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Ok so I’m back from my LAST trip before baby (I think I’ve said that three different times now, but for real, this is it). I traveled to Pasadena, CA for the Mom 2.0 Summit. It’s a blog conference for women and moms, and I’ve been going for three years now. Last year I was nominated for and won the Best Photography Iris Award, and if you keep up with my comings and going on Facebook or Instagram you may have seen that I won Mom Blog of the Year (holy crap!). But more on that later this week. I have a whole big spiel to go on just about that and this post got long enough.

Today I’m going to share a bit about what else went down last week. Six things to be exact (aside from the one mentioned above), that made Mom 2.0 2018 absolutely fantastic.

1. I roomed with LaShawn from Everyday Eye Candy. We roomed together at our first Mom 2.0 and did a session together on photography. She’s such a treat. I had all these plans to go to the spa and hang out by the pool but I wound up just crashing on the bed for midday naps, and catching up with her throughout the trip. We chat all the time via text and messenger but it’s always nice to spend time together in person. If you haven’t checked her out yet DO!

2. One of the really cool things about these conferences is getting a chance to connect with friends and brands that you buy, or interact with over email, finally in person. One meeting I totally wasn’t expecting was with my Canon rep. Meredith saw me at the opening party and said hi. It was getting close to my bedtime so it took a second for it to click then I was all “HIIIIII!” I’m so glad she came, and I hope that they bring a whole slew of people to the conference next year because I know moms and bloggers alike would just eat them all up.

3. Dove returned as a title sponsor for Mom 2.0, and having partnered with them in the past, it was great to see the strides they’ve made, and their initiatives continue to flourish. A sobering statistic: 8 out of 10 girls with low body confidence will opt out of important activities. Since 2004 the Dove Self-Esteem project and has helped more than 20 million young people. Graduates from the project are turning around and helping others! It’s pretty awesome. One statistic that stuck out to me is that experts say spending just an hour talking to a girl about beauty, confidence and self-esteem can change the way she sees herself for a lifetime. Just an hour. I want to get in on this. You can read all about it and find more on the videos here: www.Dove.com/HourWithHer. I was able to go to a workshop and learn more about the initiative and how the power of words we not only hear, but see, influence us. And we talked about rewriting our negative stories we remember from growing up into positive ones.

And then the next day I had a delicious breakfast with a group of beautiful multicultural moms hosted by Baby Dove and we talked about the struggles we experience with our kids whether it being trying to raise them to be bilingual, or the worries if we are teaching them “enough” about their backgrounds. It was great food for my belly and soul. I even got some Baby Dove swag with products with Sneaky’s potential name on it (I actually got two with different name options but someone else snagged the first so maybe it’s a sign that it’s not the right name).

4. Debbie Allen was one of the keynote speakers and I know she’s done a bajillion amazing things in her life but I absolutely love her on Grey’s Anatomy. She sprinkled all sorts of great words of wisdom during her chat with Jess Weiner. Debbie spoke about how her mom was such an inspiration to her, always telling her she was beautiful and could be anything she wanted to be. She believed that and look what she’s done! Debbie encouraged us to know what’s unique to us and find our own voice.

5. Ok, now this I couldn’t believe. Thursday night I was waddling down the hall on my way to dinner with Munchkin (yes, the adorable baby/kid brand, more on them and their cool new stuff very soon!). I look up and there’s Brene Brown right in front of me. She’s got some kind of helper dude with her, and another friend of mine is talking to her. This is good because while they are finishing up I’m able to get out all of my gasps and OMGs and face fanning. Then she drew her attention to me and I word vomited all over her. Seriously. When I met Oprah and got a photo I was stunned and at a loss for words and I just managed so say something like “Thank you, love you, picture?” With Brene, since I’d specifically been talking about topics in her books with friends and random strangers I knew exactly what I wanted to say. I told her about my background and my husband working as a police officer and how hard it is to be stuck in the middle of what feels like this great big divide and not wanting to choose sides etc etc etc. I told her how my mother in law introduced me the Power of Vulnerability and how she is huge fan and made me a huge fan. I just kept going and going and quoting her to herself. It was probably a really weird experience for her but she smiled and gave me a big hug. And I got a picture and promptly sent it to my mother in law and one of my BFFs who each texted me back the same thing “She’s my Oprah!”

6. My favorite part of conferences is always connecting with my colleagues that I otherwise only connect with online. I’m such a social person so it can be really hard doing all of my work alone, at my desk with few people to bounce ideas off of, and laugh with and just yaknow, water cooler talk. Earlier this year I decided to bring on more help for my business now that this is a full time thing and I’ll be taking some time off once the baby comes. I have some virtual assistance helping me with social media planning and scheduling, and Cara is my manager. So she has taken a huge weight off my shoulders handling the business side of things while I focus on what I love best: Being creative, writing, photography, and making awesome stuff online. It’s also freed up more time for me to be out of my inbox, and in the moment more with my kids. Definitely one of the most big girl decisions I’ve ever made regarding this blog. It was fun hanging out with her in person (we actually met a year ago at the same conference!) and having her help me schedule part of my days so I could get what I needed to get done done, then go to my room and take a nap.

Then there were awards, and dancing, and great sessions, and meeting people for the first time. I walked away feeling refueled and refreshed about my business and where I hope to take it. And I have a lot of new things to think about when it comes to self-esteem for my little ones, and girls I interact with.

I got so much great news while I was away but one of the best was news that Mom 2.0 Summit will be in freaking AUSTIN, TEXAS next year! I was already wondering how I’d swing it with a newborn but now that it’ll just be down the road it won’t be a problem. I already bought my ticket. Hope to see some of you there next year on my own stomping grounds!

At the end of the year I’m always brought to a place where I sit and reflect about how the year went. How my kids have grown, what they’ve learned and what I hope to teach them in the year to come. I think about how I’ve been as a wife, and a mother and how I can do better. From better habits to life lessons.

Of course we can’t protect our kids against everything, but I can take my experience and arm them in ways I wasn’t as a kid.

Mommy and me natural hair.

I love showing my children diversity in books, toys, friends, and leaders. Watching kick-butt black women anchoring the news was so inspiring to me as a little girl. And influential in choosing the career I did. I want my kids to see people who look like them, and people in all shapes in sizes doing inspiring things. I want them to know they can accomplish anything too. And I always want them to feel comfortable in their own skin.

As I’ve gotten older I’ve been trying to take better care of my beautiful brown skin. Though my grandma always says “Black don’t crack” I know she’s always been on top of moisturizing. She looks like she could be my mom. And there may have been a time or two someone asked if she was my older sister. I want to be like that when I’m her age! I’m drinking way less soda and drinking way more water and I’m finally moisturizing like I never have before. No more ashy elbows in winter months for me!

There are so many skin care myths out there, so I’m also trying to educate my self on the topic as well.

Dermatologist Dr. Barba says there are quite a few places on our bodies we tend to forget and not take care of – our hands, feet, neck and underarms are some of the most common. It’s important to make sure our skincare routine is inclusive and that we are always moisturizing every single inch of skin.

“Increasing the use of good products that will moisturize the underarm skin,” she said. “This is why I recommend Dove Advanced Care Antiperspirant. It protects you from odor and wetness for 48 hours and provides skincare benefits with its NutriumMoisture formula.”

Whether I’m teaching my children to love themselves for who they are, or continuing to grow in this own space myself; I want to make sure I’m doing what I can to insure we feel comfortable, confident and beautiful in our own skin. Inside and out.

This blog post is sponsored by Dove. Thank you for supporting brands that believe in us. 

“Did you hear about Dove?”

I’d hardly looked at my phone all day when a couple of people messaged me asking my thoughts about the “Dove incident.” My daughter was just coming out of nearly six hours of cheer practice and I had no idea what my friends were talking about. A quick Google search brought me up to speed. The now infamous still shot of a black woman taking off her shirt to reveal a white woman. I couldn’t believe it. No, I mean I really couldn’t. How could they do this? Or at the very least, how could they miss this?

Dove had already issued their first apology and pulled the ad. But I searched and discovered the “full” 3 second GIF ad that revealed the black woman changing to a white woman, then changing to a Middle Eastern woman. My confusion was brought down a notch, but not completely.

If you’ve been reading my blog a while you know that Dove is one of my brand partners. I’ve worked with them over the years and supported their Real Beauty campaign. I love Dove, and their products. Yes, some of their ads have come under fire in the past but I felt like they were making great strides. I knew we needed to talk.

I sent a message to one of my Dove contacts politely asking if we could chat. (The next morning I realized that Dove had actually already reached out to me about this, however it went to an old email address).

I mentioned on Facebook that I’d be speaking with Dove the next day and I quickly realized if anything–This whole thing was going to start some tough conversations.

“This isn’t racist.” A couple of my friends stated. “It was a good thing!”

How do you breakdown a lifetime of experiences of inferiority or feelings of hurt in a single Facebook reply? You can’t. And I can’t in a blog post either but I’ll briefly try.

My first memory of someone telling me they didn’t like me because of my skin color was kindergarten. When you’re the only little brown girl in your class things can get hurtful and uncomfortable. This continued on and on through elementary, middle, high school and even occasionally in college. From flat out harsh statements, to jokes, to passive aggressive comments like “you’re so pretty for a black girl.”

Seeing an image of a black girl “transforming” to a white girl in an advertisement for body wash can absolutely be triggering.

With the current racial climate we are in, I think there is a problem when huge organizations are missing big red flags in their advertising. Were there enough diverse voices in the room when they were developing the concept for the ad? Did they think this would fly? Should they have run this by more people? These were some of the questions I planned to ask.

When I got on the phone with Dove I fully expected them to come out of the gate with excuses defending an intended message. There was none of that. The first thing I heard was “We are deeply, deeply sorry…” There was no “What we were trying to say was…” but a promise that they are working on an action plan to ensure that something so offensive won’t happen again.

They told me they’d be issuing another official apology and following up soon with updates on their next steps to organize and meet with the highest levels of management to make things right. It’s just the beginning. I may be giving them the benefit of the doubt but I’m planning to hold them to it. As we all should. And as they expect us to.

Now, if you’re thinking to yourself that you have no idea how this got to the proportions that it has, let me challenge you to think of this from a different perspective. The question isn’t always whether or not you found something offensive. Or whether or not you think someone should. Did one of your friends? Have you stopped to ask why and listened to hear their answer? Not just waited for an opportunity to give your reply, but really listened?

We should be trying to listen to those who are hurt and not just write them off as being “too easily offended.” That attitude is part of the reason why we keep coming back to these conversations over and over.

Was I personally offended? Honestly, no. But I would not show an advertisement like that to my daughter who may see that image in a completely different way. And it breaks my heart to think some little girl like her absolutely could have.

Dove may have made a mistake, and they apologized immediately. They’re promising to do better and they expect us to continue to hold them to a high standard. I respect that. A lot.

Now it’s our job to hold them accountable. And while we’re at it, use these opportunities to listen and learn from one another.

My blog partner Dove has a campaign highlighting Real Beauty and a new video they’ve released encompasses my thoughts on authenticity and individuality so beautifully. Today’s blog post is sponsored by Dove, however the thoughts, and opinions are all my own. Thank you for supporting brands that believe in us.

“The two most important days in a person’s life are they day they are born, and the day they find out why” – Mark Twain. I’ve had this theme on my mind a lot lately and I’ve been trying to find a way to put it all to words.

The last year of my life has been so incredible but also so incredibly difficult. My mother got sick, I’m more worried about my husband at his job than ever, and sometimes it just feels like the world is falling apart.

It’s easy to get caught up in divisiveness, arguments, and negativity. Or comparisons that lead to feelings of inadequacy or jealousy. Especially when you spend as much time online as I do.

Self reflection about individuality. Learning to be my best self and inspiring others to do the same.

I had to pull back a little and reflect. I delegated some of my online tasks and withdrew from the constant feed and bombarding of updates. It gave me time to stop looking at everyone else and really focus and remember who am. What believe in. And what’s important to me. It may sound a little selfish, but I think when done right, it can be a healthy reset.  

As I’ve had this period of self-reflection, over and over again I’ve been hit with a curiosity about individuality.

There has never been and will never be anyone on this earth who is exactly like you. You are an original. How long does it take us to realize that and embrace it? How much of our lives to we spend trying to be like someone else? Trying fit in? What if we all helped each other to become the absolute best people we are suppose to be instead of just trying to be like each other?

In this new short film by Dove Real Beauty Productions we meet Kylee, a woman who is shedding traditional notions of femininity and embracing her own beauty, and helping others do the same. According to a study conducted by Dove, 74% of women believe more needs to be done to redefine the current definition of beauty to be more inclusive and 3 out of 4 gay and lesbian women believe society suggests they do not care about beauty.

Did you catch that? Let me say it again in case you missed it.

“The most beautiful someone can be is when they are being the most authentically themselves.”

Authentically themselves.

Are you being authentically yourself?

I can tell you it took me a long time to get there. In fact, sometimes I find I’m still working on it. Growing up I went through phases of hating how I looked, from my hair texture, to my eye and skin color. I just wanted to fit in, but it wasn’t possible. I wasted so much time wishing I was someone else instead of being the person I was born to be. Seeing as I’m the only one who’s ever going to get a shot at being ME I’d better start making the best of it. Perhaps we all should.

This blog post is sponsored by Dove. Thank you for supporting brands that believe in us. 

Breastfeed for more than a year… Share photos of my kids online… Homeschool… These are just a few of the things I didn’t ever think I would do, but totally did. Now I’ve added “cheer mom” to the list.

A couple weeks ago my daughter tried out for an all-star cheerleading squad after six months of begging. She’s been in tumbling classes for a little longer than that, and watching cheerleading competitions on YouTube in her spare time.

Tryouts were an emotional undertaking. They began with nervous tears and ended with a nervous smile. The next day she learned that she made the level 1 all-star squad.

A few days ago, we had our first team meeting. We sat in a little classroom and received handout after handout detailing the team rules, costume fees and other expenses. We’re embarking on new territory.

Part of me worries about what’s to come. We’ve all heard about cheerleader stereotypes, and not long ago I was swearing off competitive sports. I want my children to do their best for the sake of self-improvement, not to win over someone else. But then another side of me, a big part if I’m being honest, is so excited to see her on stage with her team shining while doing something she loves.

It’s all confusing, and exciting.

When we got home I tossed the kids in the tub. Not like I used to when they we small–gently placing them in a shallow bowl. No, now they can get undressed and jump in with a splash on their own.–When did they get so big?

This space–Bath time, this is easy territory. A tradition that hasn’t changed too much over the years. Amidst a sea of half-used bath time products (note to self– time to clear that out), I reached for our bottle of Baby Dove Tip to Toe Wash. I was gifted some bottles on my trip last week and we haven’t looked back since. It leaves their skin moisturized and silky smooth, and smelling oh so squeaky and clean. This was an easy decision.

There’s no one right way to parent. There’s no manual for making all of the right decisions for our children. But I’m realizing that there is a superior way to care for my children’s skin.

So I’m a cheer mom now. Officially. I’m not sure what’s ahead in this new chapter. I’m not sure what will be next on my list of things I never said I’d do. But amidst all of the difficult parenting decisions we face, and all of the things we do that we said we never would; I am thankful for the easy decisions and for the incredible adventures that come with the new ones.


Parenting is hard enough, and I love brands who make it easier for me, which is why I partnered with Dove on this post. During a bath a baby’s skin can lose moisture up to 5xs faster than an adult’s skin. Baby Dove products are all dermatologist and pediatrician tested and hypoallergenic for all babies’ skin types. Even sensitive skin. You can learn more about this new mild and moisturizing product line at Dove.com/BabyDove

“Your curls are beautiful!”

“I love the way your curls bounce!”

“I love your curly hair!”

These are phrases I didn’t hear enough growing up, and words I don’t want my daughter to lack hearing.

I grew up wishing my hair was long, straight and flowey. I avoided going underwater in swimming pools, knowing if I did, my hair would revert to its curly state. In fact, earlier this year, Dove Hair found that 8 in 10 women feel pressure to wear their hair a certain way. For many, these pressures begin at an early age. I don’t want my little girl to feel this way.

After a lifetime of straightening my hair with heat every few weeks, I packed away the flat irons and stopped scheduling my hair appointments to set an example for my daughter. Together we’re navigating naturally curly hair styles, finding bows that don’t get stuck, and the best products we love. It’s an evolving process but we’re in it together.

Mommy and me natural hair.

Lil’ J has gone through phases where she’s wanted to straighten her hair, but after one experiment for a dance recital she hasn’t asked since. I’ve noticed her embracing her curly hair–Proudly drawing it in her self-portraits, and celebrating characters who have similar hair.

“Moana has hair like me mommy!” She was so excited to see another Disney princess with locs like hers, but they shared not only the same style, but the same color.

From hair, to weight, to skin color and down to shoes size, I want my kids–but especially my daughter, to have a healthy and positive outlook on body image. And I know that starts with me. Now I’m careful to celebrate not only her curls, but my own.

Mommy and me natural hair.

It took more than 25 years, but now I’m wearing my hair down, and proud, and swimming without fears of my natural hair. It’s not going to take my daughter her whole life to get where I am. We’re starting now.

Her curls are beautiful. Her curls are hers, and what God gave her, and I hope to help her grow up loving them as much as I do.

Mommy and me natural hair.

I’m passionate about raising my kids to be kind and confident adults who love who they are.–Which is why I partnered with Dove on this post. As a mothers, we can make a difference and help ensure ours daughters grows up feeling confident. I can celebrate the beauty of my daughter’s hair today–so she loves her hair tomorrow.

 Join @Dove’s mission and inspire a young girl in your life to love her hair. Create and share your custom animated message by visiting LoveYourHair.Dove.com!

Teaching children to love themselves for who they are is one of the most important things we can do for them, that's why I'm learning to love my hair and teaching my daughter to love hers too.

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