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Dear Jennifer,

It’s me. I mean you. You’re 32 now. I know that seems SO OLD but listen, it’s so much better than you think. You’ve been through a lot. And learned quite a bit. So trust me when I tell you, middle school and high school are just a blip in your life map. Dare I say an insignificant one for you.

Things get so much better. You just missed a few awesome things and some kinda lame ones. Like fidget spinners (don’t ask I still don’t get them).

Period panties are a thing now. No, seriously. Yes, they work. Yea, go ahead and be jealous. It would be great to have an extra pair of those in your bag right about now as you wait for the big day, right? In all seriousness, your period is an awesome thing! You’re a woman, and you don’t realize this now but it’s something you’ll be very thankful for later in life. Just embrace it, and remember the word THINX in a decade and a half. And keep them in mind for your daughter (you have two!).

Another thing you just missed in your tween years: Social media. A blessing and a curse… you’ll love it but be glad it wasn’t around for your youth. Trust me, people are getting busted left and right for dumb things they said. Luckily your tween and teen years aren’t preserved on the internet.

Now I want to give you some advice because you’re going to go through some tough times and I know if I knew then what I know now, it could have made so many things so much easier.

First off, you are and will be loved. So much. Don’t even fret about boys. You really and truly don’t need a boyfriend before you graduate high school. I know that sounds so lame. But I promise you, you’ll find so many better ways to fill your time than by worrying about guys. Besides, your husband (yes, SPOILER ALERT!: You get married!) is leaps and bounds above any of the guys you know now. And yes, he’s hot.

Speaking of people you know now… You won’t know many of them later. So all the worrying you may do about what people think of you? Pointless. Life gets so much better and the people who laugh, poke fun, or annoy you now… You won’t even remember most their names in 10 years. You’ll remember your best friends, and stay in touch forever. Treasure them.

Do yourself a favor and learn this very important lesson now: Don’t compare yourself to others. I know the way the system is set up this is hard. You were cut from the dance team, you compete in public speaking competitions and compete for first chair in band. Just remember that you don’t have to be the BEST at everything. You just have to be the best YOU. Develop your own talents and lean in to who you really are.

That brings me to my next point… Embrace your whole self. I know you don’t feel like you fit into any particular crowd, and you stand out from a lot of your friends. You will never blend in, so stop trying. The sooner you accept who you are and love your whole self, the better. Cause newsflash: You’ll never really fit in anywhere. But that’s ok because the world needs you just as you are. A little weird, and big hearted.

There is so much to learn. Never stop asking questions, pushing boundaries and dreaming big. You’ve always had big ambitions that won’t change. As you learn to stay focused you’ll knock your dreams out of the park.

You’re awesome! So be awesome!

Love,

Yourself


What would you tell your 12-year-old self? Leave a comment letting me know! And use the code “Jennifer10” to get $10 off THINX and THINX BTWN!

Boys, period talk, and other things I wish I’d known. I’m sharing it all in an open letter to my 12-year-old self in partnership with THINX. Plus a special code for you guys! Use “JENNIFER10” to get $10 off THINX at checkout!

I’ve always had a bit of an impulsive streak inside me. I can’t help but jump head first into new things, look back and ask questions later.

Exactly two weeks ago I decided to start a vlog. A video blog for those of you who don’t know. I felt like I needed a pickmeup. Something new and exciting to try. A new challenge to commence. I knew if I set a goal to do one once or twice a week I’d procrastinate and quickly fall off. I had to go big or go home. So I decided to start a DAILY vlog for the month of March.

What I’m loving about it so far is the rawness and spontaneity. I never really know what is going to come out of my mouth, or my kids’ mouth, and it’s capturing a lot of the REAL here and now. I take photos and write about our days here on my blog, but some of the day-to-day things have been feeling too boring to document.

The silly random thoughts and moments that no longer make the cut on my blog seems to be finding a place in the vlog. I am enjoying that.

So I don’t know if you enjoy watching vlogs (I’ll admit, it takes a special person I think, because I can’t always sit through 15 minutes of someone else’s life) but if you do, check ours out. We’re doing daily videos through March then I’ll reevaluate what I’m going to do after that. We’ll see how it goes. I’m not sure how they’ll come into play here on my blog, maybe I’ll share a couple favorites once a week, or maybe I’ll keep it completely separate. Let me know if you have an opinion.

Ok, so when I started this thing, it was just in time for me to go support my best bloggy friend at the We All Grow Latina Bloggers conference. Vanessa from De Su Mama is an incredible mother, photographer, writer and friend. She was honored as a Storyteller at this fabulous conference. She presented a powerful story on stage about her journey to discovering, and falling in love with the country her family immigrated from.

Keep checking back on her blog for her story which should be up soon! I was so incredibly proud of her.

Vanessa knows I’m a huge Disney fan and she was so thoughtful to invite me to experience this with her. While there we also got to have a special Disney Princess experience, go to an early screening of the new Beauty and the Beast (my review is here) and tour the Walt Disney Studios lot. We even bumped into Bob Iger, CEO of the Walt Disney Company! I have two or three vlogs about the conference, I’ll share a couple below.

Vanessa and I, and parts of our family have been on about a half a dozen little adventures together with another coming up this summer. She listens to and supports my impulsiveness and talks me of the ledge when I’ve gone too far. She’s an amazing woman and I’m so lucky to call her my friend.


You know how at the beginning of the school year, elementary school teachers usually have kids do some fun project that somehow introduces themselves? Well, the project my fourth grade teacher assigned us, led me to my best friend.

Our teacher had us create totem polls with animals on them that most described us. I don’t remember what I put on my totem poll, but I do remember what another girl in class put on hers because it stopped me in my tracks.

“Why do you have a rabbit on your totem poll?” I asked her.
“Because I’m as swift as a rabbit,” she professed.

“I bet I’m faster than you,” I challenged.

Me. You. On the playground. It’s going down.

We stood in the long, open field at the back of the playground at recess. There was plenty of running room. Bystanders watched, ready to cheer us on.

“On your mark. Get set. GO!”

We both took off running but didn’t get far before we heard a strange noise. A fart? I can’t remember, but we both laughed the whole way down the field. I don’t remember who won but it didn’t matter. That moment is what started our unbreakable friendship.

hallmark-card-4We were in the same class in the fourth and fifth grade. In middle school we stopped and would pass notes between class. We were on the same cheer squad, and we tried out for the dance team together… And neither of us made the cut. So we cried together.

In high school my family moved to a nearby city, so we no longer went to the same school, but our friendship didn’t waiver. We went to each other’s homecomings (as each other’s dates?… I don’t remember the details or the guys we were with but the boys were unimportant).

Then, my junior year of high school my family moved across the country to Arizona. We went five years without seeing each other, but we called, and wrote each other (these were the days before Facebook people).

old BFFSShe visited me in college when I had first met my then-boyfriend-going-on-husband. And I’ve met up with her during my internship in Atlanta, and several times since while visiting family.

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I dug up this little gem while going through my old files. I lost the original but thankfully had emailed it to myself years ago. Memory-keeping tip of the day… Have an email backup of movies some favorite photos, etc. You can even create an email account especially for this and send emails from your phone to it. I have Google+ auto-backup, but things like this I recorded on my computer, and have since somehow lost it between my multiple-harddrive backups.

During my first maternity leave we met up and I said we should make a video of our kids meeting for the first time, and kindof just timestamp the moment for a time capsule, if you will. For your viewing pleasure:


On one of my trips several years ago, we dumped out a box of our old notes to each other, folded so intricately  neither of us had any idea how to put them back together.

They were decorated with doodles, hearts, fake last names of our crushes and signed (quite gruesomely now that I think about it) “may death be the only separation.” We wrote them like they were urgent messages, and received them as the highlight of our day.

“WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU DIDN’T WRITE ME BACK?!”

And to think, my kids may never receive a handwritten note folded into an origami flower. Instead they’ll be getting text messages in kindergarten.

*Sigh*

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swiming bff

Aside from Christmas cards—And even those I usually type and print out digitally—I rarely send hand-written notes. But oh how I appreciate them.

hallmark collageIn honor of my first ever Throwback Thursday on Friday post (I’m never on time for anything), I decided to not only give a little blog love to my bestie, but sit down and write my her a long overdue note. Sure we talk, and text a lot, but we haven’t written since middle school.

cute bffs with baby

I have three younger sisters who are awesome, but Shannon is like a fourth sister from another mister. I will forever be grateful for her strong faith in God, her friendship, allegiance, humor, and advice. Friends can have a big impact on your growing up, and I often worry about the type of friends my kids will make. I can only hope both of my kids grow up with a friend like Shannon. If they do, they’ll be in good hands.

How long have you known your BFF?

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I’m once again partnering with Hallmark to share my life’s special moments and occasions. Of course I love to do this anyway, but now I get a little compensation bonus. All opinions are my own.

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Nothing like good friends you can text any time about anything, call when you need a last minute favor, or pick up where you left off even after months, weeks, or years without talking.

I’m so thankful for my many friendships. I don’t know what I’d do without my buddies.

friendsThis is me with two of my best friends: Allisa and Brittani, taken by another best friend: Taylor.

 

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