Kissing on the lips: He says/ She says

I watch as my kids get ready to say go to bed, say goodbye, or whatever–and turn to give their daddy a kiss. They pucker up, lean in, and so does he, but right before their lips touch he turns his head to instead receive a kiss on the cheek.

Sometimes he’ll turn too soon and our son or daughter will turn as well, realigning for the lips. They’ll do a face tango until one of them finds victory.

He says/ she says: A husband/wife discussion about kissing on the lips.
She says (after watching in frustration):
Let the baby kiss you on the lips! Jeez!

He says: Huh?

She says: Why do you always turn your head, that’s not a real kiss!

He says: They don’t need to kiss me on the lips. That’s weird.

She says: No it’s not! They kiss me on the lips, and each other! Don’t psyche them out like that!

He says: They kiss each other on the lips? They don’t need to do that.

She says: Oh my gosh, really? It’s cute. Let’s just enjoy it while it lasts.

He says/ she says: A husband/wife discussion about kissing on the lips.

I watched him later as he let our kids lay one right smack dab on the lips. He tried to hold out, but couldn’t wait to wipe it off. I decided to let that slide, and get into that back and forth conversation another day.

But I know it’s only a matter of time until they don’t want to kiss us on the lips, or give us hugs, or be seen with us in public (oh please, never let that day come!).

Do you kiss your child on the lips?

I was raised by lip-kissers, so it’s no big deal to me. My dad didn’t like the lip action from us either, but we didn’t mind. And kisses from my babies are some of the sweetest gifts they give me. I can’t imagine turning away or wiping them off… Unless it was a snot-faced kiss, but I’d at least wait until they weren’t looking before rubbing it away.

What say you? Are you lip kissers at your house? Or are you not a fan of kissing on the lips?

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  1. thanks for sharing< i always wondered too. in my family we only hugged. so kissing my kids on the lips is a little weird but if they want to i dont mind reciving kisses on the lips. my husband kisses but not on the lips (with the kids) but i dont mind. its all up to the person looks like.

  2. my son kisses my husband and I on the lips. But everyone else he kisses in the cheek. I love all the kisses and hugs that he throws my way.

  3. I’m with you, Jennifer. My babies kiss on the mouth and it can happen for as long as they want. They are the purest, most innocent expressions of love, and I never want it to end.

  4. I kiss my baby smack dab on the lips, but I do turn my head to the sidewhen she gives kisses , but only because right now.. she gives OPEN mouth kisses. Shes only 1 and hasn’t figured out how to pucker up 😉 hahaha. Its super cute how she blows kisses. I might have to post it online.

    1. Haha, Lil’ J used to love to give the open mouth kisses too. I loved them, they always made me laugh, but yea, they’re totally gross. ha! I’d love to see a video of her blowing kisses, that sounds so cute!

  5. This was sooooooo cute!!!!! I made a conscious decision that lip kissing would be fine between us until she felt comfy with it or she began to date. My x had no problems with lip kissing I found it cute to watch them when she was younger. The baby is now 20 clearly dating but every now and then she still kisses me on the lips. I think it is totally fine again until they show otherwise. But I don’t agree with anyone outside hubby and siblings, I don’t think baby or toddler should be kissing auntie, cousin, grandma etc…. Love the share as always 🙂

    1. I’m with you… not outside of husband and siblings… Though I have noticed one of my sisters kissing my son on the lips. haha. He doesn’t seem to mind yet so I don’t mind, but I doubt it will last much longer. Thanks for reading Mari!

  6. We are lip kissers with the exception of my husband who’s not a fan of kisses period. I think most guys though aren’t a fan having their children kiss them on the lips, but there are cultures in which children kiss their parents on lips well into adulthood. Honestly, it’s not a big deal. However, we have limited the kids to only giving lip kisses to Mommy, Grandma and my baby sister to limit the spread of germs.

  7. we are lip kissers over here! My husband will kiss my son In the cheek constantky but not in the lips. I think it’s just a guy thing. I grew up in a family of lip kissers so I didn’t think anything about it.

  8. We’re both totally for it. The Hubs was totally against it at first but when it happened on accident once he changed his mind. I think it’s sweet and it won’t last forever anyway.

  9. I don’t know how I’ll feel when we have kids but as of right now cheek kisser and I’m always weirded out when my little (baby) cousins grab my face and try to plant one on my lips.

  10. Lips here. But I know add a married adult I am no longer comfortable with lip kisses from my mom and grandma. Although they don’t seem to share this sentiment! I think kids age out of lip kisses to family and it’s perfectly innocent when they’re young.

  11. I still kiss my family on the lips (mom, grandma). My husband has no problem kissing on the lips now, but I know that will change at some point. That said, we have a friend, adult male, who still kisses his mom on the lips. Too each their own. 🙂

  12. I always used to just kiss my daughter on the cheek. I’m not an overly affectionate person. Showing physical affection is something I have to conciousely work on everyday. One day recently she saw her dad and I kiss on the lips. Now she insists on being kissed on the lips. She won’t kiss my cheek for nothing. I’m still getting used to it, but I don’t think there is anything wrong with her kissing her parents or baby brother on the lips, if she’s not sick.

    1. Oh my goodness that is too funny!! She’s sold! My daughter is a huge fan too! I agree, don’t think it’s a big deal if no one is sick.

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