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I can’t believe it’s been about three years since I’ve written about our routine for washing my daughter’s curls.

We’ve updated the process a bit and I’ve been debating writing another post about it because our process hasn’t changed a ton, but we have added a few new tools to our mix.

Instead of breaking down our process step by step like I did here, I thought this time I’d address some FAQs including our updated products list, and include a video tutorial of how we wash.

Biracial hair washing FAQs and a tutorial

1. What products do you use?

We use a lot of the same products and I do switch things around now and then. Right now I still love Herbal Essence Hello Hydration conditioner and I use this alone without shampoo a lot. After swimming I like to use a dab of You Be-Natural Tangle Me Knot Shampoo to cleanse her scalp and hair. Then I’ll rinse and use the conditioner, and then rinse and use another conditioner (I love Curls Curly Q Coconut Dream conditioner) and finally for a leave-in moisturizer I bounce around between a few. One is Curly Q custard, which I’ve been using for years another is Shea Moisture Curl and Style Milk but I mostly use that in a water-mix for spritzing and refreshing because I like it better on my hair. But my two new favorite leave-in moisturizer is You Be-Natural Botanical Soft Curls Curling Creme (and for my hair I use the custard for coiled textures) and my FAVORITE which is great if your curls are feeling really dry is the Shea Moisture Detangling Moisturizer.  I actually sectioned her hair and tried four products I alternate between and this one by far gave us the best results. I’d suggest if you have a bunch you play with try sectioning the hair and trying different products in each part.

2. What tools do you use?

Ok first off, a wide toothed comb is my best friend. I also like to use the Wet Brush. It doesn’t snag or rip the hair. I personally only use it when I’m washing the hair or if I’m brushing it into a pony tail before cheer practice after using a bit of moisturizer. I like to wash her hair in the sink so I can use the hose attachment. She usually lays down on the counter while I wash her hair with a pillow or paper towel roll under her neck. But a mom recently reached out to me saying she invented a tool to turn your bathtub or sink into a shampoo bowl. It’s called a Shampoo Buddy. We tried a prototype and my daughter said it was way more comfortable this way with the soft gel mold under her neck, and the spout helps funnel the water into the sink. It’s not for sail just yet but her Kickstarter is almost up. Chip in to the cause and get your own Shampoo Buddy once it’s hits the shelves (we hope it does!).

3. How often do you wash her hair?

Right now about once a week or so. Sometimes much longer (whoops) and sometimes more often, especially when she’s swimming a lot. But we’ve been trying to stay in the habit of moisturizing every-other night before bed. It makes a big difference. More on that in a bit.

4. How do you keep it from getting frizzy?

Staying on top of moisturizing. Oh man my daughter gets some frizzy hair. We all do when it’s dry. Frizziness is an indicator that you need a bit more moisture on the hair. I’ll re-spray the hair with a water mixture and finger-comb through it when I’m looking for a quick “refresh” of the curls.

5. What do you do between washes?

I mostly braid it up at night and sprits with moisturizer in the morning. I don’t let her wear her hair all down and out all the time lately just because she’s always flipping around or playing in the water. Often it’s in a pony or a bun for cheer. I’d like to get our of this habit though cause the tight bands all the time can cause breakage.

6. How do you manage it at night?

I did another video of that process in a vlog recently. I’ve since changed it a little. I do little sections when it is in need of a good detangling. But otherwise, I’m combining the hair now into one or two (three max) braids before bed. I find it keeps her curl pattern better than a bunch of twists. I still like the small twists as I’m working through the hair, but while it sets to dry, I like it to be in one big braid for easier take down later.

7. Does she sleep on it while wet?

Yep. I try to wring it out first so it’s not totally sopping, but it’s ok if it’s damp. She usually falls asleep with a satin bonnet to help with friction (and in turn frizz) but it usually falls off. She has satin pillowcases on her bed too and her hair comes out much nicer in the morning when she actually sleeps on them.

8. How long does your routine take?

Ummm. A long time. But the more we stay on top of it and do our evening hair routine every-other-night, the easier and faster the process. On bad wash days where we waited after swimming it could take hours to get through it. On days where we’ve been on top of it, the process may take under an hour.

9. Do you trim her hair yourself?

No. She’s had one trim when she had her hair straightened for a dance recital. She had it trimmed after it was straight a year ago which made it WAY shorter in it’s curly state. I’d like to try a curly trim next time to avoid such a loss in length. It seems like it’s just now gotten back to where it was before.

10. How do you do your son’s hair?

Not this extensively. He is usually in the bathtub or playing near the sink when I do his hair. I get it a little wet with a spray bottle then rub some conditioner in, spray most of it out, and rub in some leave-in moisturizer. It used to be much more difficult when his hair was longer. His curls have gotten bigger and he’s getting a little more patient with me now that he’s older. I’ll also sometimes try to do it when he’s napping.

Hopefully this helps answer questions you may have. If you have more leave a comment! And if you’re less of a video person and like to read a step-by-step routine check out this post or click the image below.

Mixed Hair Care


Coming soon…

Tips for washing biracial hair
First off, if you’re reading in an email or reader, pop on over to my blog and check out my new digs. I decided a redesign was in order and hired Sarah to help me spruce up the place once again. I’m also loving my new slogan if I say so myself. I’ve added new tabs and pages that hopefully will keep things a bit more organized. Let me know what you think!

Next, I knew from birth that both of my children were going to be a handful.–When it came to their hair that is. They each came out with a head full of hair and it keeps growing at what seems like a super-human speed.

It’s been a long time since I’ve done a post about my kid’s hair routine and now that my daughter’s hair is past her waist (when wet) and my son’s is down to his shoulders (when wet) I’d say it’s about time for an update. I normally use Curls products but this week I’m going to try experimenting with my Shea Moisture products on them (because it would be so nice if we could all share) and I’ll post another step-by-step tutorial with picture, and maybe a video. If you have any specific questions before then let me know and I’ll be sure to include it.

Have a happy Monday!

I was rushing out the door to work when my husband stopped me with an urgent request.

He says: “Hey can you do her hair really quick?”
She says: “What? Just take her pick tails down and add a bow.” I had styled her hair the night before so it was just a matter of unraveling the braids.
He says: “Can you just do it please? I don’t know how.”
She says: “Just pull it in a pony tail.”
He says: “I can’t do that!”
She says: “Oh my gosh you REALLY need to learn how to do her hair.”
He says: “Uh uh.” (nope)
She says: “Well what if I die, are you going to let her go around looking raggedy?”
He says: “No, I’ll figure it out.”

Yea right. I don’t believe you. And I’d rather not be lookin’ down at my daughters mess of a head if that happens.
little biracial girl hair

I saw a friend on Facebook post that her husband knows basic hairstyles for his daughter: A pony tail, pig tails, and side swoop with a hair clippies. She asked if this was a normal dad thing.

Not in my house.

My husband can’t do any of that. Absolutely clueless, and any time I try to give him a lesson he doesn’t pay attention long enough to replicate.

To his credit he has attempted the “add a headband” option, however it’s usually something that doesn’t match and it’s not positioned correctly. Are men really incapable of doing hair? If my husband in the minority or majority?

What say you?

Maybe he’d be more comfortable with this ponytail technique.

I can feel my energy coming back, along with my hobbies. Today I caught up with a good friend, made a Halloween wreath, Halloween-ized our place with Lil’ J, took someone photos, and tonight I caught up on pregnancy documentation while watching some trashy TV. Classic.

Anyway, my little pumpkin is getting bigger and bigger and since I’m picking my camera up again post-fatigue I thought I’d share a non-iPhone photo of my little pumpkin taken yesterday.

I’m having so much fun playing with her hair now that she sits still and enjoys it. These curls are a couple days old. I’ve been putting them in four moisturized braids at night then taking them out in the morning.

Oh, and notice the tape on her arm? She put it there and refused to take it off. Sure, I coulda edited it out but it’s nice to let some things be for memory’s sake.

*Update: Here is my new process for washing my now 4-year-old’s waist-length mixed hair*

My daughter has extremely curly hair. People always comment on her hair, and when we’re out people ask me where she gets her curly hair (me) and if it’s naturally that way (No, I permed my 1-year-old’s hair… Who are these people?). The most common question I get asked in emails from blog readers is how I manage Lil’ J’s curls. What can I say? It’s a hot topic in our lives.


I have written the same response over and over again so I figured I should just write a blog post about my routine for washing biracial hair, that way I can link people here from now on.

First off, I don’t wash her hair very often. Usually once a week to every 9-10 days. I use It’s a Curl conditioner which I buy from Amazon. You can get the whole line here. I like it because it’s organic, and gentle on her head. I haven’t ever died or relaxed my hair and I want to be equally as cautious with hers.

I bought the entire line (twice), It’s a Curl Shampoo, Conditioner, Moisturizer and Leave in Conditioner. A long time ago I read a post by my friend Melissa and her hair washing routine for her little curly head. I couldn’t find it for this post but I’m hoping she’ll read this and share the link. I think our routines are pretty similar if I remember correctly.

For washing her hair and getting her curls “set” I use the shampoo and conditioner. I also use a big-tooth comb.

I’ve tried many variations of these steps and I think I’ve found what works best for her hair so hopefully this will help for many of you.


1. I wet and wash her hair with the shampoo. I don’t use a ton of shampoo, just one squirt. Again, I don’t shampoo it often, maybe once a week or week and a half. A lot of shampoo tends to dry her hair out more so I try not to use a lot.-Just enough to clean her hair, and rinse. Make sure you get all the shampoo out, no bubbles left.

2. With conditioner I’m very generous. This is what will get the tangles out so I use a lot and literally cake it in.

3. Comb those curls. I start with the wider-tooth part of the comb and comb through it, then switch to the other side, where the teeth are closer together to get more tangles out. This combs the conditioner through the hair too. I hang tight closer to her scalp while tugging at the ends so she doesn’t feel it. She’s usually playing with her toys and not minding what I do.

4. Rinse out all the conditioner.

5. Comb again with the wide-tooth end.

6. Don’t towel dry or blow dry. Let your curly head run around until it’s dry. This is important because a towel will frizz it up, and if they go to sleep with it damp they’ll wake up with their hair sticking out and squished in weird places. Another tip: Use a satin pillowcase when they sleep to keep tangles at bay.

Here’s a morning where I let her go to bed a little too soon before her hair was totally dry.

Here’s an afternoon where I washed her hair mid-day and let it dry outside while she was playing.

Between washing sometimes I”ll use her leave-in moisturizing and conditioning products to keep the friz down and the curls cute.

Hope this helps! Any other questions about washing biracial hair? Leave it in the comments and I’ll get back to you! And if you have a similar post or tips feel free to leave a link in the comments, different things work for different people.

*Update 11/24/2014* Here is my updated process for her now waist-length hair.

Mixed Hair Care: Tips for biracial hair care and a step-by-step guide to getting beautiful moisturized curls. Teach your daughters to love their natural hair. Natural hair care for kids. #naturalhairkids

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