When washing my daughter’s hair in the tub her curls stretch down to her hips. My little sister (my hair assistant for the night) stood by me, and commented.
“Her hair is SO LONG,” she said.
Yea, and she has a lot of it.
Our hair routine has changed since I wrote it years ago, and it’s about time I write some updates with new favorite products and what not… I’ll get to it soon. But lately, almost every time while washing her hair I admire the length, adorable soft curls, and I can’t help it as my mind wanders, wondering what it would look like blown straight.
Now don’t freak out. I don’t even own a blow drier, and I haven’t used heat on my hair for about a year. I’m enjoying my natural curls, and it’s all Lil’ J has ever known for herself. But curiosity tends to get the best of me.
I asked my mom when she straightened my hair for the first time. If her memory serves her correctly I was about eight. My sister was four. Straightening for us never meant chemicals, but rather a hot comb that was set on a stove and pulled through my hair after it was blown straight. Later in life it meant flat irons.
Nowadays I feel many moms like myself lean in the other direction, not wanting to touch our daughters’ precious curls with a spec of heat, much less chemicals.
My mom (thankfully) never allowed me to chemically straighten my hair. I’m so grateful for that.
The nice thing about our hair is that the curls come naturally. A fancy blow-out wouldn’t be too difficult here and there in the future, and a rinse under the shower will bring the curls back to life.
The downside however is bringing that awareness to her mind. Would she love her straight hair more? Would I be planting some sort of self-hating seed?
Alright, maybe I’m exaggerating a little. She’d be fine. But I’m not going down that road just yet. Curiosity can wait. At least until she starts asking about it a dozen times or so. Then I may consider it, and I might be a tad excited at the opportunity to experiment together.
Do you have girls with curly hair? Do you ever experiment with blowing it straight?