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There’s nothing particularly special about turning 33. It’s not a very sexy number. Not as painful as turning 30 or thrilling as turning 35. I’m just sitting here in the middle like “oh yea, I’m another year older.”

Still, this was probably my most surreal birthday to date. We didn’t make any plans. I actually kept forgetting the day was coming up. We’re still getting unpacked and settling into our new home. I’m finally feeling like I’m ready to press play and begin 2019 and BAM! We’re already two weeks in. I didn’t really have time to think about what I wanted to do for my birthday, even though my husband and kids kept asking me. Lil’ J even begged to stay home from school and celebrate (that was a no).

Just about everything is unpacked. And I’m very proud of myself for that fact. I wanted to be just about done before my birthday and I sorta met my goal. We are still waiting on our furniture to be delivered but we did get our new barstools in!

My husband let me make the game plan for my birthday. He planned a trip for us to the mall to upgrade my cell phone, but since I hadn’t backed mine up in over a year that planned was squandered by a much-needed backup lasting more than 6 hours. Instead we ordered the phone online to arrive the next day.

We did pre-order my new shoes, which are the most expensive pair of shoes I’ve ever bought ( I seriously hate spending more than $25 on shoes). My Ugg knock-offs fell apart (the sole came off on one of them). And after super gluing it back together a couple times, it came apart for good. I couldn’t bring myself to buy more but finally, for my birthday I gave in and got the real thing. Let me tell you they are GLORIOUS.

I have about 4 or 5 pairs of shoes and these are by far my favorite. Slip on, no socks needed. So soft and warm and durable. They make winter wonderful. Best present ever.

My husband and kids also surprised me with some Edible Arrangements. Chocolate covered strawberries, pineapple and apples. SO yummy. I’m still coming down from the sugar high.

But possibly my favorite part of the day was sitting down on our living room floor and playing Disney Pictopia. My kids made me so proud with their knowledge of Disney trivia.

I felt so freaking happy sitting with my family in our new home albeit on the floor, together.

At night before bed we take turns saying a family prayer– Usually bouncing back and forth between Big T and Lil’ J. I love their prayers especially because it’s usually 5% requests and 95% gratitude. If not 100% gratitude. On my birthday Lil’ J said thank you for letting them play fun with their baby sister, and for my birthday. And a dozen other things. I feel like lately I’ve been way more aware and conscious of my blessings as well, and pausing through the day to say thank you.

I’m still working out my goals for 2019. I have a hard time trying to commit to a word for the whole year but my friend Dani suggested I break it down into smaller increments. So far my word has been “relax” and “enjoy” as we get settled into our new home. Not rushing into this year with my sleeves rolled up ready to hustle.

I’m finding joy in little things like straightening up, and watching deer walk through our backyard. I go outside with the kids almost every evening to work on building our fire pit. And every few nights they beg to watch a movie in the theater and make popcorn in our popcorn machine.

And as cheesy as that sounds I just want to spread as much joy as I can. I want to pass goodness and love along and help brighten the world a bit day by day.

This birthday celebration was a simple one. But in so many ways it was my best yet. Here’s hoping I’m blessed with many many more birthdays.

.I was going through some old papers when I stumbled upon a small notebook we’ve had for years. I opened it and flipped through the pages to see our newlywed budget from nearly 14 years ago.

My husband had an athletic scholarship for so we had a huge discount on rent, and we tried to be as frugal as we could in other ways.

from humble beginnings to dream home: interracial couple newlyweds

Even back then we were extremely aware of money. Not that we had a lot, or much at all. But we were careful not to spend more than we had, and to save what we could. Even if that was just a few dollars a month.

We would separate our money from each budget category and put the cash for the month into an envelope. When money for food was gone it was gone, and we had to eat what was already in the house until the budget reset the next month.

I created a regular meal plan for us to make sure we stayed under budget. There was Sonic 5 burgers for $5 night. We split that third burger, and we rarely splurged on fries.

There was $5 pizza night. And we ate a lot of ramen noodles and grilled cheese.

At the end of the month whatever was left over we could use as fun money, or save.

I remember being so excited when I’d saved enough to buy us our first couch–A futon from the local thrift store. It was no more than $40.

The first automatic payment I set up was to ourselves… A $75 auto draft from our checking account to our savings account. We still have it set up to this day.

Though we no longer use envelopes, and our food budget is much larger than $150, we’ve continued to live by the same disciplines for years. Living below what we make. Saving everything we can.

I think part of that had to do with having a scarcity complex.–Being so worried we would run out of money.

When we transferred schools, lost our rent discount and were both finishing school. We applied for any job we could get, and we were excited when we both got on campus jobs as custodians. Excited to earn on the “higher end of pay”–Something like $7/hr. We earned and saved extra money by donating blood plasma on a regular basis–Two to three times a week, or as much as they allowed. The cookies and juice at the plasma center were a midday meal I looked forward to.

How a leap of faith brought us together and made me believe some things may be fate.

There were times where both of us had jobs, just one of us had a job, and for some scary moments when neither of us were working.

We learned to live extremely conservatively. And as our salaries increased, our lifestyle, for the most part, stayed the same.

Afraid that something could go wrong and we may not always be able to afford a car payment, we saved and paid cash for our cars (except one time, and after that we said never again).

We use credit cards for rewards points but pay them off every single month. And we try our best to live off one income, and save the other.

Discipline is doing what you want. Even when you don't want to. Click To Tweet

When I set out for the goal of finding our dream home I was dumbstruck by the prices of what we wanted. It seemed unwise to set a goal so high. Especially when we were used to spending so much less. And I didn’t want to be “house poor.”–Where we’re barely able to afford our home, much less anything else to go with it.

But I thought what if we saved enough to pay for a lot of it up front… That would change everything.

Our payments would be comfortable.  And we’d prove to ourselves that we are able to afford our dream and continue to live off similar monthly bills.

We were paying extra on our current home, and those extra payments, along with fees on another property (we’ve since sold) add up to a similar monthly expense.

I did a lot of math and discovered that saving to put half down would be that magic number. To upgrade our home but not our bills.

Now we’re less than three weeks away from closing. Almost across the finish line. We will spend one last Christmas in our beautiful house where we’ve made a home, then ring in a new year at our new place.

It still doesn’t feel real. I don’t know if that feeling will hit once we sign on the dotted line, or when the moving truck pulls away. But those cute college students who split a third cheeseburger every Monday night have gone so much further than I’d ever dreamed. And I’m so proud of them.

I was 16 years old and on stage for the Miss Jr. Teen Georgia pageant. I wore a borrowed white evening gown in front of hundreds of people.

I don’t remember what my question was during the interview portion of the pageant, I don’t even remember what the judging categories were. But I do remember the emcee saying something that changed everything for me.

He presented the reigning queen and spoke of her accomplishments. Among them was she had earned enough scholarships to pay for her entire college education.

I stood awestruck. I had recently discovered that my parents didn’t have a secret nest egg they were waiting to give me upon graduation. No, they told me they expected to me to go to college but I’d have to get loans to pay for it.

Here I was, watching a girl who had accomplished something HUGE. I had just one thought…

I am going to do that.

Hadn’t a clue how, but I set my sights on earning a full scholarship. Or cumulative scholarships to pay for all of my tuition.

A couple of years later I went to college and did that. It wasn’t easy, and it didn’t come on its own. In fact, in the beginning I did have to take out some loans. But I quickly paid them off with scholarships. And by my junior year I was awarded enough scholarship money to pay for all of my college tuition, my books, and even living expenses.

That experience taught me that there are no limits as to what I can achieve. So why should I put any on myself?

Earlier this year I had to remind myself of this realization as I’d been shoving another dream aside.

I dreamed of having a huge yard my kids could play in, trees they could climb, and a place we could explore. Any time this vision came to my mind I’d make excuses for why it would never happen: It would be too expensive, I’d never get my husband to agree to move, I should just be happy where we are.

And I WAS happy, and grateful, and totally fine staying put. But I wanted to allow myself to dream bigger.

I made my husband an offer he couldn’t refuse. A seemingly impossible offer.

“If I save enough money to put 50% down on my dream house, can we do it?”

He knew better than to just laugh and brush me off. We’ve been married nearly 14 years and he knows how unstoppable I can be when I put my mind to something. So he thought for a moment about what he was agreeing to.

“If you save enough to put half down, we sell our condo, and we have a three car garage,” he said.

Done.

I got to work putting calls in to find a realtor who could help sell our condo in Utah. We bought 11 years ago, right before the housing market crash. And held on to it because we had to. It had been draining our energy and money for years.

Within a month and a half I had given our tenants notice, had them moved out and had it sold to a cash buyer. Our realtor had it under contract and off our hands in about 11 days.

By this time I had already been searching for the perfect house. Four bedrooms, an office and a playroom upstairs. Trees, and lots of space in the backyard. I went to bed picturing it. Woke up dreaming about it. And prayed to be led to the right home for us.

We didn’t see any exactly right so we decided to build one.

We are getting an acre more than I imagined, a few extra perks inside and the three car garage I promised my husband.

The final piece of the puzzle was the savings. I hired new people on to my business this year which was at first terrifying, but wound up being the most brilliant thing I’ve done in a long time. We buckled down on budget, cut back where we could, and I worked my tail off. I secluded myself a bit so I could stay focused. I turned off my Facebook news feed, put groups on silent and really centered myself around my family, my business and my goals. It was important not to get distracted by what other people were doing or what people thought I should be doing.

I also made a point to tell this goal to a couple of close friends. People who wouldn’t laugh and shrug it off, or try to stomp on my dreams. But would smile, cheer me on and fuel me with more of their own motivation.

As promised I’ve finally, just barely, but still… definitely have, saved enough to pay for half of my dream house up front. Before selling our current house. Two months out from closing we are still discussing IF that’s what we want to do, or if we will allocate some of those funds in other ways. But I still held up my end of the bargain. Made it happen. I told myself I could do it, worked  my tail off. And I’ve done it.

Don’t squander your own dreams. Don’t get in your own way. Go after that thing you’ve been putting off. You can do it.

dream house

When I was in the third grade I always got bad marks. My grades were fine, but I couldn’t control my talking. My teacher and I didn’t jive well. She was trying to teach and whatnot and I really wanted to socialize. At the end of the year she suggested I take theater classes to put my drama and mouth to good use. This advice ultimately led to me learning a good lesson about taking chances, the hard way.

Turns out being dramatic doesn’t mean you’ll be a good actress. I found this out as I prepared for my first musical.

We’d been practicing techniques for what felt like years, but was probably just a matter of weeks. Our director dished out the parts for our final performance. I had one small role and she offered me another. I’d be on stage with just one other kid who would play the class bully who kept pulling my pig tails.

“And Jennifer, since you wear your hair in pig tails, I thought you’d be perfect for this part!” The director said.

She looked at me, waited for my elated response when I did something probably no child had done before.

“Oh, that’s ok, I’m wearing my hair down for the play,” I informed her. “Down” meant going to the salon, and having my hair blowed dry, and pulled straight with a searing hot comb. I’d be at the salon for hours, bawling most of the way through from a tender head, but then so happy with the shiny silky end result.

“So…” She slowly asked for clarity with a confused look on her face.  “You don’t want the part?”

“No thank you, I’m wearing my hair down!” I added in an air hair flip for good measure.

“Ok,” she said, exasperated. “Who else wants the part?”

A slew of hands went up.

It went to Becky with good hair.

I didn’t regret my decision. That was, until my mom found out what I had done. She was so livid. Something about “with all the money we spend…”. She made sure that my braided pigtails were exactly what I wore the day of the play.

It was my first harsh experience with letting a chance pass me by. Would this chance later have been the first door that led to my broadway debut? No way. But on stage, as I watched Becky play the part I passed up, I realized that could have been me, and I let it fly right by.

I’ve been talking to my kids about chances lately. Especially my daughter. At the start of her competitive cheer season she was scared to go up in her stunts (where other little girls lift her up above their heads). After a few times of saying “no thank you” she started to notice her teammates trying bigger, more advanced stunts. After awhile she asked me why she wasn’t getting to try some of the new things.

“Did you tell them you wanted to try?” I asked her.

“No,” she said. She told me she said she was scared, but then later when she saw someone else try, she realized she wanted to too.

This immediately set off a spark in my mind. We’d recently read What Do You Do With a Chance by Kobi Yamada. In the story a little boy sees chances flying around him. As he goes to grab one, he stumbles. Other kids laugh and he tells himself he’s never going to take a chance again.

The chances continue to fly by, but after a while he notices he sees them less and less often but he continues to let them pass right by. Eventually they stop coming around all together.

Later in the story he sees one again, and I won’t spoil the ending for you, but it’s a fantastic children’s book by the same author who wrote What Do You Do With an Idea that makes me equally weepy.

Anyway, I reminded my daughter about the story we read together and asked her if she remembered what happened to the chances as the little boy kept ignoring them. It really helped personify the idea of opportunities, and I’ve seen her become more willing to take chances that she’d ordinarily be too scared to take.

learning to take chances

A few months ago I got an email from the Oprah Winfrey Network inviting me to be a part of their OWNShow programming. I was in a weird place with the pregnancy. In fact, I missed their first two or three email attempts because I was in so much of a funk. I didn’t know a lot about the opportunity but from what I could tell I didn’t feel worthy or qualified to even be on these people’s radar. I was scared but I also knew I couldn’t let the chance pass by.

I said yes and a month or so later I was sitting in a studio, chatting with Oprah’s producers about my blog, life tips and ways to cherish your everyday. Wow.

At first, under the lights I was completely out of my comfort zone. For a decade I was the one asking the questions and interviewing guests. Now the questions were turned on me and it was a nerve wracking. But it was a pivotal moment for me where I realized I have a message, and though not always clear it’s getting through and people are noticing.

So far a couple pieces of the interview have aired on OWN and a couple more have been shared on the web. I’ll try to embed one below.

Since then I’ve been thinking a lot about opportunities, and chances. I’ve been paying attention to things that come my way, taking my time before passing, and I’m refusing to let fear lead my decisions. Had I let fear make my decisions I’m not sure I would have been brave enough to quit my job as a news anchor. Leaping full time into this blog years ago was a huge chance I took. Thanks in part to an inspired fortune cookie that literally told me to take that chance. And just last week I found out this little blog I took a chance on is nominated for blog of the year.

When I was 10, passing on a big chance for a role in a play I did it out of naiveness and vanity. But nowadays when I pass on an opportunity it’s like my daughter said–because it’s scary. There are moments when we’re terrifyingly doubtful of the outcome. But we are responsible for our own decisions and happiness. We have to decide we are more excited for the possibility of a good outcome than we are fearful of a bad one. Decide you want it more than you fear it. Then jump.

“You can do anything.” I mumbled as I started out the car window in half a trance.

“What?” My husband asked.

“You can do anything. I really believe that. And I want our kids to know that.”

“Yes, well…” he started. I wanted to dare him to debate me. “You can do anything you’re good at,” he specified.

“There’s no need for conditions,” I insisted. “Anything is possible.”

My husband considers himself a realist, but sometimes I think he can be downright pessimistic. I, on the other hand, will proudly state my claim as an extreme optimist. I’m not sure if I was born that way, or if something triggered it growing up. My parents aren’t sure where it came from, and out of my four siblings and me, I’m by far the most assured.

My husband went on to say that no matter how good he was at basketball, he’d never have a shot in the NBA. Ok, at his age, he’s probably right. But I don’t think it would have been completely out of the question a decade ago had that been his goal his entire life. Either way, that’s an extreme example. But to a degree, still relevant.

Admittedly this isn’t always easy for me to stick to my claim. When my daughter was in kindergarten at public school they followed a 7 Mindsets Academy program. The kids were instructed to write down “everything is possible” and share their BIG dream of what they wanted to do when they grew up. My sweet five year old said she wanted to be a mermaid fairy princess. Imagine my plastered smile as I read that.

“Ooh, well, that’s nice…” I tried to hide my disappointment.

As parents we were encouraged to resist the urge to give our kids reality checks, no matter what their dream is. The idea is to not be a pessimist or doubt their dreams.

A couple years later her dreams have evolved, as has my ability to encourage her to keep dreaming bigger.

When we are kids we believe anything is obtainable. Our dreams are limitless. The window of possibilities is wide open. Then as the years go by, events change our vantage point. A classmate laughs at your artwork. Your crush shoots you down. A professor criticizes your work. Your parent tells you you’re not good enough. Each little loss pushes that window down bit by bit. By the time you finish college what you once saw as a big breezy window of opportunity only seems to be open half a foot. You don’t believe nearly as much is achievable and you’ve learned to play it safe.

The thing is that window is still the same size. We just don’t see it the way we used to. Imagine how much we could pull off if we let go of our fear of failure and jumped through the window, believing we could fly.

Teaching yourself to dream big, encouraging your children to dream big.

I recently wrote about one of my new big dreams. But something that’s been an ambition of mine for as long as I can remember is to bring people together. People who wouldn’t ordinarily find common ground. Bring them together to listen to and empathize with one another, and solve problems. Yea, ok I guess if I were to give this a name it would be a form of world peace. But it seems as though many of us have all but given up on that idea. I don’t want to let go just yet.

Are our children going to believe they can achieve anything if we don’t even believe in ourselves? When we dream big, they can dream bigger.

I look at my two sweet, beautiful brown children with eyes full of wonder and hope, and I pray that blissful optimism never leaves them.

I catch my reflection in the window of my car and I pray I never let go of mine.

Dream big so they can dream bigger than you.

“What are you doing in California?” My daughter asked me. “You go there a lot, it’s like your other home!”

It’s true. Business does seem to keep taking me to the golden state. But this time, it’ll be for something extra special.

We just finished reading a Wrinkle in Time together. I read it a year and a half ago, and wasn’t sure she’d understand it, but she ate it up. I told her I’m going to Los Angeles to watch the new Disney adaptation and walk the red carpet.

“And I’ll get to interview Oprah,” I told her.

She thought for a moment. “Is that the lady on your dream board where it says ‘MEET?'”

My daughter knows a bit about Oprah, I definitely have a lot more to teach her. But she listens to her Super Soul podcasts with me, and we discuss her new audiobook: The Wisdom of Sundays. But she knows Oprah best as the woman staring at me on my vision board.

“Yep, that’s the one!” I said.

A huge grin spread across her face. “Were you SO excited when you got the text? Did you jump up and down?”

Well, first of all it was an email from Disney, not a text, but… details. Yes, I was thrilled. Completely over the moon excited. But honestly, not surprised. It IS on my vision board after all. And I’m a full believer in their power. I knew it was only a matter of time. It’s been a dream of mine since I was a little girl, but I finally got brave enough to put it on my vision board two years ago.

Last month I flew to California for a shoot with the Oprah Winfrey Network (more on that later). I didn’t get to meet her then, but I felt the moment growing close.

vision board example

(Side note… I put the words “Cherish 365” on my vision board a YEAR before I considered it as a new blog name)

“Who is she acting like?” My daughter asked next.

I told her Mrs. Which and she proceeded to do her best impersonation of the slow speaking character.

If you haven’t read the book yet, put it on your list (here’s my affiliate link to take you straight there). We used it as a part of our fiction curriculum… Well, sorta. We mostly read it for fun, but I printed some 5th grade comprehension questions from Teachers Pay Teachers and we used those to quiz and dive more in depth about the story. She was completely into it. And we read the ending half a dozen times because she loved it so much. It brings me to tears almost every time.

wrinkle in time homeschool unit study

wrinkle in time homeschool unit study

 

Ok, so back to the trip… Or back to Oprah… I don’t know where to start. She’s one of several people we’ll be interviewing from the cast. Others worth noting: Director Ava DuVernay, as well as actresses Mindy Kaling and Reese Whitherspoon.

I’m also excited to meet Storm Reed who plays Meg in the film. Want to know something that’ll melt your heart? I saw this picture on Instagram and showed it to my daughter. She looked and right away said “Meg looks like ME!” Friends, this doesn’t happen often enough. She loves heroes like Annabeth from Percy Jackson and cute pop stars on the Disney Channel. But very few look like my daughter. Representation matters my friends.

I bought a new top for interview day, a bangin maternity dress for the red carpet, I have a dozen questions I’d love to ask Oprah and Ava that I need to narrow down (if you have questions let me know too and I’ll see if I can squeeze some in) I’m so ready.

We tell our kids to dream big. We tell them they can do anything. Do we believe the same for is possible for us? We may be preoccupied with parenthood but that doesn’t mean we need to give up on dreaming for ourselves.

My friends, if you haven’t made a vision board yet, what’s stopping you? Not sure what to put on it? How to organize it? Check out this post I wrote about creating a vision board with kids. Or this post about throwing a vision board party and go for it.

This weekend I’m heading off on another adventure and I’ll be fulfilling a HUGE dream. Now I’m thinking I may need to add another extension to my board because more and more I’m realizing anything is possible.


Wrinkle in Time will be in theaters everywhere March 9th, 2018. I’ll of course have an honest family-friendly review after I see it, and again once my kids see it.

While in LA the group of bloggers and I will also get a behind the scenes look at multiple ABC shows. Click the link to see their trailers and checkout the image below for their upcoming air dates and hashtags to follow: Alex Inc, Scandal, For the People, Splitting Up Together and Deception.

You can follow along on my Instagram stories and Twitter.

If you think vision boards are something to laugh at, the joke’s on you. Because they work! I’m telling you. Let’s chat about Vision Boards for Kids and help your children follow their dreams.

I’ve shared my experience with my dream boards being fulfilled before, which is why I was thrilled when my daughter said she wanted to make one too.

So first let’s talk a little about visualization. It’s a powerful mind exercise that uses the law of attraction to form your life. Or, in other words… What you believe you’ll get out of life is what you’ll get back. Athletes often use this visualization technique in sports.

Help Your Child Follow Their Passions/Dreams: How to Make Vision Boards for Kids

Have a negative attitude and believe nothing good has ever or will ever happen to you? You’ll probably get more of that. Believe that you can achieve greatness and strive for it? You will! Or that’s the idea anyway. I’ve read that concept in books like The Secret and 7 Mindsets.

Then there are the scriptures giving similar advice like in Matthew 7. “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.”

I consider myself a religious person, a spiritual person and just a positive person in general. As long as I can remember I’ve not only prayed, asking for help, and given thanks every single day. I’ve also envisioned myself becoming what I’ve dreamed to be, and I truly believe anything is possible. Miracle or otherwise.

I’ve listed my goals and visualized dreams from going to BYU to marrying a great guy and having a girl and a boy. When you make a vision board you’re supposed to focus not just on the things you want, but on how you want to feel.

After my 30th birthday party I came home with a new vision board in the works and Lil’ J wanted to make her own. I don’t know why this idea hadn’t crossed me before. It isn’t just teens and adults who can dream about and “plan” their future.

Help your child realize their dreams! Tips for how to make vision boards for kids. Easy tips and tricks for making vision boards with your kids.

From a young age I’ve asked my daughter what she wants to do, helped facilitate her interests, and had many conversations with her about her passions. It may sound like a deep word for a 5-year-old but in her own words she describes it like this: “Passionate means that you really want to do something really bad and you love it so much, it could mean you want to go someplace someday, or if you really really like space and stuff that means you’re passionate.”

Right now she’s most into singing, working out, space, playing dress-up, ballet, art, and crafts. We spend a considerable amount of time each week practicing, reading, and playing around all of these things.

I asked her to tell me what interests and goals she wanted to put on her dream board and we looked through magazines and I searched for images that fit. She did all of the selecting, cutting, placing and gluing. I loved that she made hers vertical while all of the others I’ve seen have been horizontal.

Help Your Child Follow Their Passions/Dreams: How to Make Vision Boards for Kids

I think working on vision boards for kids are a great project to do together and it has so many benefits but here are a few:

1. Sparks a conversation about their interests: I didn’t realize how into art Lil’ J was. I mean, I knew she loved it, but while we were talking she told me she wanted to take art lessons someday! So I’ve found a local art studio that I’m going to give a shot this week (it’s a surprise).

2. It’s something she can look at daily: And a constant reminder of what her goals are.

Help Your Child Follow Their Passions/Dreams: How to Make Vision Boards for Kids

3. It will evolve: I realize she’s only 5 and these dreams are bound to change over the years, just as mine have. But this first vision board of hers will always be a beautiful keepsake. Even if she makes more and we don’t keep the originals, the photos documenting each one will be special.

Help Your Child Follow Their Passions/Dreams: How to Make Vision Boards for Kids

Aside from showering my kids with unconditional love, I feel like one of the most important things we can do for our children is help them realize their potential in all aspects of life. My kids were sent to me for a reason and it’s my job to do my best to raise them to be who they’re meant to be. I want them to come to learn their divine nature and help them pursue their purpose and dreams. This was just one fun step in that direction.

Take some time to talk about your child’s dreams with them. If you’ve never made a dream board maybe try making one together! Either way it’ll be the start of a great conversation, and hopefully bring you even closer together.

What are some of your child’s dreams?

Help your child realize their dreams! Tips for how to make vision boards for kids. Easy tips and tricks for making vision boards with your kids.

I’ve mentioned before how much I was dreading turning 30. Well, I found the perfect way to ring in a new decade, with a new vision board! Start Your 30’s The Right Way and learn how to host a vision board party!

Vision Boards: How to host a vision board party and a tutorial for how to make a vision board to help all of your dreams come true! What a great way to ring in a 30th birthday!

A vision board (also known as a dream board) is a tool used to help you achieve your goals by having them displayed in front of you daily.

Vision Board Party

I made my first one years ago, in my early 20s. My husband and I printed out goals of ours: To buy a house, pay off our car, him to finish college and start a new job, have two kids, get a new computer, a new bed, living room furniture etc etc:

Vision Boards: How to host a vision board party and a tutorial for how to make a vision board to help all of your dreams come true! What a great way to ring in a 30th birthday!

We had the board set on our dresser to look at every day. The idea is the more you see and visualize your goals, the more likely they are to become a reality because you’re focused on them more often.

Our first dream board is basically complete. Everything except the Lexus came to fruition. So I decided I’d kickoff my 30s with a new vision board and making some memories with friends and loved ones.

Vision Boards: How to host a vision board party and how to make a vision board. What a great way to ring in a 30th birthday!

I asked my mom if we could use her house so I could have a night out without the kiddos, and she went ALL out with the party planning: Balloons, decor, food, everything! I just planned to bring a few magazines and some glue! So remember this lady right here is responsible as you look at all of these photos! haha.

Vision Boards: How to host a vision board party and a tutorial for how to make a vision board to help all of your dreams come true! What a great way to ring in a 30th birthday!

So in this post I’ll explain how to plan a vision board party and how to make a vision board.

How to host a vision board party:

Make a guest list

Vision Boards: How to host a vision board party and how to make a vision board. What a great way to ring in a 30th birthday!

It’s a good idea to keep the group relatively small. You’re going to be working on piecing together your dreams and you’ll want to make sure you’re with people you’re close enough to feel comfortable sharing that with. Whether it’s just family members, your spouse, or your closest friends.

Plan some snacks

Vision Boards: How to host a vision board party and a tutorial for how to make a vision board to help all of your dreams come true! What a great way to ring in a 30th birthday!

It can take a while to piece together a work of art from the heart and you’ll want some brain fuel. We ordered some catered food from our local grocer and had more than enough food to last us through the evening (That went close to 5 hours). We had sparkling cider in champagne glasses, which I thought was a nice touch.

Gather supplies

Vision Boards: How to host a vision board party and a tutorial for how to make a vision board to help all of your dreams come true! What a great way to ring in a 30th birthday!

Of course you’ll want to remember foam boards, scissors, glue sticks, and lots and lots of magazines. I went to Savers and got magazines for $.29 each (buy 4 get 1 free). You can also ask your guests to bring magazines to share. Also consider having a vision board example out on a display for people to look at to grasp the concept. I forgot my first one at home but I brought it up on an iPad and had my sister’s on display.

Tips for making a vision board and how to host a vision board party. Celebrating my 30th Birthday with a vision board party!

Set up a printing station

Vision Boards: How to host a vision board party and a tutorial for how to make a vision board to help all of your dreams come true! What a great way to ring in a 30th birthday!

Not all of our dreams are printed in that magazine we’re thumbing through. Have a laptop or tablet setup for guests to browse and print from. You may also want to stock up on an extra ink cartridge, just to be safe!

Now that you have everything you need for an awesome vision board party.

Let’s talk about how to make a vision board!

Vision Boards: How to host a vision board party and a tutorial for how to make a vision board to help all of your dreams come true! What a great way to ring in a 30th birthday!

You’ll want to list out your goals. Either mentally, or written down someplace, then search for images that speak to these for you. These are your big items. Then flip through the magazines and find words, images, quotes, whatever, that go along, or add on to your goals.

Line up all of your images the way you want them to be. Keep in mind that we naturally read from left to right. So your eye will most likely be drawn to the top left corner most often. Put some of your biggest dreams there!

My first one had everything randomly attached all over, but this time I tried to make room for lots of dreams and thoughts so I lined quite a bit up to fit it all in. It’s worth noting that if you overlap too much some of your images may get lost.

A lot of people have asked me what the timeframe should be for this board. I say whatever you want! Think both short-term, and long-term. My first board I thought would take a lifetime to complete, but we achieved most of it in under a decade. My new board is focused specifically on my 30s.

Easy enough right? The first time our board was very specific with the “things/items” we wanted. Now it’s more of experiences I want and skills I’d like to develop.

I’ll just show it to you!

Vision Boards: How to host a vision board party and a tutorial for how to make a vision board to help all of your dreams come true! What a great way to ring in a 30th birthday!

I love these because they’re a way to keep track of dreams you’ve had and see all that you’ve accomplished. Lil’ J even made her own vision board and I’m so proud of her! The party is a great way to make some fun memories, but the board is a great keepsake in and of itself, even if you just take a picture of it before you begin to work on another.

Have you ever made a vision board? What would be on it?

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