That Time I Had a Dream My Husband Had an Affair

It’s probably never the best idea to binge watch TV right before bed. Never mind the fact that I do this most nights. Not that I’m sitting there on my couch only watching TV. I’m actually editing pictures, responding to emails, writing, and catching up at work at the same time. I’m pretty good at multitasking and I have a pretty good attention span–At least when it comes to the TV watching part.

Sometimes I’ll fall asleep on my couch with my laptop on my lap and Netflix going in the background–Continuing on multiple episodes past what I was watching so I never know where I really left off the next day. And sometimes I’m diligent and just watch what I have saved on my DVR and limit myself to background music after that. Two nights ago wasn’t one of those nights.

I was caught up in an episode of Grey’s Anatomy. So much so that I texted a friend about it before bed.

“Did you watch last Thursday’s episode?”

So many flashbacks! So much funny. (Oh, and I feel like I should stop here to add that I haven’t actually been watching this show for 11 years straight. I’m not that dedicated. No, I picked it up during maternity leave with my son about 3 years ago (thanks Netflix!)).

Anyway, I guess all of the TV drama transferred to my dreams because I had one of the most vivid dreams I can remember in a long time.

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I was in an elevator with my husband with another woman. She was blond,beautiful, and was telling me she had an affair with my husband. I was like “Girl, stop playin’!” I looked to my husband for confirmation and he admitted it was true.


My life was over. Completely blindsided I stood there so angry (I remember contemplating murder), so hurt, so SO SAD. So many thoughts went through my mind. ‘How am I going to do this single-mom thing?’ ‘How could he do this after 11 years of marriage? We were SO happy. I was SO in love.’ ‘How would I break this news on my blog?’(–I’m quite surprised my blog made it into my dream and that this was one of my top of my concerns.)

I hadn’t felt so sad in my entire life.

Big T climbed into bed and woke me up and I was SO relieved.

Yes, child! Thank you for kicking me in the face because HALLELUJAH IT WAS JUST A DREAM!

My husband had already left for work but I texted him about my dream and told him how sad I was. He told me I knew that would never happen, and I said I knew that but ya know… What ifs and whatnots and that I was relieved I wouldn’t have to pull an OJ.

When he got home from work I gave him a hug and told him I missed him and he LAUGHED knowing assuming I was still coming down from my bad dream.

But it’s true, I have been a little nicer, and I may or may not be tracking his texts.

… Sorry, were you expecting this post to have a deep life lesson or actual point?


Ok here’s one: No more Grey’s Anatomy before bed.

Have you ever had a dream about your husband cheating on you? Any life lessons to share?

*WTF= What the freak.

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christina says:

too funny :)…love the randomness

Haha thanks! This was REALLY random and I was still half asleep when I wrote it this morning. haha

Grace says:

I haven’t dreamt that my husband had an affair, but I did dream that he died once, and it was so real! I have never cried more gut wrenchingly. We were having a bit of a rough spot on our marriage, though nothing to do with infidelity, and when I woke up, I really felt that I had been given another chance, that my husband had been dead and was alive again, was lost and then was found. I remember being so grateful to listen to his snores!! The gratitude for him lasted for a long time and really helped me appreciate him!

I HATE those dreams!! They are os gut-wrenching aren’t they? You’re exactly right though, when we wake up we feel like we’re getting another chance! Thanks for your comment Grace 🙂

Erin Marie says:

I had a dream where my sweet, dear, kind, do-anything-for-anyone mother-in-law was SO underhanded and manipulative… I was mad at this poor woman for the rest of the day.

On the one hand, I could laugh at the fact that I was angry with someone for something they did in a dream that is completely out of character. On the other hand, I was REALLY angry.

Dani says:

I may or may not have made John apologize for something he did in a dream. #justsayin

Monica says:

I’ve had ALL the dreams… Him cheating, me almost cheating (which I never do – even in my dreams – because I feel SO guilty! lol…), him dying, my daughter disappearing. Dreams are the worst.

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