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I’m a whole new person!

And I don’t mean that in a good way. Pregnancy week 6, 7, 8, and 9-11 have been kicking my butt.

A few weeks ago I lamented my laziness and lack of domestic skills. Truth is, I’m lazy with just about everything right now and the thought of doing anything I don’t HAVE to do, makes me nauseous.

If I were to sum up the first couple months-ish of pregnancy I haven’t been blogging about it would be like this: L-A-Z-Y!

Top, belt, cardigan: JC Penny; Black skinny jeans: Ross; Necklace and earrings: Burlington Coat Factory

When people hear you’re pregnant they want to know if you’re feeling sick, or puking. But I’m not sure many people who haven’t been pregnant truly understand the serious fatigue pregnant women feel, especially in their first trimester (and last, but by then everyone knows you’re tired and done with being pregnant).

When I get home from work it takes SO much effort to do anything else. I can’t remember the last time I went to the grocery store. I’m learning to be resourceful because I don’t even feel like going back out for food. I scrounge for cans of soup, raviolis, pasta, frozen dinners, ANYTHING that only requires me to microwave, boil or stick in the oven.

When my friends invite me to do things it takes great willpower to not decline. A few days ago a friend invited us to go to an inflatable playground then dinner after and I was extremely proud of myself for going. I had worked from 4-1, took a nap from about 2:30-3:30, then picked Lil’ J up from school and we went straight out to play. Had my friend not invited us out I would probably have overslept and confined us to our house for the afternoon. Like I have pretty much every day before and since then.

I’m not a huge proponent for kids and TV, not that I’m hugely against it either, I just usually find us out doing other things… But that’s not the case right now. Sesame Street, Disney movies, and yes, even that crazy Yo Gaba Gaba show are my saving grace right now. When I get a day off, and she wakes up early, I can make her a quick breakfast, turn on a show, and if I’m lucky, sleep an extra hour. I’m not a bad mom, I’m just pregnant, and I’m pretty sure that gives me a pass for a little while.

When I get home from an early shift, and I’m exhausted, I ask her if she wants to watch a princess movie (of course she does) and I can sit with her, and teach her the songs.

To my credit, in between our marathon television watching I do try to add in some craft time, puzzle time, games, or toy-playing time but overall, I’m just being a clump of lard.

I seriously don’t know how people have more than two children… Unless the second and first keep each other busy so you can rest more. And remember how I wanted them just two years apart? It’s probably a good thing that didn’t happen. Lil’ J is much more independent than she was 6-9 months ago, which makes my neglect less noticeable.

Writing to-do lists are my THING. Or they were. I love lists, and tackling them. But not right now. Surviving work is a big enough feat, and entertaining my sweet child for the remainder of the day is the maximum I can handle. Even taking my camera out of my bag is too much work. Editing cute photos is more than I want to do.

Oh there is still one thing I like… Online shopping! I can manage that. Maybe a little too well. Since I haven’t been sewing and Lil’ J needs new clothes I bought a few new dresses from Adelaide’s Boutique, and some for myself from Motherhood Maternity.

Top: Banana Republic; Jean capris: Old Navy; Necklace: Burlington Coat Factory

The thing is, I know I’ve gotta swing out of this. I believe this next year is a crucial time for me. I’m trying to figure things out, pinpointing my passions and goals, and I feel like I’m on the cusp of something new an exciting. Ok yes, the new baby but something else too. I’m flying to NYC today for a special project. I’ll be able to tell you more about it soon, but I’m really excited about it, and hoping it’ll be the kick in the behind I need to figure out what’s next. Don’t let me get into how excited I am to be flying ALONE for the first time in two years. No toddler to tote around, I can sleep if I want, heck, just RESTING will be nice! Oooh I can’t wait.

I was talking to a friend I admire at work last week. He has so much going on an manages to keep successful side projects going on top of his full time job. I told him I have so many ideas but just not enough time to execute them. He said “you’ve gotta make time.”

Now telling this to a pregnant mother with manic tendencies isn’t exactly healthy, but it sent a little spark to the dormant pre-preggo mom deep DEEP down inside who managed to do everything I’m doing and so much more.

I’m not mad at the current me for wanting to be lazy. I’ll give her a few more weeks. But then it’s time to get to work. Because by the time we reach maternity leave, we need to have some balls rolling, and be gettin’ some bidness done.

One thing I have actually been working on are my weekly pregnancy updates (as seen above). I’m current on taking them (I’m at 11 weeks now) but not current on editing them all. I hope to catch up on the ride to/from New York. I was inspired by several different pregnancy documentation ideas. I liked the project pregnancy weekly shirt idea, but didn’t want to wear the same thing every week, like I did last time, and whatdoyaknow–I didn’t feel like making a shirt. Ultimately I decided to try something similar to this project. Except I started much earlier and I’m taking all of these photos myself, in my bedroom, no studio or lights. Just a tripod and remote. If anyone’s interested I may post a tutorial later on in my pregnancy, once my energy comes back!

Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going back to sleep!


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Erin Marie says:

With my second baby, Lynne spent a lot of time watching movies. Since she was *stops to count* 18 months?, I would lay on the couch and stick her behind my bent knees, so I knew she was contained and would know if she moved.

With baby #3, our family room is pretty baby proofed, and they’re stuck in there with me because of a baby gate. They watched a lot of Netflix. Mostly because I would have to wake up every 20 minutes or so to start a new episode, so I was able to check on them really quick before I had to close my eyes again.

Don’t ask me what I’m going to do for the next pregnancy with three kids running around. I have no idea.

Pregnancy fatigue seems to hit me harder than most other moms I know, but I figure it’s making up for the fact that I only throw up once per pregnancy.

Heather says:

Oh the pregnancy fatigue! I tried to explain it to my husband, but there is no way to give it justice. I used to always tell myself this is because my body is working so hard to help the baby grow.

With my 2nd and 3rd we watched a lot of TV and I would play “games” with my 16 month old first born from the couch. With my third my children were a little older so they would play dr with me, checking my heart, temp, etc while I, you guessed it, lounged on the couch.

Good luck! You will get through it!!!

Mrs. Mom says:

Oh, i canit WAIT for that tutorial. I don’t really comment here but I was def going to have to tell you I am LOVING not only your weekly updates but you look amazing! I’m loving the blue clothes (is your subconscious telling you to think blue?!?! :)) and thank you for letting us know where you got it. I like your stuly and your poses are too cute!

Okay, I also can’t wait to hear what you have cooking (not in your belly, well yes that too but I’m talking about your other plans)! I’m just excited for you in general, lol!

First I want to say, You do have a little bump at seven weeks! And those updates are AMAZING! The second (and third!) bump out so much faster! I was convinced my 3rd baby was twins 😉 Hang in there Momma!The fatigue is the worst part when you have other kids. I think the first time around you just sleep when you’re tired so it doesn’t seem as bad but when you have other kids to take care of, it sure makes that fatigue seem unbearable! With my 3rd it took till about 17 weeks before I started feeling my energy come back. Seemed like a lifetime. I promise that nesting urge WILL hit you and then you will be all crazy productive and climbing into bouncy houses to play with your 2 year old while you are ginormously pregnant (true story). Don’t you dare feel bad for the “neglect” lil J may be experiencing at the moment. I’m sure she is excited for getting all that TV time. It’s just a glimpse into having to split your time between the two kids. Which is hard and wonderfully worth it 🙂 Grow baby grow!

AmyRyb says:

I am right there with you. My house hadn’t been cleaned in two months, and other than hopping on the computer at night after putting my son to bed, I wanted to do NOTHING. Now at 14 weeks it’s starting to get better, but I still have moments where I just feel like a blob. I’ve been far more uncomfortable this time around (all around–nausea and feeling large, which I know I’m not but it feels that way), so half the time I just feel like sleeping. It’s the only thing that’s gotten my butt in bed by 11ish most nights, and I should still be going to bed earlier!

Veronika says:

You are too cute!! I have been terrible at blogging lately and reading my favorite blogs too :-/ but I am so excited and happy for you and your family! Congrats on the new addition! (:

Ty says:

Once again, congrats. By the way, I love how you’re documenting your pregnancy through pics! The format you’re using is so cute.

YUMMommy says:

I so remember that feeling of laziness throughout my second pregnancy. Don’t beat yourself up too much. You’re managing a full-time job, a toddler, a husband, dog, outings, the blog and who knows what else. Doesn’t sound like you’re being too lazy to me.

I would love a tutorial on your how you’re creating these beautiful little updates pics. I’ve been trying to dabble around in photography and when it comes to photo editing software I’m completely clueless. Happy 11 weeks and hope you have arrive in NY safely.

Candice says:

Oh Congrats on the new baby news! I am 16 weeks with my 2nd and I SO get you!! I was literally a blob for 99% of my first trimester. and OH! was the mommy-guilt heavy…my toddler could “tell” something was different with me. I praised my husband every day for picking up the slack. Seriously, I praised any single parent!

Anyway, give yourself a pat on the back for growing a new person AND keeping the humor! 🙂 Glad to be one this journey with you again! 🙂

Quiana says:

Love the new format of your updates this pregnancy! If anyway possible we can meet up for a quick hello while you’re in NYC I’d love that. Have a safe trip =)

Jacquie says:

My kids are 3 yrs apart…..with jada (6) my oldest I thought I was a super hero when I was pregnant. With Jason (3) all I did was sleep no lie. I would come from work make dinner go to bed. My mom was a huge help cause jada wanted no part of me while I was pregnant. She would pat the belly and then ask to g to grandma’s and I was happy to send her. Lol take as much rest and sleep as you are pregnant don’t fight it! 🙂

Denese says:

Oh girl!!! Relating is not even the word!! Colston’s watching so much dora and umizoomi that I have been feeling terrible! Out the window has been our regular puzzles, word games etc. I have just been laying in bed! I stay home, and I still have barely managed to roll out and make it to the kitchen. My dear husband, bless his heart, has been picking up the slack, or should I say holding us together! He cooks, cleans, does the laundry, entertains Colston and brings me food (none that I have made hehe). Did I mention bless his heart? I am lucky that he works from home 3 days a week.
I have been more sick with this second than ever! I will be 14 weeks tomorrow and I give up, I called in the big guns and asked for something for the nausea. What’s the sense if I can’t eat or drink anything? So starting tomorrow, I will hopefully be feeling better. Maybe you should consider it, if you’re feeling really sick especially with work and your hectic schedule.
BTW, your pictures have inspired me to document the process. I did with the first, but as I mentioned earlier, the energy has not been there.

Emily says:

I LOVE your pregnancy updates! The photos are fabulous…you look gorgeous! Can’t wait to see more…after you’ve rested up! 🙂

So, so, so cute Jen. I love that you took these of yourself. Can you teach me? I have so much to learn about self portraits! I am excited for you 🙂

Congrats on baby #2! I’m 22 weeks with our second, another little boy! You look amazing. I love the photos w/ narrative, such a creative thing to do and what a great way to remember your pregnancy later on!

Laura M. says:

Yay, you look great and I can’t wait to see more pictures. I’m going to live through you this time. lol. Can’t wait to see more. Hugs and hope the trip goes great!

Cute cute cute! I hope you feel much better real soon. Paid maternity leave should relly star as soon as pregnancy begins!

Veronica says:

Wow you take some fantastic self portraits and you look amazing.

savanna says:

Awww, aren’t u cute as a button….and I know your more than happy. Congrats

Ricka says:

Okay, you are making me feel horrible for totally slacking on documenting my son’s (baby #2) pregnancy. 🙁 My updates are (1) I’m pregnant!; (2) It’s a boy!; (3) He’s here; (4) Happy 9 Months, Zachary….lol. My poor second child. 🙁

You look cute! I love the updates. Burning question, though…HOW on Earth do you find the time to do all that you do?! I, too, am a working mommy, and I’m in awe at all that you’re able to accomplish. Amazing!

I read your blog way back in the day when Little J was just a twinkle in your eye. And now you are adding Baby #2 to your family!!! Your daughter is beautiful and I am so happy for you!!!

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