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Clomid Debate: He Says/ She Says

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He says/ she says this week submitted by Tara. Not me, don’t worry!
She Says: “We’ve been trying a year, we should try Clomid.”
He Says: “I don’t want twins.”
What say ye?


His response just made me LOL!!

Coming from someone who has been trying for two years and has been on Clomid for the past four months while doing IUIs, I would say that you probably should, but beware of the side effects (the worst ones for me have been hot flashes and mood swings) and to be an advocate for YOUR body. Ultimately, the answers to questions like this should always be answered by the female who will be going through the fertility treatments, because it’s easier for people who aren’t going through it to say whatever they want.

Cindy says:

I say wait. You’re still bf’ing some, right? Don’t introduce chemicals to your body when your body is probably already functioning just the way it should.

Not me not me Cindy! I made it bigger so people can see, haha!

Kimberly says:

when I saw this headline I was like WHAT?! haha.

as another one on Clomid, I would also say yes, despite the fact that I also get the ridiculous hot flashes! Yes, the incidence of twins is higher than natural conception. but it’s much lower than with injectibles, which is usually the next step if you fail to succeed on Clomid, and the longer you wait / older you get the more likely that becomes. current age is a big factor too.

also I think part of the question is whether the problem is known. if you know there’s ovulatory dysfunction you shouldn’t wait. if there’s no sign of ovulatory dysfunction (and that probably means the woman needs to at least have been charting if not had all the tests done) maybe it’s easier to wait? have not been there myself. on that note a semen analysis is a must because no point in Clomid if he’s the problem.

I also think the argument has to be “would you rather risk twins, or would you rather risk no biological children?” and both partners have to end up on the same page there.

agree also that it should be up to the female who has to deal with all this AND has to deal with the fallout if they wait longer and it still doesn’t work.

Anonymous says:

Been there and I would suggest going to get checked out first. See a reproductive endocrinologist if possible. Would hate for “she” to go through all the yucky side effects if “he” (heaven forbid) has a problem.

Crystal says:

Wow….although twins are double the work, they’re such a joy:-) But he probably has his reasons….I hope things work out.

toi says:

Have hope and maybe wait a little bit longer. Good luck and baby dust to Tara and Hubby :).

melifaif says:

That photo + that quote = perfection. You wouldn’t believe everything I am already dealing with at PRE-pre-school. Brown vs. white and all that. UGH! So, this picture is speaking to my heart and soul today.

Rania says:

I’d say wait. Twins would scare me too…

Domestica says:

I am all about upping the chances of twins and getting a two for one special!

LOL Domestica’s answer. Me too…kinda.

I agree 100% with Kimberly’s answer though.

See what’s up before you resort to the drugs. Good Luck

And when I saw clomid in the title i was like WTF is Jennifer doing!?? but I’m glad I opened and read the full post. LOL

xo,
Dani
http://www.okdani.com

Jessica says:

I’m all for visiting a reproductive specialist to find out if there’s a problem before assuming that Clomid will help. I’m of the opinion that every other outlet should be pursued before using drugs to induce a pregnancy.

Maybe a little more patience, prayers, and hope are in order as well. My brother and sister-in-law had been TTC for barely a year, and she went on Clomid. She got pregnant, but miscarried early on. Two months later, they conceived on their own.

Anonymous says:

wait until a year. I took clomid and am expecting my first child. We were pregnant on our own once but I miscarried. They recommended the lowest dose of clomid and I produced one egg! The chance of having twins increases by 10% with clomid so odds are still pretty good that you will not become pregnant with twins!

Jennifer says:

After a year it isn’t going to hurt to try it. But beware it could make you into a lunatic. I took it for about six months or so (it didn’t work for me) and one day I was talking to my boss and busted out crying for no reason. I was completely humiliated.

YUMMommy says:

I personally believe in letting nature and God do their work. We try to rush everything as it is. It was three years before we got Moo and never once did I think about interfering with Mother Nature’s process. It could be your bodies way of telling you it’s not ready.

Mrs. K says:

I just had this convo with my husband. We haven’t been really trying but we talked about what if we did try for a while without success, would we try it? I know we, we talk about/brainstorm everything. We would not have any problems with using clomid if it’s necessary–wouldn’t take it though just to increase chance of multiple births.

I totally believe in leaving it in God’s hands also. I always tell my friends to quit “trying”. What is yours will come in due time. How do we know it s time for us to have a child or another child? I have 2 kids and am pregnant with our 3rd, never used any form of birth control, no “trying”. Why don’t I have 10 kids by now? Each child was ultimately part of God’s plan for us…My mentor was told she could not have kids. Years into their marriage(10+), no kids. She has now been married 20 years with 3 kids, no reproduction assistance.

Frisck says:

I have a happy clomid story. I have PCOS and spent 2 years trying to get pregnant ‘naturally.’ I did naturopathy, Chinese medicine, had the healthiest diet/exercise regime imaginable and no luck. Eventually I took a very low dose of Clomid and was pregnant, with my now 5 year old daughter, straight away. It was a bit invasive – I had lots of blood tests and internal ultrasounds, but there were no terrible side effects from the drug itself. I also have a beautiful 4 month old son who was conceived unexpectedly and without any intervention what so ever. So getting pregnant once with clomid seemed to cure my infertility.

I am in Australia, so it might be different here, but there was no real risk of an accidental multiple pregnancy because I had an internal ultrasound to see how many eggs I had released before they told us to have sex! The doctor said that if it looked like a multiple pregnancy could occur, they would tell us to hold out and wait until the following month.

I would say that if you are not ovulation, clomid can be a miracle drug for some people.

Feliz4life says:

This is one that me and hubby are talking about right now. He doesn’t want twins and I would love it. At the end of the day the real question for us is “Would we rather have twins or no child at all?”

Brandi Elam says:

I tried for a year to get pregnant with my first, then had surgery for endometriosis, then tried for another year. After some testing, I found out I was not ovulating. I took Clomid at a low dose for seven months and it helped kick start my body into gear. I started ovulating and conceived a single baby girl. At a low dose, Clomid can be a good tool to help someone who is not ovulating begin to ovulate. I think it’s important to know what the issue is first before taking any medication. I did not have any issues with Clomid and I don’t regret taking it. Like a previous poster mentioned, my next child was conceived very easily, and Clomid seemed to “cure” my infertility. Good luck to Tara with her decision.

Elana says:

As long as the doctor is monitoring the Clomid, s/he can make sure there’s only one egg developing and change the dosage in future cycles to prevent twins. Go for it!

Your pregnancy doesn’t have to result in twins. Actually, fertility doctors are starting to discourage multiples. NPR had an interesting segment on twins and fertility treatments yesterday. maybe you can find it online. in summation, twins are becoming increasingly popular as a voluntary outcome of treatment, but many couples don’t realize the dangers of carrying twins (premature birth, birth defects, lifelong physical and mental disabilities). it’s worth taking a listen. You both should visit a doctor who can explain the pros and cons of all the fertility treatment options.
Wishing you a BFP one day soon!

Tara says:

im so so glad i found your blog!
i agree, if the dr is monitoring go for it!

taranbrandon.blogspot.com

fromaspeck says:

We tried for a year. I took Clomid once and got twins! But mine are identical twins….I don’t think Clomid produces many identical twins, but who knows.

My husband would love to have twins. He thinks twins are adorable. Not me though! I can only imagine how much more work that is!

As for the Clomid, I think it really depends on this couple’s situation. After a year I believe you’re supposed to seek medical support to find out if there’s a problem. That said, male issues are supposed to be far more common and much easier to fix. I really think they should talk to their doctor about all their options.

fromaspeck says:

We tried for a year. I took Clomid once and got twins! But mine are identical twins….I don’t think Clomid produces many identical twins, but who knows.

Kimberly says:

when I saw this headline I was like WHAT?! haha.

as another one on Clomid, I would also say yes, despite the fact that I also get the ridiculous hot flashes! Yes, the incidence of twins is higher than natural conception. but it’s much lower than with injectibles, which is usually the next step if you fail to succeed on Clomid, and the longer you wait / older you get the more likely that becomes. current age is a big factor too.

also I think part of the question is whether the problem is known. if you know there’s ovulatory dysfunction you shouldn’t wait. if there’s no sign of ovulatory dysfunction (and that probably means the woman needs to at least have been charting if not had all the tests done) maybe it’s easier to wait? have not been there myself. on that note a semen analysis is a must because no point in Clomid if he’s the problem.

I also think the argument has to be “would you rather risk twins, or would you rather risk no biological children?” and both partners have to end up on the same page there.

agree also that it should be up to the female who has to deal with all this AND has to deal with the fallout if they wait longer and it still doesn’t work.

jennikah says:

I want her dress so bad for my little girl ! I can’t find it on their site . 🙁

It was a custom dress, look in her “sold items” section. I tried to comment on your blog but blogger is being dumb!

A year is too early to think otherwise. although my comment came late

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