Throughout this pregnancy I’ve tried to get my daughter as involved as I could. We’ve been talking a lot about the baby, buying a couple of things for the baby, and explaining how soon she’ll have a new bed so the baby can use her crib. I’ve shown her the ultrasound pictures though I’m pretty sure she can’t make out much of what it is–If anything.
I contemplated bringing her to my 30 week measurement ultrasound but was worried she wouldn’t get it, and that she’d get bored, scared, confused, or just be uninterested. I asked for feedback on facebook and a lot of you chimed in with your two cents, so thanks!
I heard everything from “my kid was scared, and wondering what they were doing to me” to “my child loved it!” It really was a mix, but at the last minute I decided to wake her up early and bring her, mostly because I didn’t want to wish I had later.
My husband had just made it home from work a few hours earlier I figured I’d let him sleep in and have some mother/daughter bonding time with Lil’ J. So I promised him I wouldn’t find out the sex, and we went on our way. During the ride there, I explained that the “doctor” would turn the lights off and put a camera on my tummy so we could see the baby on the TV. She seemed to understand what I was telling her, and seemed really excited.
We arrived and rode the elevator to our ultrasound room, then I positioned her in a chair right next to me. Lil’ J watched as the technician squeezed the jelly on my belly and waved the wand around.
She was memorized watching the baby on the screen–For all of five minutes. I was torn between watching her reaction and seeing our cute fetus… Just a teeny glimpse into the juggling act that will begin in a matter of months.
Lil’ J was well behaved while we finished up and did measurements. She wanted her snack and eventually told me she wanted the technician to “put the baby away” (close my shirt and finish up). But she was delighted to hold the extra profile pictures she printed out for us of her little brother or sister. In fact, she’s barely wanted to put them down since.
I love that I was able to capture some of these pictures of her with her younger sibling-to-be. And they sure are great keepsakes for our family.
Tips on preparing your little one for becoming a big sibling:
1. Keep the conversations light and positive: Let your little one lead the questions then even ask them what they think the baby is doing in your belly.
2. Read books about the transition: If you need a recommendation let me know!
3. Practice with a baby doll: This can help your child learn to be soft and gentle with a baby.
4. Have some special time with your only-child. My daughter loves going outside and taking photos with mommy, and it was fun capturing these with her little sibling before s/he arrives.