.

4. Cook or create with Lil’ J at least once a week: The cooking part didn’t happen that often, but if you count our homeschool experiments and art projects, we did well the second half of the year.

5. Organize and print more photos for my home: I got our photos SO organized digitally. I’ve got backups up the wazoo and I’ve deleted RAW files and narrowed the jpgs down to our favorites. I printed quite a few photos but I want to do more of that. Especially now that I have a great photo printer.

how-to-photo-coasters

6. Get ready (hair and makeup done) at least 2-3 times a week: Probably my biggest failure. But it made such a HUGE difference when I tried to get ready and look nice. I was better in the first half of the year than the second.– Which is probably why you saw less of my face in photos and on Snapchat.

7. Use my talents to give back: I can do better. We began a lot of family volunteering at the end of the year. I didn’t use my photography/video/speaking talents as I’ve done in years before, but I’m glad we still worked to give back planting at local farms, visiting seniors, and doing random acts of kindness.

My 2016 record isn’t too shabby. I’m still pinpointing the ones I want to focus on this year. Last year I also made a new dream board with goals to help my kids find their passions, read read read, bring a lot of Disney magic to my life and make a difference.

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I read a bunch of books, then read even more to my kids. We went to Disney World three times and Disneyland once (all but one were work trips). I walked the Disney red carpet, met my favorite directors, interviewed Steven Spielberg, started to homeschool–Effin HOMESCHOOL!–Even went to a homeschool conference! I took my daughter to visit our nation’s capital, started a new calling at church, spoke at blog conferences, received a Voice of the Year Award, did dozens of stories for my news station, celebrated 12 years of marriage, visited family in Utah, began piano lessons… I mean wow, it was an exciting year.

DIY Family Zootopia Costume

It was also pretty sad. The election season was brutal. I don’t know whether to laugh or cry at some of the things our president-elect has said. And my husband’s job is more dangerous than ever. Still, I don’t feel like 2016 knocked me down. Sure, it banged us around a bit, but we’re still standing. And we will continue to rise.

Yesterday at church a quote directly in front of me bore into me the entire last hour of service (yea, church is 3 hours… have I mentioned that??). I meant to snap a picture of it as I was leaving so I’d remember but I forgot to. Nevertheless as I’m writing this blog post I remembered it almost verbatim (I just looked it up to double check).

“The joy we feel has little to do with the circumstances of our lives and everything to do with the focus of our lives.” By Russell M. Nelson.

Through our darkest days I had to believe our little family would be ok. And that we will continue to do everything we can to keep it that way for us, and our brothers and sisters (everyone else). I tried to center my energy and focus around love, compassion, and a desire for understanding and I hope to carry that into this year.

2016 was something. And I’m so ready to see what 2017 will bring.


My husband and I agree, 2015 was the best year of our lives.

He moved to a day shift which to me, has been life-changing. Somehow, after 11 years of marriage, we seemed to grow even closer together. And we made so many wonderful memories together as a family.

Though I had many wonderful experiences throughout the year that made it such a great one, there were a lot of personal changes that really made the difference.

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For one, I decided spending quality time with my family and doing work I truly love was more important than my bottom line. I didn’t quit my job working every weekend and holiday as a full-time anchor and reporter so I could work weekends and holidays as a blogger.

Funny enough, in 2015 I found when passion became my motivator, money came much easier.

Something happened in the middle of the year. I can’t pinpoint exactly how or when, but there came a point when I really stopped caring what other people thought I should be doing, and started really thinking about what I wanted.

I think part of this hit me at the realization of turning 30. It’s something I’ve been dreading for the last couple of years. The closer this new decade of life crept, the more I’d agonize. But I’ve had a realization that a new decade, like a new year, gives me a chance to reevaluate my life and set new goals.

I’ll go more into my decade goals soon. As for 2016, a lot of the same: Continue to work less, play more, and marry the two whenever possible.

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New Years Goals 2016

  • Spend more quality time with each of my kids and husband, together and individually.
  • Find at least one moment to cherish every day.
  • Spend more time with our pup Snoop.
  • Cook or create with Lil’ J at least once a week.
  • Organize and print more photos for my home.
  • Get ready (hair and makeup done) at least 2-3 times a week.
  • Use my talents to give back (I’m brainstorming creative ways to do this).

Lil’ J is setting some goals again as well. She wants to earn money, keep practicing her dance and gymnastics, and become a better reader. She also wants to help me cook.

We used the all-new Sears app and went on a little resolution shopping spree and got some items to help us out. Some ink for our printer to help with printing photos. Mixing bowls and measuring cups and a basting brush. To be honest I’m not even sure what else we need to get going. I will probably get a couple more casserole dishes and go from there once we get to cooking and see where we lack.

cooking-with-J

To hold myself accountable I’m hoping to share at least one meal a month we make together here on the blog, along with Lil’ J’s review. She’s a picky eater but she will always try the food when she’s involved with making it.

I can’t believe I’m saying this, but I’m excited to make some memories together in the kitchen this year. I don’t like cooking, but seeing her light up when she gets involved makes it all worth it.

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“Is it bedtime yet?”

I don’t know how many nights I’ve looked at the clock and asked that question this year.

Then, it never fails, I open up my folder of pictures from the past year, or scroll through the videos on my phone and I’m overcome with so much guilt, remorse, and longing for those moments back.

The days are long but the years are short.

In the world of parenting, there are no truer words.

Today is the last day of the year. The last day of an amazing year with these two kids who are my world.

This year we’ve traveled together, learned new skills, and really began to see both of their personalities flourish.

interracial family photo

I’m so excited for this year ahead. For the chance to try again. To soak it all in a little more. A chance to enjoy the long days, and maybe make the years a little less short.

Last year I made a video wrapping up 2014 and I treasure it so much. I’m trying to keep it up and do one each year. The past few weeks have been busy and fun with traveling and family visits so I was finally able to sit down and start working on it last night. Here’s a look back at 2015 in under four minutes.

Instead of doing my usual editing in Final Cut, I decided to take the easy way out and to throw a bunch of video clips and pictures into Animoto and let the program do all the work.

I did this a few years ago to make a Father’s Day video moved my husband to tears. That was a first I witnessed.

Anyway, I recommend this program is perfect for people who know little to nothing about video editing, or just want a an easy way to make a video fast. Just pick a song, upload your files, choose the background you want, and rearrange the order. It’s a lot like making a photo book. For me, the hardest part is finding just the right song, but there are many to choose from.

I’d love to challenge you to make a video of your year. Take an hour to unload those pictures and videos off your phone and turn them into something beautiful. Make a lasting legacy for your family.

You can try Animoto for free for two weeks (I used the free version when I made the video for my husband). If you love it and decide to upgrade, use my code: “babymaking20” to get 20% off.

Thank you for taking a look back at 2015 with me, and for tagging along on our journey. I hope along the way you’ve been inspired to make beautiful memories with your family.

Happy New Year my friends!

*A big thanks to Animoto for their awesome program and providing a code to share with my readers. This story was sponsored by Animoto, and as usual, all opinions are my own. 

Jan
02
2013

My 2013 Goals



Now that the realization has set in that a year has gone by, and it’s actually 2013, I’ve decided I’d better vocalize a few goals for the year.

I had to think long and hard about this because I’m never good at following through with my grandiose plans. I knew I needed to take a different approach this time. And so here are my 2013 goals:

1. Do whatever the eff I want. By this I mean not focus on just trying to get organized, or working out, or cooking more, whatever. If I feel like cooking something new or getting organized, I’m gonna do it. If I want to take a month and make a bunch of cute clothes for my kiddos, I’ll work on that. If I feel like sitting down and watching Desperate Housewives for a few hours (or a whole day), I’m gonna do that. This is the year for doing whatever the freak I want and not feeling guilty about needing to do more of something else.

2. Put and end to working weekends. I’ve been working weekends the last five years and I’m over it. I’ve been talks about moving my schedule to a weekday thing and that would be like a dream come true. Especially if I can do it before the baby is born. I’m going to keep bugging The Man until we make this happen.

3. Go back to church. Working weekends has made it really hard, if not impossible to go to church on a regular basis. Something is most definitely missing from my life. While I still feel like a decent, nice person, I secretly long for that enrichment that I’ve sorta been jaded out of. Back in the day I felt out-of-place at church, either because I was “new” or because we didn’t have kids, or because I worked while other moms stayed at home. But now I don’t care about any of that. No sense assuming people are judging you. We can all learn from each other, and I feel good about where life has led me so far.

So there you have it. My three simple-ish goals. I would also like to add something about returning comments more and visiting my reader’s blogs, but I’m going to lump that into my “do whatever the eff I want” goal because some days I am in the mood, less busy, and more and motivated to do that more than others.

Peace up, A-town down. Bring it 2013. You’re gonna be my biotch. (I’m gonna stop talking like this once I get back in church).

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