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Can Stress Serve as Birth Control?

As I noted earlier, one of our cars was broken into earlier this week. We know it could happen anywhere but we’ve been wondering a little bit about out area for awhile now. We live in a nice neighborhood but in a “bad area.” Not bad like drive bys and what not… Just not the best area when it comes to crime and drugs apparently.
But like I said, our little neighborhood of townhomes is nice, and we got a good deal, so we’re debating a little. Our lease is up in November, so we don’t have a long time to decide. In fact, I think we have a few weeks.
If you follow me on Twitter you may have seen my constant whining about my dead computer. Yes, my beautiful and wonderful Macbook Pro has sortof died. “Why didn’t you buy the extended warranty?” Well I did. And it expired three months ago… Figures.
So I haven’t had time to blog. Yes, I know it’s only been a day, but I was trying to do a double post thing while the fundraiser is going on.
I’m also not able to tweet as often, make anything with Photoshop, and I have to re-organize/ start over with the cutest baby/kid/pet contest!
If you’ve emailed me and I haven’t responded don’t be alarmed. I haven’t had much Internet time. The thoughts of my repair bill, and the fact that I didn’t back all of my pictures, documents and programs up doesn’t help my stress level either, and I’m constantly in a bad mood. I’m trying to relax but it’s really difficult when I think about everything at once. I hate that I have to wait until Monday to do anything. I had my husband go to the genius bar at the Apple store and they did the diagnostic, and it’s kind of a big problem.

I have to get my hard drive backed up before they repair it cause everything will most likely be wiped off. But I can’t see anything on the screen so I can’t back it up myself… My IT friend tried to hook it up to another monitor but that didn’t work either.

So Monday I’m waking up at the butt crack of dawn to get my computer fixed! Apple will have to take it away and mail it back to me so it could be *gasp* a week or so until I have it back!!! *sad face*

Maybe it’s a sign. Maybe I rely, and spend a little too much time on my laptop. My husband is pleased to see me more (when I’m not yelling at him to get off his computer, because he’s not allowed to play on his computer when I can’t play on mine.), And I see now it’s Fall. Maybe its’ a nice break from it all. And if anything, it’s a lesson learned. I’ll back up my hard drive more often, and even look into a program called Time Machine.

I’m going to do my best to publish the photo contest tonight… But don’t hate me if it’s more like tomorrow or Monday.

I’m also thinking of scheduling a massage for Monday. I haven’t had a real day off in about a month (when I’m not working I usually babysit in the evenings on my days off), so Monday I want to take a FULL day off and detox! Seriously… I feel like I’m one broken nail away from a nervous breakdown.

Speaking of stress. As my hubs and I were looking over the coming expenses I got a little sad thinking how I had hoped we’d be spending savings money on things for a little one… Not stuff that breaks. But hey… Crap happens right? My mind began to wander and my husband said what I had been thinking inside “Maybe we should wait.”

I don’t think that’s the final decision, but it’s something I’m thinking about. What if this drama is a sign? … Or maybe it’s a test. Either way, I’m wondering if my stress this month can serve as my birth control. I know it’s not good for fertility, and knowing that I’m writing this month off as a lost cause already.

I use to think that “not preventing but not trying” thing sounded ridiculous, but I think I’m beginning to understand what they mean. I can honestly say if I get a BFN next month, I doubt I’ll be very disappointed. But… At least the clock is still running, so if one day I need to get help from a doctor I can saw I’ve been at it awhile.

On a scale from 1-10 on how badly I was trying for a baby I think I went from an 11 to a 5.

Thank heavens though, there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. Look at what we’re doing for March of Dimes! We reached our half-way goal in one week! There’s still three more weeks, and more time to donate, and win prizes! I have a feeling we’ll make our goal. Thanks so much to all of you who have blogged about this cause and been helping me spread the word. And a BIG thank you to those who have donated! 100% of the donations are going to March of Dimes, and 100% of the prizes are going to donors! Yep! This is all for you! 🙂

I’m still getting more interested sponsors too, so be on the lookout for my coming features!

I’m hoping starting Sunday or Monday to get a couple of sponsor features up a day. Luckily we have another computer (it just isn’t as pretty or as easy for me to use as my Mac). If I stay up late a few nights I think I’ll be able to write a bunch and schedule them to post so I can relax more during the week!

Sorry that 90% of this post was me whining. I think sometimes I’ve just gotta let it out!!


Jess says:

Stress def doesn’t help procreation lol however I have been under stress at least half of the times I got preg. In fact when I got preg with Zay I was under more stress that ever (just found out ex was cheatin plus the abuse & crap)& hey like I said Heavenly Father has plans for you big plans, & its all leading somewhere!

BUT look at what good you are doing!!!!! $500 for the march of dimes!!!! WOW! AWESOME!

Crazy Daisy says:

Hang in there girl! {{{HUGS}}}

You have a lot going on, and really have done an amazing job with the March of Dimes fundraiser!

Congrats on the March of Dimes success. Sorry to hear about your macbook pro. I used to consider my macbook to be my significant other – lol. I could not live without it! How old was it and what happened to it? Now I’m nervous about mine!

Kelly says:

Oh my!! I am so glad I found your blog on mormon mommies!! It is great!

If you need me to help or donate in anyway to your efforts I would love to!!

my blog is http://www.givingwhatiam.blogspot.com

I have an Etsy shop and I would love to donate anything from it! Let me know!

bellykell441@aol.com

Kelly

Girlie! You need to go get a good massage!

KK says:

Love time machine, its a must!

As soon as we decided to stop the birth control after it got us to where we thought I’d be able to get pregnant, all hell broke loose. My cousin died, family in the hospital, fiancé of my best friend died. It was a hard couple of months. Then when I started clomid more hell broke loose. I guess the point of my story is that if all hell is set against you, I think you’re on the right track. You and dh are the only ones who can know if the timing is right, but go get that massage and good luck!

Best way to relieve stress? Sex….

MommyJ says:

Definitely get the massage! In my experience, it’s the months that I’m not really trying that I’ve wound up pregnant. Whatever happens, you’ll still be awesome. 🙂

Toni says:

I just posted all kinds of awesome stuff and then the “thing” wouldnt let it go through.

So, in a nut shell, youre great, dont let the stress get to ya, keep God first, start a before baby book and talk about all youre doing while waiting on little one, and definitly get that massage. 🙂

Candace says:

I came across your blog through a friend, and it is adorable. So cute. Anyway, I felt the need to comment on this one because it is something I can totally relate to. We have been married for 6 years, 2 kids and #3 on the way.
Throughout our marriage, it seems like whenever we are on the brink of making an important descision, something we know is right, the adversary wants to get back at us, and do whatever he can to stop it from happenening. When we got married, we were DIRT poor. The day of our wedding, our crappy little car broke down on my husband on the way to the temple- it sucked. We still got married of course, but I think it was just something(along with lots of other little things) that was meant to frustrate us and make us question our decision. And everything worked out in the end.
Every time we have decided it was time for another kid, something has always happened to try to deter us, big and small things. For example, we have been talking for the past year that this summer would be the time to start trying for #3. We had decided. We were ready. And then, the very month we were to start trying, we found out that there was a good chance that my husband would lose his job. Lots of little financial difficulties started popping up(car troubles, unexpected expenses, etc.) We knew that this was the time to add to our family, so we went ahead anyway. My husband didn’t end up losing his job, and I cannot tell you how many blessings have popped up in our lives in the last few months. And I know it is because of our decisions.
So what I am trying to say is, stick with it. You made the righteous decision to start your family, and the adversary isn’t happy about it. He will do all that he can to deter you. But I know that Heavenly Father is not going to forget you and the sacrifices you are making to do what is right. From my own personal experiences I can tell you that you will be blessed. I hope that helps a little, you are seriously so cool. Keep it up!

heather says:

That stinks that your computer has to get fixed. Don’t let the stress get to ya. It will all work out.

That computer situation sounds like something that would happen to me. I always just miss something or just pass the deadline. I bought my husband a Wii at Costco for our anniversary less than two weeks ago and when we were there today I saw that the price dropped by about $100. Sigh.

At least you have a good sense of humor about everything!

ItsKelly says:

You consider not having time to Tweet a stressful event? Really? Maybe a step back and some perspective is needed. I think a massage is a great idea. The first time I got pregnant, it was right after I took a day off work and got a massage. Good luck to you.

Amy says:

Let me know what I can do to help. I just posted on my Facebook page about your contest fertilaid.com/facebook. And have been Tweeting about it (twitter.com/FertilAidAmy). Hopefully a good deal of my followers come check it out!

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