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My favorite question: “Why post pictures of your kids online if you don’t want them stolen?” in a tone of Well, you’re asking for it.

A camera crew from the Today Show left my house yesterday afternoon and all I kept thinking after they left was “did I make sense?” “Did I really get my point across?”

You’d think someone like me, who has appeared on television countless times would know how to handle an interview but the truth is, I prefer being on the other side of the camera when it comes to questions.

behind the scenes Today Show shoot

So here’s the deal, long story short: People sometimes steal my pictures and use them without my permission.

This has ranged from Etsy stores, stock photo sites, Facebook pages, and so on. I normally don’t make a huge deal about it because I know how to handle it and it gets handled.

I was nervous before the segment aired because I worried it was going to turn into a shaming session like so many ill-informed people make it in the comments section of Yahoo. Thankfully, they got it right, and had an excellent expert explain what I feel like I’ve explained a hundred times.

I OWN my work. This website, my photos, my written words… Mine. You know how authors own the rights to their books? Or all of those warnings at the beginning of your blu-rays about duplication? Or how you wouldn’t scan a photo out of a magazine and upload it as your own? Much like that.

Would you be scared of a photographer or author coming after you for copyright infringement? If so, you should be scared of a blogger too.

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Sure, people search google images looking for the perfect photo for a meme and–thinking it’s innocent–grab a picture of my family… After all, they aren’t trying to make money off of it, so it’s fair use right? WRONG.

It’s a lawsuit waiting to happen.

The problem isn’t parents sharing images of their kids. The problem is people not being informed and feeling entitled to whatever they find on the internet. Thinking it’s a place that’s “free game” once it’s out there. It’s new territory, so I understand we’re all trying to navigate new terrain together. We’re trying to figure out what we can and can do, should and shouldn’t share. But my most explicit warning isn’t for those who are wondering whether or not to share (I choose not to live in fear) but for those who take without asking.

Please, for the love of everything holy, ask first. Because a lawsuit could cost way more than the few laughs that meme was worth.

Here’s the segment in case you missed it. I’m working on an FAQ post for parents about sharing my kids’ photos online and how I handle things when I see they’ve been taken (UPDATE 3:30pm: Here’s my FAQ post). So let me know if you have any specific questions. In the mean time, here’s the segment in case you missed it. (I can’t wait to show Lil’ J when she gets home from school!)

Currently:
Rivaling my son’s obsession with trains. We were gifted some tubs of trains from friends who are moving past this stage and I’ve been sorting through them, finding which pieces go with which sets. I’ve helped him map out elaborate plans across the playroom with his wooden tracks.

I’m bookmarking train accessories on Amazon and trying my best to resist the urge to get them before Christmas.

I brought another gifted plastic set over to my mom’s for him to play with when we visit her house.

Train lover

I’m strategizing a bedroom makeover from his whimsical jungle nursery to freight trains and railways.

I’m wondering how this happened. I went from princesses and dress-up to wheels and tracks, and to be honest I love them just as much. He loves Thomas but he doesn’t train discriminate. He has never watched an entire episode of Thomas and Friends but he will watch a goof half an hour of freight train video on YouTube kids. trains-and-trains-galore

I’ll never forget a conversation I had with my husband before we had kids. I loved to ask hypothetical questions about our future (ok, well… Maybe I still do). I asked him if he cared if we had a boy or girl first.

“I don’t care,” he said. It wasn’t much of a surprise.

“Well I want a girl,” I told him. “I want to keep going until we have a girl.”

At the sound of that he realized he too wanted a girl as soon as possible.

“What is we have a boy and I don’t love him as much?” I asked him hypothetically.

My husband’s face twisted with confusion. “Why would you say that?”

It really was a mean thing to say. I don’t know why I even asked. But deep down I did wonder if I’d feel a hint of disappointment if I found out I was having a boy.

Fast forward a few years later. I was pregnant with my first and I couldn’t wait to have my 20 week ultrasound to find out what we were having. No really, I couldn’t wait. I took an intelligender test that told me I was having a boy. You can’t miss the disappointed tone as I read the results.

A month or so later when we found out those results were wrong and we were actually having a girl, I cried tears of joy.

Fast forward a couple more years. I was pregnant again, this time we go the surprise route and find out that we have a little boy once he’s placed in my arms. I had no idea what to expect or what I was in for. But I also didn’t imagine to fall in love so fast and so far just as I had the first time with my daughter.

Swinging son active biracial boyMy little boy is so wild, so loud, so stubborn and he has stolen my heart. And when he’s not threatening to stop it from beating, he’s melting it constantly.

Once a week, after dropping his sister off at school we go and get donuts at a nearby donut shop. We sit by the window until the freight train goes by. It’s a simple little tradition, but it means a lot to me. And although he’s wild, loud, and not exactly what I envisioned in my future–I can’t help but feel that he was just too wonderful and unpredictable for me to dream up myself.

mommy and me donuts

Balancing son active biracial boy

There are a couple of things my son absolutely adores: Trains and letters.

Trains. Not a big surprise right? I’ve mentioned this a few times. My mom lives near train tracks and when we’d go over to her house he’d look out the window and watch the train go by over and over and cheer for it each time.

When we went to Disney World he saw trains everywhere. To him, a roller coaster is a train, a tram is a train. Anything lined up in a row is a train. He sometimes will even line up his food and say “choo choo!” And he enjoys watching train videos on YouTube. Not the singing cartoon trains (though he loves those too), but REAL trains, just rolling on by.

He also loves letters. He points at letters everywhere and calls them out.

I’m forever surprising Lil’ J with princess dresses, art supplies, and things she loves. I thought it was time to give my little train-loving child a few surprises of his own.

A Real Train Ride

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I can’t take credit for this one. It’s all grandma. When we visited Utah we went on the Heber Creeper Train and rode for an hour and a half through the valley and he was in heaven.

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A talented fiddler played us songs in the boxcar, and we got snacks from the snack bar while we were in motion. I think it was his dream come true.

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A Wooden Letter Train

After our train ride in Heber, UT I saw these magnetic letter cars in the gift shop. But at $6 a letter it would cost a ton for the whole alphabet. Later I realized I could have just picked out letters for his name.

Letter-Train

Luckily I found a set on Amazon** that was even less and we got an engine and caboose with it. He LOVES this letter train. It’s possibly his favorite toy. The only problem is it doesn’t fit through the tunnels on his tracks and that REALLY frustrates him. So I keep it in his room most of the time and let him play with his regular trains on the tracks with bridges and tunnels.

My Very Own Trucks Personalized Book

I’m not high maintenance, but it takes a lot to really impress me sometimes. This I See Me book really impressed me. It’s not all about trains, but trucks and “things that go.”

I See Me My Very Own Trucks Book

But the first letter of Big T’s name was brought to the page by nothing other than a train.

Each page has a different vehicle or machine that starts with the corresponding letter of your child’s name. That truck (or train, or boat, etc) brings the letter along to spell out his full name which “lights up the night” at the end. Oh, and the little trucks also have his name on the side. For example “Ryan’s Rocket Explorer” might be one for a little child named Ryan. I’m trying not to blast his name all over the internet but it’s hard with this post! You can get a little peek of the cover of the book below.

There was also an excavator for part of his name, which before reading this book we’d been calling a “SNORT” (if you love Dr. Seuss you know what I’m talking about).

I See Me My Very Own Trucks Book

He loves pointing to all of the letters, plus the trucks, busses, trains and animals all throughout. Plus he (and I) loves the fact that his photo is at the front of the book.

Totally cute right? It’s called My Very own Trucks And Things that Go. You can buy one here or enter their photo contest to win a book + a $250 Pottery Barn Kids gift card (ends August 31st).

Reading is a huge part of my life and I want it to be something my kids grow to love as well. Finding books your kids love is one way to start, and I have a feeling this will grow to be one of his favorites.

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Although I have more experience with princesses and frills, I’m really enjoying finding things my son loves that are helping us make fun memories together. From building huge complex train tracks around our playroom, to snuggling together with a book he loves about trucks and trains, I’m loving every minute of it.

What is your child’s favorite thing?

*A Thank you to I See Me for sponsoring this story, and for sending me one of my new favorite children’s books! Don’t forget you can enter to win your own copy here. As always, all opinions here are my own. 

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Ladies, beware.

snack at the pool

I was going to make this a Wordless Wednesday photo share but I can’t look at this photo without thinking of the funny habit this guy does at the pool every single time we go.

It never fails. We’re at the pool, I’m grabbing him a snack, or getting his sister dried off, or hanging out nearby as he walks up to the nearest lady laying out… Usually in a bikini. He waits until he has her attention, flashes his adorably dimpled grin and says “HIIII!”

The nice lady will smile and say hi back, and he turns around like he’s going to walk away, then turns back around toward her and say hi again. Repeat 5Xs.

He also does this in the middle of groups of two or three women.

Luckily he’s cute, and only 2, or else he would probably come across as a total creep.

And check out those lashes!

More on our pool adventures on my Tampico is Color blog.

 

~Big T is currently 2 years and 3 months old~

My Dear Sweet Son,

I know it’s been awhile since I’ve written you a letter. Far too long if you ask me. I must admit part of that reason is because I think you won’t need or appreciate these as much as your sister might. Of course I know I could be absolutely wrong. You may love and cherish these the most for all I know, so I shouldn’t assume otherwise.

You turned two today. I can’t believe it. It feels like I was just snuggling your tiny infant body and just like that–POOF! You’re two!

biracial toddlerYour sister thought that meant you’d be able to have conversations with her now, and was only slightly disappointed when we once again explained to her that these things were a gradual process.

At times you were a feisty little one-year-old. Many times you nearly made me faint with your daredevil moves flying off the couch, or walking out the front door. I never realized childproof door knobs could be in our future.

For a little while I worried you had some bully in you, but you’ve definitely come back around to your sweet side. You love hugs, and when you’re sleepy or just waking up you like me to carry you around. You and your sister often fight for space on my lap.

One thing I love about you is how independent you are. You can go and play and do your own thing until you want to ask for help, or get tired. You do like company when you move from room to room (unless you’re getting into something you don’t want us to know about) but you can play by yourself for a while.

Some of your favorite things right now: Popcorn, music- especially Wheels on the Bus and Head Shoulders Knees and Toes; books, trucks and TRAINS.

biracial boy trainsYou first saw a train near Grannie’s house and became fascinated with the sound and watching it go by from the window. Then when we visited Disney World you saw trains everywhere and officially became obsessed. It’s the cutest obsession ever though. We probably hear the words“Choo Choo” out of your mouth about 200 times a day.

Although you like to be with whichever parent is leaving the house at the time, you definitely seem to be a mama’s boy. I’m not sure if your dad would agree, but your big smile and welcoming hug every time we reunite says it all to me.

My sweet son, you’re only two but I want you to know that we are so proud of you. You’ve learned so much these past couple of years and I can’t wait to see what you do next. I hope your sweet side never leaves, and that you continue to love books, learning, and playing. I hope you’ll continue to ask me for help when you need it, and always know that I’m here for you. I’m your biggest fan!

Love you always my little one!

Love,

Mommy

A few weeks ago my son could hardly sit still for a book. I wrote about it being National Read Aloud Month and realized I could be doing better myself. That night I started pulling books from his shelves and reading a few to him each evening. At first he could sit for one, then he’d ask for his bottle and chill through the rest. Now he keeps handing me things to read and yelling “MORE BOOK!”

Video tips for recording your child's favorite book. Make memories last

He has a favorite, I have to read it every night. We read it last right before he goes to sleep. Sometimes I even catch him “reading” it to himself during the day. I never want to forget his cute little voice and excitement as we read this book together.

I pulled out my phone the other night to record this little moment. I did it twice, once with the rear camera facing the book, then again with the frontal camera facing us.

A little video recording/editing tip: Recording something that’s going to repeat multiple times and getting multiple angles gives your story more dimension, and makes you feel like you’re there in the action when you watch your video back later. It also makes editing easier because you have more video to choose from.

What’s your kiddo’s favorite book?

Prepare to behold one of the cutest things you’ve ever seen.

Big T ha always loved to move to music. It’s one reason I decided to let him join his sister and I at Family Zumba, despite his young age. That’s where he first danced to Lil Jon’s ‘Turn Down for What’. Well, in the beginning he didn’t really dance, he stood there and looked at all of us like we were crazy. After a few more weeks of joining in with mommy, and practicing the moves at home with his sister, he stated to look forward to that song.

My husband works out in the garage with the kids and he’ll play songs over our bluetooth speaker while having what they call “dance parties.” Usually the tunes consist of Disney on Pandora, but he also takes request. This song and Shakira’s “La la la” song are always topping their charts.

swag baby biracial family(Do you see how much swag he has in this photo?)

As I watched him dancing a couple weeks ago I noticed he will run in place real fast when the music speeds up, and then sort of “super shake” when the music hits a point right before stopping.

He always holds up his hands and shakes his head and hands really fast. So fast you almost can’t tell he’s moving. In fact, I had recorded him dancing to the song on New Years and I couldn’t tell that’s what he was doing, but my husband knew exactly what he was up to.

I HAD to get it on camera. I was so worried he’d stop doing his signature move before I was able to record it.

Last night we were all in the kitchen and having a little dance party before bed. Big T was getting tired and just wanted me to hold him, but when this part of his song came on he was ready to get down.

I grabbed my phone as fast as I could and recorded this:

It was the first time I’d heard him say “for what!” with the song, which makes it that much better. You can barely see it in the video (I tried to get as close as I could without distracting him) but we can tell he’s doing his super shake (as well as some dope facial expressions to go with). You seriously can’t teach that.

Such a simple memory but I know this will be one of his epic moments that we will be playing at his wedding (maybe he’ll do it again for all of us then). All I needed was my phone handy to catch and preserve it. Maybe one of these days I’ll get creative and make a music video for him, but really, this is all we need.

Do you have any epic moments you’ve caught on camera?

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