“You can’t plan to be fun,” my husband told me. I was still a bit peeved about our little game of truth or dare with my daughter where she told me which parent she likes more (hint: it wasn’t me!). “You just are.”
I wasn’t sure what he meant at first.
“I totally have fun with the kids,” I said. “We go to the park and the library and do crafts together…” The more activities I mentioned the more I realized the stuff we do together, while fun, is more structured. Much less spontaneous, like my husband who at any time might suddenly turn into a pro-wrestler and pick the kids up for a body slam. He’s getting into it and having fun.
Am I having fun?
When it comes to doing fun things together as a family, I’m the one who gets us there. I’m the one who plans the outing, packs the right hiking sneakers, and makes sure we have snacks for a picnic. My husband is the one who plays referee during their races, or races with them. He catches them when they jump off trees, and carries them on his shoulders.
I might ask my kids to identify a rock, my husband will ask them how far they can skip it. He’ll tighten their Merrell Moab sneakers and ask to see who can run the fastest.
This week I started to realize something when my daughter turned on the Hamilton soundtrack then came in my room to see if I was performing.
“Are you going to sing?” she asked. It dawned on me there are very few times my kids see me give into silliness. I think I’m a “fun parent” because I allow them to have fun opportunities. But my kids want me to be the fun parent who experiences it along with them.
They want me to climb the tree, to get in the pool, to jump on the bed, and sing and dance in front of them.
I really need to stop and ask myself Am I having fun? Because they notice.
They don’t just want me to be a fun parent. They want me to have fun. I think I’m going to start taking them up on that more often.
Are you having fun while parenting?
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