It started with my initial “Doula Dilemma“, then I took that advice I got from there and Twitter and wrote again: “To Doula or Not to Doula.” Then I wrote my decision on my Real Mom TV Blog. Here’s an excerpt:
“I’ve thought a lot about this and it’s hard to admit this publicly amongst so many people who’ve been pushing me to hire a doula as labor support, but as the title of this post suggests, I’ve decided not to hire a doula.
I’ve been back and forth with the doula thing and weighing the pluses and minuses for me. I made a list of the positives and negatives of hiring a doula, and while the list of positives was longer when it came to services a doula can provide… I’ve read the benefits over and over (and doulas themselves will always tell you the MANY benefits). But when I compared it to what mattered MOST to me: Feeling like my husband and I are experiencing it and making decisions together, experiencing this special milestone alone (Ok, so when you’re pushing you’re not alone but there are hours of down time between nurse visits and whatnot) and feeling a since of accomplishment that WE did it… It outweighed many of the reasons I wanted to hire a doula…“
I wrote my doula decision a couple of days ago and that’s the first part of my explaining my decision. You can read the rest here on my Real Mom TV Blog. Penny for your thoughts.