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We enter this episode with the understanding that this has got to have the most anticlimactic ending.

We have Peter, Bryan, Eric, and two guys who have gotten no air time.

Bachelorette season 13 episode 7 recap

Photo: ABC

Rachel is going to have three one-on-one’s and a group date. Bryan is up for the first one-on-one (the other guys moan too).

Bryan’s date

America is annoyed but I’m trying to stay optimistic–Hopeful that maybe, just maybe, we’ll hear an actual conversation between the two of them. I mean something other than “This is so great, we’re so perfect together.”

Date starts.

Bryan: “I feel so lucky, we’re so great together!”

Me: *Throws food at TV*

AHHH! I’m searching for some substanance but coming up with nothing. He’s got more lines than Gollom’s face.

Dean is back at the penthouse speaking truth again “He lives in Miami and has spent the last 18+ years swooning women.”


Ok, I’m going to stop calling you baby face now cause you are calling everyone out. First Lee, now Bryan. I’m giving you a pass.

Bryan and Rachel come up for air and she finally asks a question so we can try to get to know this guy.

“I want to know about your background.”


He briefly answers then deflects to her asking about her schoolgirl uniform. Really? She was 10! You are gross.


Though he keeps saying “it’s a fairy tale, so perfect” he tells her about his past relationship and how it didn’t work. He blames that on his mom. But in the same breath says he can’t wait to bring her home. Good luck Rachel!

She gives him the rose and I’m throwing up a little in my mouth as they make out and I’m so glad this date is over.

Dean’s Date

Dean is up next. Normally he’s all cute and spunky but today he’s got the look of death as he dwells on the idea of bringing Rachel home.

“My family isn’t a traditional family.”

I’m wondering what he’s hiding. Are they a family of vampires? Werewolves? Racists? Why is he so scared?

Instead decides to show her how young he really is. “Do you believe in the tooth fairy?”

Rachel flat out says she wants to get to know each other, and of course the logical response is to ask is “What’s your favorite dinosaur?”

Back at the house the guys are sweating about that last one-on-one. Peter gets it and I’m jumping up and down.

Back on the date Dean finally spills the beans about his concerns with his family and potential hometowns and now I feel bad about calling them vampires. They’re a little dysfunctional but it’s all good. She gives him the rose and I’m now most excited to see his “eccentric” family after all this hype.

Peter’s Date

It’s hard to tell if I really like Peter because he is genuinely leagues above the rest, or if the others just aren’t that great.

On his date he opens up about his jealousy watching her date the other guys, asking her what her favorite part of the experience was. Why aren’t you asking these questions, Bryan?!?!

They just look so CUTE together. He covering his eyes when they’re coming down in the helicopter, snuggling on the sled. It seems so natural.

Rachel is trying to have a serious conversation but you can see she’s freezing her butt off. Doesn’t ABC know black people don’t do cold weather?!


They finally get inside and I realize I have three blankets on and I turned off the A/C.

Peter is saying how excited he is to bring her home to meet his family. He knows they’ll love her, again Rachel asks if they’ll be accepting of a black girl and I want to roll my eyes because this girl is the catch and should not be worried about these things. But also, I get it because sadly, with how the world works it’s an understandable question.

Peter opens up about his last relationship and breaks down discussing the breakup. ABC think they slick editing those lines about him making her cry in the previews. I see you!


“Peter’s hometown could be my hometown.”

 Back at the house the guys get a date card and Dean reads it like they don’t already know who’s names are on it.

Adam is like “I’m taking her home to my parent’s house” which instantly to me says “he’s going home.”

Back to Peter–The reason I’m still watching:

“Any more questions that you have? Concerns?” Two questions you’ve never heard from Bryan’s mouth.

He gets a rose and I’m all giddy.

3 on 1 date

On the group date I already know Adam is going to go home because he’s way too confident. It’s just a matter of when. When Matt gets a tearful goodbye I realized I, and the rest of America must have missed a ton of his storyline because I have no idea why she’s so sad about it.

She’s down to two guys, Eric and Adam and she says she had no idea who she’s going to choose. Really? It’s that close? She must REALLY not like Eric as much as I thought she did.

So the four remaining guys are decent. Perhaps not who I would have picked for her if more were still standing. But hey, at least we know their names.

Peter is still my frontrunner. Eric is growing on me but he’d really have to blow me out of the water to switch to #teameric. He seems nice enough but it’s hard for me to forget his immature moments earlier this season. Besides, in the outtakes you hear Rachel and Peter discussing pooping with the door open. If that’s not true love I don’t know what is!

What did you think of the dates this week?

Bachelorette last night… You guys!

So I passed out last night and didn’t manage to wake back up to draft this post so I’m going to just jump back in based on what I was responding to in my tweets and what stood out to me. Basically three things: Cocktail party drama, cutie baby face Dean, and a rigged spelling bee. But I’m going to mostly just focus on the first part.

Cocktail Party

Right out the gate we have drama when Kenny is trying to talk to Rachel and Lee comes up and tries to interrupt.

“Can I get like 60 more seconds?” Kenny asks. He’s in the middle of talking about something other than his daughter, he’s finally getting somewhere.

“Yea I’ll give you 16 seconds!” Lee says. And he means it. He hovers over to the side and starts counting on his fingers. And I’m already tired of Lee and his face 16 seconds into the show, but this is just the beginning.

ABC has been cutting up the episodes so it seems like there hasn’t been a rose ceremony in 12 years. Last week Lee was having some drama with the guys, he already got to talk to Rachel, and Kenny gets upset. He pulls Lee aside and Lee is just egging him on with a sarcastic smile and laugh.

“I get tickled when I smile at an angry man!” Goodness… I have so much I could say about that.

Kenny gets louder and louder and Rachel is talking to some other guy, all I remember about him is his ears, and she is like “Waitaminute… That’s Kenny?!” Teddy Bear Kenny? Say it aint so!

She starts melting down. But don’t forget, this is the same night Lee came to her about Eric.

“Damn right I enjoy pissing him off” “I’m going to have a problem with some of these guys” “I don’t have a problem with you guys…”

Dean, Mr. I’ve gone black and not going back sees that Lee is racist and is trying to say it without saying it.

“The only people I’ve seen Lee pick fights with are not people he is used to seeing on a daily basis from a cultural perspective… You know exactly what I mean. The longer Lee sticks around the more aware everyone will be of his intolerance.”


Because in his words “I want to win.”

rachel lindsay screenshot crying cocktail party

The pressures of being a black woman

“The pressures that I feel about being a black woman, and what that is” Rachel said through tears. “I get pressure from so many different ways, being in this position. I already know what people are going to say about me, and judge me for the decisions I’m making.”

Someone on twitter asked “Not sure why Rachel had to say ‘as a Black woman?’ Why is that relevant? No need for the racism!” This is my escape! Geez!”

Rachel Lindsay, a beautiful 32-year-old lawyer from Dallas and the first ever black lead in The Bachelor franchise.

Rachel has no idea what’s going on in the house (though I have wondered if they’d let them just review the tapes then pick a match). She’s heard or been told about two black men blowing up and she knows this is going to look some kinda way playing out on national TV. If she chooses to keep them how will that look? If she chooses to send them home, how will that look?

What kinds of things is she worried about people saying? Well, things like this I suppose, but you know my girl was ready with a clap back:

Rachel Lindsay clap back tweet about Lee

Responsibility to not uphold stereotypes while also, you know… Hopefully find your soulmate, which is already hard for black women. You’ve got everyone rooting for your happiness, some hoping you fail. I mean that’s a lot of pressure.

I’m not Rachel Lindsey but being the first in any situation isn’t easy. Being the first in a situation like this that’s playing out for the world is a whole other level of pressure.

So then we get to the rose ceremony and we’re all throwing things at the TV when she keeps Lee and sends Diggy home. I’m going to miss him and his cute bow ties. And I’m so sad that we won’t get to see more of his huge shoe collection.

One-on-one with Dene

Dean Dean Dean. He’s SO CUTE. I can’t say much more than that cause he’s a baby and I’m married and it feels wrong. Rachel isn’t married so I guess that helps her be less conflicted. He’s terrified of heights so of course she picks him for the terrifying blimp ride.

Before dinner she says she’s ready to find out if Dean is really ready for marriage. And Dean tells her his sad backstory and I’m watching and trying not to cry, and wondering how he is crying and making everyone cry and somehow still smiling. Is it his teeth? I don’t know but I’m impressed. And I want to give him a big hug.

She gives him the rose, they go and dance on stage and I’m getting butterflies for them. I’m so close to being Team Dean but I am sorry, I just can’t get past his age. I think he’d be a great option for The Bachelor and I hope he has a bunch of black girls in his mix cause you know what he said.

Group date

On the boat the guys are freestyling and I’m impressed by Kenny’s spits, and then even more surprised when Peter takes a stab at it and isn’t terrible.

Rachel surprises everyone with my worst nightmare: An impromptu spelling bee. I’m not even going to try to spell all the words they spelled cause if it weren’t for the red squiggly line under all of them I wouldn’t get it right. We knew the whole thing was rigged anyway when Josiah got “stunning” and Anthony got “boutonniere.”

Later on the date, Iggy is watching the guys getting ready to snitch like

Getting ready to tell on everybody cause that’s what he does with his time with Rachel. I CAN’T.

Rachel calls Kenny out and asks why Lee is talking smack about him “Cause he’s not truthful!”

As much as I want him to, I’m praying Kenny doesn’t lay into Lee and play into the character the world is just begging him to be. I hope he comes out as the bigger man.

Last thoughts

-Everybody has a problem with Lee but the only has a problem with the black guys. Please send him home!

-Iggy is trying to be some kind to group therapist asking questions like “What is your ideal outcome of the situation?” Sit down and stop getting in the middle of everything! Please, send him home.

– Bryan is growing on me a little though everything inside of me says player. She makes him weak in the knees? Come on!

-Let’s pick up the pace! As much as I love Rachel we’re dragging on the drama way too much and not seeing enough of the dates and conversations she’s having with the guys.

-We did not see enough of Peter, or really anyone I think she could wind up with. None of them seem right for her right now. I’m happy she announced she’s engaged cause if I didn’t know that I’d feel like this was hopeless.

-I knew this drama was bound to come up. I hope Lee goes home and we get past this soon.

Did you watch? What were your thoughts?

Why am I writing about this? Because as much as I love and cherish my family, I love and cherish Monday nights when I get to put the kids to bed a little early, pour a glass of sparkling cider, pop some popcorn and enjoy a night of cheesy TV.

Also, last night a reader commented on my last post about the show and said she appreciated reading my real unfiltered thoughts. Basically she twisted my arm and now I’m committed to writing these. Thanks Sarah!

I told ya’ll I was SO excited when Rachel Lindsay was announced as this season’s Bachelorette. I wasn’t sure I would do weekly recaps, and the first couple of weeks I was out of town and had to catch the show on DVR days late. Now? Now, I can’t stay away. My watch parties have dispersed. My sister doesn’t have cable, and I’m left swimming in my own thoughts.

Plus Rachel is the FIRST black lead in the history of this show. This is a big deal. And I want to see more diversity in the cast like we see this season. If I was ever going to do these recaps, nows the time.

I started drafting this to start of my week 3 recap and put it all into one post but after I hit 1000 words I decided this would be better broken up.

Ok really quick let me catch up on the key points of what I have been DYING to tell ya’ll. Oh first of all let me say, I’m NOT reading spoilers this year. This is a first for me since I discovered there was such a thing. I’m wanting to enjoy it for what it is (a mostly scripted and cheesy “reality” show with couples that rarely work out) and watch it play out.

On the LIVE introductions

Rachel Lindsay bachelorette live introductions recap

Photo via ABC

My thought process went something like this:

Did Chris just say live? Are they really doing this? Ok so we’re doing this…

Did Dean say “Once I go black…!??!?!?!?!?!?” Oh no he didn’t! *dies*

In all honesty I felt SO bad for him, knowing that he will never ever EVER live that down. I and the rest of America will be watching and waiting to see if he really meant what he said. I kid (kind of).

Another dude (DeMario)  proposed from the get go while apparently still having the keys to his girlfriend’s apartment in his pocket. More on that later.

And the rest aren’t memorable enough to stick out to me months later. Oh wait, I take that back. One of the guys (Blake) was really boring but later made up for it by coming in with a marching band week 1. I was totally impressed with his comeback.

On Bachelorette week 1 recap

The main things that stick out to me about this episode are…

THE BACHELORETTE - Rachel Lindsay, a fan favorite on the 21st season of ABC’s hit romance reality series “The Bachelor,” starring Nick Viall, was named as the next woman to hand out the roses and attempt to find her own happy ending when “The Bachelorette” premieres for its 13th season, MONDAY, MAY 22 (9:00-11:00 p.m. EST), on The ABC Television Network. (ABC/Craig Sjodin) (FRONT) MILTON, BRYCE, JEDIDIAH, JACK, FRED, IGGY, RACHEL LINDSAY, KYLE, JAMEY, MICHAEL, LEE, KENNY, BLAKE E.; (MIDDLE) MATTHEW, BRYAN, PETER, JOSIAH, DEAN, GRANT, KENNETH, BLAKE K., ERIC, ROBERT; (BACK) JONATHAN, WILL, ADAM, DEMARIO, ALEX, MOHIT, LUCAS, ANTHONY, BRADY

Photo via ABC

1. Diversity! I mean woah! We’ve never seen such a spread on this show! It wasn’t just in my head though. Legit this was the most diverse cast this show has seen. I must say I hope they keep it up. And despite the Asian guy that was oh so hot, and a couple other minorities leaving on night one, it wasn’t nearly the cuts we see in previous seasons. Like a scary movie we’re usually the first to die.

2. The makeout session with the Columbian dude (was it Jack?). He is hot but TOTALLY screams player to me. Amiright?

3. Peter–willing to throw a brand new box of delicious chocolates in the fire because he assumed Rachel would like chocolate. I mean shoot, I’ll take them! Or share with the guys I mean they need something to go with all the alcohol they’re downing.

I have no obvious favorites this night, except for maybe Diggy. He seems really funny and despite my hatred for shoes I’m totally into his shoe collection and style.

I think there was a lawyer guy I liked too, let me look up his name… Josiah. I like him because he made me laugh talkin ’bout them living in a big house together. Oh, and wrestler Kenny seems SO SWEET. But if I’m being honest I don’t think Rachel is ready to be a mom to a tween just yet.

On Bachelorette week 2 recap

Ok, we are almost caught up. Highlights of last week…

OMG How have I forgot about him until now… WHABAM dude is SO ANNOYING. I know the producers probably told Rachel she needs to keep him on for ratings but homeboy is driving me nuts. I was so upset that he won the group date game, I was rooting for Kenny–Or heck, anyone but him.

Peter. Wow, Peter! You came out of nowhere. At first the date was cute with Rachel bringing her dog on the plane, and she seemed into him and whatnot. But dinner had me GIDDY! They were sitting and talking about their gap teeth like a match made in heaven. I was so confused as to who he was when the episode started but by the end I was digging him too. And let me say what REALLY made me like him? Rachel said this in her blog:

Among all the doggy fun Peter did something off camera that made me cry tears of happiness. Without telling me or anyone else he snuck away from the date to give a homeless man his sandwich. Take the rose Peter, it’s all yours. The fireworks were going off in my heart long before the real ones shot off into the desert night sky.

You can have my rose too Peter. Just don’t tell my husband.

Speaking of my husband, he’s agreed to watch the show with me now. Not only because he loves me and he owes me because of all of the golf tournaments and sports-watching I’ve endured for 12+ years…

“The bachelorette is black?” he asked. “Ok I’ll watch!” He said half jokingly. Plus I told him Kareem Abdul-Jabbar (after mistakingly calling him Karl Malone) was on this week, and that this season is already 10Xs more entertaining than the last several. Or maybe it’s just cause I’m SO into Rachel. I mean, I’d marry her. He says he’ll watch it with me tonight. We’ll see!

Anyway, back to the show

DeMario is hardly worth mentioning. His “Oh who’s dis?!” Had me rolling and hitting repeat about 6 times like– I know he didn’t just pretend like he doesn’t know her.

Girlfriend was not playing though. With the eyes and neck rollin all over the place. I’ve been tempted to google and see if this whole situation was a producer setup but again, I’m just trying to pretend like this is all real and unscripted and enjoy it for the hot mess that it is.

Then when Rachel said she needed him to get the eff out I was like…

And YAS GIRL! I felt bad for her but I thought she seemed to handle it well. It’ll be interesting to see how that conversation ends tonight night.

And finally, one more cutie I wanted to call out…

Dean… Dean Dean Dean. Mr. I’m Never Going Back. I’m falling more and more in love with this fella. I mean really, he’s SO adorable. But that’s the thing. He’s cute. Adorable. Not husband material. He’s too young and immature for Rachel. Sista is a BOSS and needs a MAN. She’s also the oldest Bachelorette lead (a year older than me) and I can’t imagine being married to a guy that young. That said, I do hope Dean makes it far though cause he is fun to look at.

On interracial relationships

Remember how they were beating that into the ground during Nick’s season? Doesn’t seem to have really come up yet. I’m kinda of hoping they’ll keep it that way and just let the romance play out as any other would. We shall see.

Welp. That’s my recap for the first few weeks. Are you watching this season of the Bachelorette too? Who’s your favorite? If not, I caught you up and now you can tune in tonight and join me! I’ll post another recap tomorrow.

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