The most common question I’m asked isn’t about breaking into my broadcast career, how I met my hot husband, or even “how are you today?” it’s “how do you do your daughter’s hair?”

Ok, one of those questions may be a little more popular, but not when it comes to my blog. Biracial hair care, mixed hair care or natural hair care especially has become a hot topic. I can’t believe I haven’t updated my process since Lil’ J was a toddler. I’ve been meaning to do it but really wanted pictures of the process to make it all flow. I finally took some yesterday (Sunday is typically our hair-washing day). It’s going to be picture-heavy so get ready!

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It’s been a learning process for me as I only recently began to wear my hair in its naturally curly state all the time. Before that I kept it flat ironed with salon visits. I’m embracing my natural hair in all of its curly beauty now that I have a little girl who has gorgeous curls of her own. It can be hard to think curls are pretty when we’re bombarded with society’s standard of beauty that often overlooks us.

Mixed Hair Care: Tips for biracial hair care and a step-by-step guide to getting beautiful moisturized curls. Teach your daughters to love their natural hair. Natural hair care for kids. #naturalhairkids

I’m going to be filing this under my new “making strong roots” section because this topic fits in more way than one.

Mixed Hair Care: Tips for biracial hair care, biracial hair washing, and a step-by-step guide to getting beautiful moisturized curls. Teach your daughters to love their natural hair. Natural hair care for kids. #naturalhairkids So, first off, FYI, I try not to let her hair get this crazy but let’s face it—Life gets busy. I avoid letting her out of the house like this though.

Typically I’ll wash Lil’ J’s hair when Big T is napping, or already in bed. He loves splashing in water and if he knows his sister is having all the fun, it becomes a challenge trying to entertain him too.

Mixed Hair Care: Tips for biracial hair care, biracial hair washing, and a step-by-step guide to getting beautiful moisturized curls. Teach your daughters to love their natural hair. Natural hair care for kids. #naturalhairkids

I clear off the kitchen counters give the sink a little extra scrubbing—Yes, you read right, the sink. I could do her hair in the tub but dumping water on her head over and over with a cup just isn’t cutting it. I’ll probably eventually invest in one of those bathtub sprayer adapters but I feel like I’m conserving more water in the sink, and it works for us. It’s also how my mom did our hair at home, and I have fond memories of those nights so let’s just say we’re carrying on the tradition.

I get her set up with an iPad or phone, and let her watch a show while I do her hair, but usually we end up “talking to the knots,” which I’ll explain later.

Mixed Hair Care: Tips for biracial hair care and a step-by-step guide to getting beautiful moisturized curls. Teach your daughters to love their natural hair. Natural hair care for kids. #naturalhairkids

I have a bathroom caddy that I lug all of our hair supplies in. Between three different curly hair types, we have a variety of products. These are typically the ones I use most often, but not all at once. I didn’t use all of these when doing Lil’ J’s hair this time. But here are my go-tos:

Herbal Essence Hello Hydration Conditioner: I use this to get her hair detangled because I need to use a TON of conditioner and would use my nicer and pricier conditioner right up if I used the same amount. I love this because it has a lot of slip.

Curly Q’s Coconut Dream Conditioner: LOVE the smell and it hydrates her hair so well, and leaves it silky smooth. I use this EVERY time.

Shea Moisture Cleansing Conditioner: I use this instead of a Shampoo.

Curly Q’s Custard: I love this after washing when I’m styling or twisting it up for the night. I’ve tried various similar products but keep coming back to this.

Shea Moisture Coconut and Hibiscus Style Milk: Similar to the custard above, I also buy this a lot.

It’s important to remember that it’s about the process not the products. So what works for my daughter’s hair may be totally different for your child’s hair. For my natural curls I use the Shea Moisture products most often and I’ve recently started using them on my kids. I haven’t noticed a huge different from product to product, but I do see a big difference if I change up the process.

Alright, enough yapping, here we go…

Step 1 Shampoo (optional):

Mixed Hair Care: Tips for biracial hair care, biracial hair washing, and a step-by-step guide to getting beautiful moisturized curls. Teach your daughters to love their natural hair. Natural hair care for kids. #naturalhairkids

Rarely do I use shampoo. I usually go straight to conditioner. Today I used a cowash by Shea Moisture to cleanse her hair before going on to condition some more. I get her hair soaking wet, wash, massage, then rinse. Simple enough.

Step 2: Condition

Mixed Hair Care: Tips for biracial hair care, biracial hair washing, and a step-by-step guide to getting beautiful moisturized curls. Teach your daughters to love their natural hair. Natural hair care for kids. #naturalhairkids

I load her hair up with conditioner. I currently have been using the Hello Hydration by Herbal Essence. It’s inexpensive and exactly what I need to get her hair slick and easy to detangle. I use a TON of this stuff, I just keep caking it in, and let her hair soak it up. Since I use so much of it, I don’t use a pricey conditioner for this part.

Step 3: Separate

Mixed Hair Care: Tips for biracial hair care, biracial hair washing, and a step-by-step guide to getting beautiful moisturized curls. Teach your daughters to love their natural hair. Natural hair care for kids. #naturalhairkids

I part her hair into a few sections and tie them apart. Sometimes I’ll use clamps. It just depends what I have on hand.

Step 4: Detangle
Dang, I forgot a photo! But I needed all hands on deck for this. I go to work section-by-section and detangle using possibly the most important item of this whole process: A good wide-tooth comb. I start from the bottom and work my way up until the entire section is detangled. This process can be a breeze if you stay on top of it, and use A LOT of conditioner while detangling. Be extremely generous with a good conditioner and it helps the tangles slip right out. If it starts to hurt, Lil’ J will tell her knots they’ve gotta pack up and move out of her head, and I’ll talk her through what they’re saying as they leave. It keeps her smiling through the process and she actually looks forward to detangling because of this strange tradition we have. But lately, when I wash her hair in this order detangling is a breeze.

Step 5: Deep Condition

Mixed Hair Care: Tips for biracial hair care, biracial hair washing, and a step-by-step guide to getting beautiful moisturized curls. Teach your daughters to love their natural hair. Natural hair care for kids. #naturalhairkids

As I complete each section I rinse out the conditioner then add a nice deep conditioner. Right now I really like the Curls Coconut Dream Conditioner for kids. I used to only use this for detangling and conditioning but I was going through it so fast, and believe it or not, it’s not the best for detangling and doesn’t have as much “slip.” But it smells great and is an awesome moisturizer. I add this conditioner to the section I’ve just detangled before moving on to the next section of hair and then put it in a loose braid.

Step 6: Repeat and Rinse

Mixed Hair Care: Tips for biracial hair care, biracial hair washing, and a step-by-step guide to getting beautiful moisturized curls. Teach your daughters to love their natural hair. Natural hair care for kids. #naturalhairkids

I repeat steps four and five until her whole head is detangled and up in lose braids. Then I rinse her head with cold water to close the pores. I don’t take the braids down just yet, because it’s ok if some conditioner is left in. It’ll help keep in extra moisture.

Step 7: Moisturize and Style

Mixed Hair Care: Tips for biracial hair care, biracial hair washing, and a step-by-step guide to getting beautiful moisturized curls. Teach your daughters to love their natural hair. Natural hair care for kids. #naturalhairkids
Are you getting the idea yet? The key is hydration and moisture retention. For this step I take down her braids and add some moisturizer cream section by section using my hands. I usually use the Curls Curly Q Custard Curl Styling Cream, but I’ve also started using my Curl Enhancing Smoothie by Shea Moisture and it seems to be doing a good job too.

Mixed Hair Care: Tips for biracial hair care, biracial hair washing, and a step-by-step guide to getting beautiful moisturized curls. Teach your daughters to love their natural hair. Natural hair care for kids. #naturalhairkids

Mixed Hair Care: Tips for biracial hair care, biracial hair washing, and a step-by-step guide to getting beautiful moisturized curls. Teach your daughters to love their natural hair. Natural hair care for kids. #naturalhairkids

If it’s the middle of the day I’ll leave her hair down, let it air dry and she can run around and let her curls dry in a couple of hours. If it starts to frizz and I want to freshen it up a bit I’ll spray some Shea Moisture Kids Extra-Moisturizing Detangler and run my fingers through to freshen them up.

If it’s right before bed I’ll use the styling cream while I twist it up either into bantu knots, or braids (tighter than the ones from before when we were detangling).

Mixed Hair Care: Tips for biracial hair care, biracial hair washing, and a step-by-step guide to getting beautiful moisturized curls. Teach your daughters to love their natural hair. Natural hair care for kids. #naturalhairkids

The final key is having her sleep on a satin pillowcase. It keeps her hair from all the friction and frizzes caused by regular cotton pillowcases.

To keep it fresh the following days I use a water bottle to spray her hair and get it damp section by section, then use the moisturizer to re-style before bed. Take it down in the morning and BOOM! Gorgeous curls day after day.

Mixed Hair Care: Tips for biracial hair care, biracial hair washing, and a step-by-step guide to getting beautiful moisturized curls. Teach your daughters to love their natural hair. Natural hair care for kids. #naturalhairkids

Big T’s routine is similar but much faster because he HATES getting his hair detangled and it’s a struggle. Luckily his curls seem to be staying so cute and hold their natural ringlets for awhile. Hopefully he’ll get used to our routine in a couple more years because I’d like to keep it about this length (and get trims back to about this length in the future). Excuse this blurry picture of my little tornado. I may post a guide for how I do his hair soon if there’s interest, though it doesn’t seem like there are as many boys rockin’ their fros lately.

Mixed Hair Care: Tips for biracial hair care, biracial hair washing, and a step-by-step guide to getting beautiful moisturized curls. Teach your daughters to love their natural hair. Natural hair care for kids. #naturalhairkids

For my babies, when they were babies, I used Curl’s baby line. You can find that tutorial here.

Have any questions or comments about biracial hair care? Shoot! I’ll be happy to reply below.

Oh, and because I know someone will ask… No, I didn’t make this dress. I bought it from Adelaide’s Boutique.


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Carla says:

I would love to know about your sons hair care. I have twin curly headed boys (also biracial) and getting their hair done is time consuming like mine. Especially at age 2! Any tips you’re willing to share, when you have time of course, would be awesome!

Baby Making Mama says:

Ok Carla I’ll put it on the list! I don’t know how I’ll photograph it cause it would not be nearly this cute (he cries the whole time), and we do it in the tub. But I’ll figure something out, he looks adorable when it’s all done!

Shelby Hanson says:

I would also love to see what you do with your boys hair. I have a 1.5 year old mixed boy who has a ton of curly curly hair. We manage for now but I am sure you have some great tips. I am always open for tips.

Wendy says:

I loved this tutorial! I love the Shea Moisture line for my kids. I have never seen that they have a kids detangler so I am going to have to search for it. We have a very limited selection of AA hair products where I live (Utah County) and so I am so happy to have found this line!

Baby Making Mama says:

I found it at Sally’s! I normally only get the Shea products at Wallgreens cause they have awesome sales, but that one I scooped up at Sally’s and I love it! Shut out to Utah County! 🙂 Fun place.

Dana says:

They have beautiful hair! My hair loves the Shea Moisture line as well. I’m trying to embrace my curls more. Like you said, it is a challenge! I don’t think that I leave enough moisture in at all. Work in progress! I’d like to read more about relationships/dating here. But your kids are so adorable and I enjoy posts about them too!
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Baby Making Mama says:

Work in progress for sure! And it’s SO MUCH more work than just keeping it straight and styling it every now and then 😉
Thanks for the topic ideas! I haven’t dated anyone other than my husband in the last 10 years but I suppose I could write about our outings more now and then, hehe!

Marie says:

Their hair looks great! I am also a fan of detangling while the hair is drenched in a slippery conditioner. One thing I have had trouble with is that I am trying to move towards using all natural products on myself and my family. Do you know of any tricks for doing this same process with 100% natural products like butter and oils? Most hair products on the market now (even for children) have tons of chemicals and I hope to move away from them if possible!

Baby Making Mama says:

Thanks Marie! I’ve found the Shea Moisture products to be full of natural ingredients. I’d have look again to see if there is anything way down on the list that isn’t an oil, but the main, top ingredients are all plant oils (and water). Here’s some more info: http://www.sheamoisture.com/Ingredients_c_16.html I try to stick to natural products as much as possible for our hair, but that first round of conditioner I haven’t switched over yet. I may have to start making my own 🙂

Marie says:

Yes, It’s super difficult because when you have to use so much you don’t want to be literally washing money down the drain lol Natural stuff gets expensive! If you try making your own, let me know!! I love DIY homemade body care!

Tanisha says:

Such a great post. As a biracial woman, I have struggled my entire life with my hair, well almost. My mom always moisturized and conditioned my hair up till I was 16. My hair was so long, thick and curly, I honestly couldn’t manage it on my own. As an adult, I just did a basic wash and then pull it back in a ponytail or bun. I’m going to try this method out and see how it goes. Thanks for sharing.

Baby Making Mama says:

Tanisha, I also have struggled most of my life with my hair. It wasn’t until recently that I finally embraced my curls in all of their glory and have learned how to manage it. I’m 28! Better late than never though, hopefully it’ll be easier for my daughter.

J says:

This is so helpful! Thank you so much for posting this. I have a couple of questions.
1. When did your daughter start letting you do her hair without being fussy? Mine is 2 and its been a struggle since she was about 15 months. To make matters worse, she has thick hair (similar to your daughter’s but not yet as long). I have tried the iPAD but it only works every now and then. Trying to figure out if this is something she’ll grow out of or if I need to start considering sending her to a hair salon (I would rather not).
2. Do you ever trim your daugher’s hair? I got so frustrated a few weeks ago and cut out some of the knots in my daughter’s hair cause she wouldn’t sit still long enough for me to take it out (even with A TON of conditioner in her hair). I think its made her hair a little uneven but I don’t know how to trim hair. Any advise on that?
Thank you!
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Baby Making Mama says:

Hi J! So I was really good about doing my daughter’s hair frequently since she was small. I’ve distracted her with her favorite snacks, a late bedtime, and made-up stories. It’s gotten easier as she’s gotten older, but she’s always been pretty cooperative. My son on the other hand… He HATES water on his head at all, so I have to quickly do it in the bathtub. I’m hoping he grows out of it quickly so we don’t have to shave it all off!

I haven’t had her hair trimmed yet (I don’t trust myself) but we may go to a salon together to get a trim soon 🙂

Lil J is such a great model. Love it!

I let my biracial son rock a curly fro for a while! His curls are much looser than T’s though therefore it’s harder to keep “styled”. Plus my husband wanted him to have a haircut so I caved.
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Baby Making Mama says:

My husband has stopped nagging me about getting Big T a haircut for now, but we’ll see how long that lasts. He’ll at least need a trim soon. Hopefully it won’t be too painful for us. 😀

Beth says:

My children aren’t biracial, but this still seems to totally apply to my youngest daughter. She has curly hair, like my mom’s, and it is getting thicker and thicker. People have asked me since my daughter was about 14 months if I permed her hair. Every beauty trick I’ve read is pretty useless on her hair. Then, I read an article on how girls with extremely curly hair should use the hair products directly marketed towards biracial children. It’s made a HUGE difference! Going from crazy, always frizzy, just nasty looking hair after it dried, to now, curls, ringlets, and just downright cute hair is amazing. Even my husband noticed when I switched products. I’m also blessed to have an amazing hair salon in our area and the women that deals with my daughter’s hair is SO awesome! My daughter’s hair looks so much better after getting it trimmed correctly, something I could never do on my own.
Odd note, I remember going to a science center where they claimed that curly hair gets less snarls then straight hair. Now that I have girls with both types (and I also have bone straight hair, wouldn’t hold a curl no matter what I try) I realize that study was a load of crap! Seriously, the curls get SO much more snarly.
Random question: how does your mil/extended family deal with this, or do they just not care? I also don’t use shampoo every time she washes (It’s almost a sin to do that! It’s like begging for their hair to be dried, brittle, and breaking), it’s made a problem between my MIL and I because she “knows best” even though she has NO experience in having extra curly hair, or dealing with it! And she gets mad at me because I won’t use the Avon kid’s 2-in-1 hair care stuff she won’t stop buying for my daughter. That junk makes my daughter look like a poodle with a bad hair cut, and my other daughter is allergic to it. She also nags me every time we see her about how my child’s hair should just be up in a pony every day because it’s “less crazy that way.” (And she uses a special voice when she says “crazy” that makes me want to spit fire!) I want my daughter to love her hair, not feel bad about it! If she wants a pony in her hair, she’s more then welcome to have one, but she gets choices and it’s not always in an updo. My mom always talks about how her mother constantly put her hair in a pony or pigtails so she could avoid it, my mom had no idea how to style her hair, now, even in her late 50’s, still hates her hair and has a really hard time styling it. I don’t want my daughter to have to feel that way. I don’t want her to think that unless her hair is silky smooth and bone straight she has to hide it. That’s what would truly by “crazy”.
I’m going to have to get her a satin pillowcase, she always looks like gene wilder in young Frankenstein when she gets up. Thanks for the product tips, I’ll have to try some of them, winter is coming up and so it’s time to change up the styling process/products again.
Lastly, curly hair is adorable. Lots more work, but super cute!

Baby Making Mama says:

Thank you Beth! I’m so sorry your family isn’t supportive. Some of our family members aren’t too keen on Big T’s long hair, but they don’t nag me about it. Everyone else seems to love their curls.

You’re right, it’s a lot of work, but so worth it! I’m so glad you’ve found what works for your girl’s hair! It makes a huge difference.

Diana says:

Our adopted daughter is biracial she has very very thick corse hair 3 years ago she asked for it straightened we did and she has been having it done untill May if this year when after it was done it started coming out in clumps her thick hair us now very very thin we have not straightend since so she has two inches of new curly growth which makes the six inches of straight look silly then she cut her bangs and it hasn’t grown since she cut it her hair is so dry started using the Shea shampoo and conditioner I wish my daughters hair looked like your daughters it’s so beautiful looks like ringlets my daughter has the very tight corkscrew curls I don’t think it will ever look like your daughters plus it seems to never grow I’m gonna try your system see if it helps thanks for sharing

Baby Making Mama says:

Let me know how it goes Diana! I think you will notice a big difference, it may seem slow at first but I promise it’ll come back, and it’ll be beautiful!

Jenni says:

Please do a tutorial on your son’s hair!!! I’d like to keep my son’s hair this length, but I can’t figure out how to keep in from looking like a mess. Big T’s is awesome. Also, where do you get his hair cut? Home? Barber? Beautician?

Baby Making Mama says:

It’s funny because his curls are such a pain to style but so cute for a long time, and less to manage in between. I’ll do a tutorial soon, but I’ll need backup for the photos cause I’ve gotta be fast with him. He has no patience. haha

We haven’t gotten his hair cut yet. I’m still trying to figure out where to go actually. My mom and I are going to interview some barbers I saw nearby a couple weeks ago though. I’ll let you know how it goes!

Tamara says:

My daughter ( not biracial) has long, thick, frizzy hair that despite my best effort will not curl. Over the years I have added a texturizer to her hair a few times just to get the upper hand. Last night was the first time in 3-4 yrs. To my surprise she (age 8) is concerned that her hair too straight. This afternoon she said ” I hope this isnt a perm I love my curls” (twist out curls). I assured her that her hair will rebound in a few days. I’m so happy to hear that at her age she loves her hair the way it grows out of her head.
I ‘went natural’ 4 yrs ago and now live in a wash n go. My hair has well defined corkscrew curls almost like big T (I’m not biracial either). My daily routine consists of a wet head, Garnier fructis intensely smooth leave in, and 5 mins of finger combing. Love that its super cheap $2.98!! It has been my go to for 2yrs.

Baby Making Mama says:

Your daughter is awesome! Good for her for embracing that! So awesome! I hope my daughter continues to do the same.

I’m so jealous of your wash and go styles. I usually try to maintain a twistout (that after a few days starts to look like my version of a wash n go). I’d love to see pics of your hair!

Sree says:

Jennifer you don’t know howmuch I was waiting for this post. My daughter has indian curly hair .it is very soft and very curly ringlets. When she was a baby I didn’t know how to care for hair until I saw your post how you maintain lil j’s hair. It helped me a lot and made my life easy. Everyone used to ask me if I used a curler on her hair. Grrrr. Seriously myself being an indian curly head all I remember in my childhood was my mom washing my head and drying it with constantly rubbing with a cotton towel and then combing it hard to stretch it and finally braiding it. No wonder I always had a halo of frizz around my hair like a cotton candy. And I hate my hair even now I don’t know how to care for it. I didn’t want my daughter I am going to follow your routine for her hair. I want her to love her cutesy curly hair .and never hate herself for having curly hair. And please please post your hair routine . There r still people like me who don’t know what to do and how to style their hair . Thanq Thanq for this routine . Lil j is soo cute

Baby Making Mama says:

Thanks for your comment Sree! Ok, I’ll do my hair and my son’s hair routines next 😀

Tina says:

Hi Jennifer, this was really helpful, I would have never thought to just let my daughter lay on the counter, that has revolutionized my world. Secondly in the article you have highlighted its about the products, not the process, and did you mean it the other way around?

maryam says:

Hi dear
Thank you so much for your helping.
My dauughter hair is veryyyyy fizzy.
Main problem is that it doesn’t seem grow downwards.(just stick on her head)
.and l dont know how to style her hair the days between washing days.it becomes much more frizzy.plz help me.

maryam says:

Hi dear
Thank you so much for your helping.
My dauughter hair is veryyyyy fizzy.
Main problem is that it doesn’t seem grow downwards.(just stick on her head)
.and l dont know how to style her hair the days between washing days.it becomes much more frizzy.plz help me.thank you

Kat says:

Hi, I’m not a parent!!! But, I am a mixed girl (Can I get a whoot whoot for caramel power!?) with a few questions on this hair care routine:

1. So, you JUST rinse the scalp and not the braids?

2. Wouldn’t leaving some conditioner in over process the hair?

3. Because I’m in high school, would you happen to have any tips or tricks that will allow my hair to not frizz up and/or stay looking great all day?

Thank you, Mrs. Jennifer. (I would use your last name but, I don’t know it. ‘^ ^)

-Kat C.

Lauren says:

Love! Very helpful 🙂

Tracy says:

Great tips! My stepdaughter is African American/Mexican and has the same curl/coil texture as your daughter. We’ve tried countless products and even use some you mentioned. I recently started adding a few drops of Simplicity Hair Oil to whatever leave in conditioner I’m feeling for the day with great results. Her hair tends to stay moisturized longer, less frizzy than before. For us, it’s a marriage of great technique and good products to achieve her long lasting, non-frizzy doo. Have you tried the new Dove products for curly hair yet?

Baby Making Mama says:

I haven’t yet! I want to! I think I’ll pick some up and try them this week. Have you?

latasha says:

I have two girls and their hair always get tangle up and notted it up and I try every product for their hair but it seems not to work

What product can I use for their hair to keep it from getting notted up and tangle

Baby Making Mama says:

Hi Latasha, I use A LOT of conditioner. I have been using herbal essence hello hydration and liking it. I like squeeze a TON on and the hair gets slippery and easy to detangle. As far as keeping it from tangling… Try sleeping using a satin pillowcase and/or twisting the hair up at night. Good luck!

joelle says:

Hi there, thank you for the tutorial, it is greatly appreciated but could you give another tutorial for your sons hair? I want that style for my 4 year old boy and his hair currently looks soooo frizzy and messy! Looking forward to getting your advice!

Baby Making Mama says:

Yes! I need to do that soon. It’s pretty similar but a little different since his hair is shorter. I’ll let you know when I get photos and manage to post it!

Sybil says:

I would love to see your little guy’s hair routine being that I also have a curly biracial with extremely dry hair! The fuzz is a beast!

Baby Making Mama says:

It’s similar to how I do my daughters but without the twists. I’ll be sure to post a tutorial this month, though his pictures won’t be as cheery and happy. haha.

Nicole says:

I also find using a sealant/oil is essential for natural hair.

My favorites are :
Jane Carter’s Nourish and Shine
Ouidad’s Mongongo Oil

Hilary says:

I am a white girl with curly hair. Very white, very curly. I do a similar process. Not on the sink though, no ipad… it’s a shame. 🙂

DejaC says:

I have a 7 year old biracial like cuttie and I am a girl who litteraly brushes my hair and I’m out the door. I do not do fancy things with my hair at all but for my girls’ sake I try to take care of her hair better than my own. My daughter’s hair resembles your daughters ‘before’ picture. If you leave her hair down for one whole week after doing this process, do you think in your own experience , that it would have more knots than if you would ‘comb’ through it lets say every other day? I ask because I try hard (not my hardest because I can’t find time to do much nowdays) to keep the knots out of her hair. I think I am obsessed with it. Whenever I hear someone tell me to ‘leave her hair down’ I cringe and freak out even thinking about it haha. I am going to try this out today and see if I get the same results. Or close enough to it ha Thank you for this post!!!

Amanda Michelle says:

What a bunch of cutie patooties!

I have spent my entire life running through the “What works and what doesn’t” column of hair care products as a biracial girl with tons of curls.

Two cheaper options I would love to recommend – Aussie’s Moist 3 Minute Miracle (Or just the regular 3 Minute miracle) deep conditioner. It really is a miracle and smells delicious! And the Aussie Moist line of Shampoo and Conditioner. I don’t wash very often, but the moisturizers in the whole line have been doing the trick for me for years and they don’t break my skin out like some of the other options.

My hair likes to fight back, so after 33 years I think maybe I have it nailed down, but we will never really know for sure!

Good luck! Sounds like you’ve got a great process. Wish my Momma knew half of this when we were growing up in the south with naturally curly hair and everyone assuming that mixed hair, is the same as any other curly hairs!

Joy Conway says:

I love all the information. I would love to know what you do to maintain their hair during the days before washing? I struggle with the daily maintenance and would love help!

Baby Making Mama says:

It’s mostly the same of the 2nd half without the washing, but I’m planning to add that tutorial soon! 😀

maryam says:

Please….what do you do for non washing days…during school time..in the mornings…in winter that she might catch cold …I really want to know

Robyn says:

I would also love more info on your little boy. Mine is 11 months old and just now getting enough curl for me to do something with. Thanks!

Baby Making Mama says:

Ok, I’ll definitely try to update another post with his routine soon!

Becky says:

I LOVE the information in this blog!

We are adopting our second biracial child and this one is a girl ! After 4 boys I’m #1 lost with knowing how to mother a girl and #2 lost when it comes to keeping the gorgeous curly hair after day one of shampooing. Looks like washing it every other day is a big no no! I’ll definitely try these techniques!
We are getting a shorter style for summer b ut I can’t wait to see what it will look like with this process.

Thanks!
Toodles!

Lenore says:

My daughter is biracial and her hair is a little bit more like me than her dad. I am black. I am struggling to find the right kind of product for her hair. Right now we are using shea moisture products, Carol’s Daughter products and suave almond and shea shampoo and conditioner and I love it. I am looking for the perfect(if there is any such thing) deep and moisture conditioner.

Can you recommend a really good leave in conditioner with moisture?

Thanks
Lenore

BTW your family is beautiful

Tatiana says:

Hello 🙂
I am not biracial, but I do have really curly hair. I am 19, and my hair has been falling off so much since I was 13. When I was about 12 my hair was so beautiful and long and super thick. My hair is not even half of half the hair your daughter has. It has fallen of so much and I want it to grow back. It was starting to grow and now it got really tangly from the tips and it’s dry. I don’t know what to do with it anymore. It’s about shoulder length but kind of afro looking. What do you recommend I should do?

Baby Making Mama says:

Hi Tatiana! Do you keep it hydrated? I’d say that could be HUGE reason for breakage since you say it’s dry. Use water and a moisturizer daily, and a sealant like an oil to keep the hydration in.

Tahlia williams says:

Hi I’m about to leave to go to college and I am looking for healthy natural ways to do my hair that don’t involve heat. I too am biracial and have similar hair to your daughter unfortunately I have spent years fighting my curls and they are beyond dry and dead which makes them super frizzy. Do you have any advice on what products I can use to revive my hair while reducing shrinkage on a college budget? I’ll be moving to Virginia and I’ve heard its super muggy, how can I fight the frizz? Thank you!

Baggs says:

My gorgeous blended 6 year old granddaughter is on a year round swim team- now imagine what that does to her very curly, thick, beautiful hair! I rinse her hair immediately after swimming and layer in the new (pink jar) Shea repair cream. Once a week, or after an all day swim meet, I wash her hair with Crack (light blue label) and conditioner. You can get this at Ulta or on Amazon. Getting a good wet brush in addition to a good wide tooth comb, it takes no time at all to comb her out and re twist (days not swimming) or braid into 6 sections. I twist or braid with a lot of Shea and her hair is almost waist long and in great condition. We trim the ends three times a year, good cut after summer swim team. Everyone, black and white, comment on how gorgeous her hair is. I absolutely love doing her hair and tell her how much I do. I’m an old, blond grandma who always wanted curls! She is the love of my life and I am so thrilled to help raise her as a proud, natural girl!

Brittany says:

I’m so glad I came across this pin on Pinterest and read this blog. I have three biracial children, two boys and one little girl. She is about to turn seven! I read so many blogs and nothing I read seem like it fit. Either the products were too expensive or there wasn’t enough information. This is very detailed and easy to follow. and anyone knows with THREE children, 11, 8, 7 is a job in it self lol. But I can handle this routine. I really like this one!! finally lol! I am now ready to tackle her hair with this routine and I know it will work. I need a satin pillow case now and get these hair care products. I’m excited!
Thank you so much!!!

Baby Making Mama says:

Yay! So glad you found it helpful Brittany. Please let me know how it goes!

Melanie says:

Wow! So wish I had this advice 7 yrs ago!! My daughter who is also biracial has hair almost exactly like your daughters and I have probably bought every hair product under the sun since she was about 3!! I have tried to keep moisture in her hair but especially in the summer when she is swimming and playing outside it gets so hard!! Thank you so much for your tutorial!!! I wanted to ask what your advice is on hair cuts! Since she was about 5 she has insisted on wearing her hair in a ponytail ALL the time because her hair gets “too big” I have spent a lot of time trying to get her to love her curls but she is so active it just gets in the way. I am trying to decide if cutting her hair a little shorter like just below her shoulders would be too short when it does frizz as unfortunately in the south the humidity is horrid!! She will be 10 this fall and is starting to want to be able to fix her own hair which is next to impossible, but I am wondering if a shorter hair cut might make that easier? Any thoughts? Thanks so much and your babies are beautiful!!

Natasha says:

How often do you do this for your daughter. And how often do you use shampoo, if ever? My mixed granddaughter has hair that looks like your daughters and her mom and dad shampoo it every bath. Thanks

viktoria says:

My daughter has in between hair. I feel like live tried everything. Do you think it could be that I have her wash her hair too much that her hair is so dry? I need help

Baby Making Mama says:

It could be Viktoria! I don’t wash my daughter’s hair more than once a week right now. It could cause it to dry out. How often are you washing her hair right now?

Lindsay says:

how often do you do this wash routine?

Marqui says:

After you add the moisture and put it in braids for bed time, was there still lots of cream on the hair. My daughter’s hair was gushing out moisture and left over conditioner . Is that normal? Or did I use way too much? I’m really big on moisture myself and I typically do most of the steps you do already. I’ve just never braided while she sleeps. Did I add too much

Nevada Reeves says:

Hello! I have a beautiful 1 year old son rockin a blonde fro. His dad is ready to cut but I’d really like to see what’s in store for his head as he gets older. It’s difficult to get all the tangles out of his hair, would you recommend the same detangling products you used on your daughter?

Emily says:

Hi, my son is biracial and almost two. We often use the Shea Moisture products because of the natural ingredients as well. I LOVE how your son’s hair managed to have ringlets. His grandma on his dad’s side isn’t fond of my son’s longer hair, but I want to keep the curls as long as we can. I do a similar routine on his hair, especially drench it with conditioner to detangle. It seems the problem we face is we can only get one really great day of curls–usually right after product goes in. Once he sleeps on it, trying to keep it detangled and moisturized (even with spray bottle of water) on following days just doesn’t keep the curls as cute. Any suggestions?

Ashli says:

First of all, I LOVE your daughter’s curls! Secondly, my foster daughter and I are battling her biracial hair and I’m in desperate need of advice! The information DCF provides is so general it does nothing for hair that needs a lot of extra TLC. She has a combination straight and curly type hair and always seems to want it straightened because that’s all her biological mother did with it, but every time I’ve allowed it to be done, it seems like her natural hair comes back more damaged every time. We’re trying to find ways to bring out her curls and combat the frizz around the roots right now. I keep telling her whatever you do as an adult will be up to you, but you’re going to know how to take care of it first. My husband jokes with her she doesn’t need a pillow if she leaves her hair down, that’s how BIG it gets. Right now we wash with shampoo once a week, twice if she’s been rolling around outside on the ground. We use Suave Professionals Keratin Infusion. After baths we use (not all at once) Just for Me Hair Milk curl smoother, L’Oreal EverCurl Silk & Gloss Dual Oil Care spray, CurlyKids mixed hair haircare super detangling spray, Suave Biotin infusion anti-breakage serum oil, Shea Moisture kids curling butter cream, argan oil deep penetrating oil treatment, and CurlyKids mixed hair haircare curly deep conditioner. It helps but nothing seems to last more than two or three hours to fight the root frizz. What am I doing wrong? Lol I have thin, fine, straight hair and if I even thought of using any of this stuff my hair would be greasy for days but it doesn’t seem to be enough for her hair. It always feels so dry at the roots you wouldn’t know I put anything in it. Sorry, I feel like I’m blowing your comments up with this but her and I joke that her hair needed an instruction manual. Lol Any suggestions you can offer would be so appreciated! Thanks in advance!

Carly says:

So I have two biracial boys and one little girl on the way! My oldest is 3 and we have never cut his hair! Needless to say, it’s waist length while wet, but when it dries it’s not yet to his shoulders! I’m in love with Shea Mosture products and it’s the only thing we use! But my question is, how do we know where to take him for a haircut? We live in a smaller town and I’m nervous to do it myself! Lol. With summer coming I feel bad for all the hair he has!!!

MagiQQ Eyes says:

Im going to visit my mother in May 2016, and she want me to trim my 2 biracial nieces, I do know how to trim hair, but never trimmed curly hair only straight hair (im not a beautician ).
Do I blow dry it straight? There hair is down there back. One of them, hair has the curl pattern as ur daughter, the other one, curl pattern is alot looser .
My mother is 77 and I need to simplify the hair regiment and still have it healthy.

Carla says:

Hello. I have a newborn boy that’s 3months however he’s not biracial but has extremly curly hair just like my 11yr old boy and myself. How do you recommend caring for his hair as a newborn?

Jessica says:

Love this! We adopted our beautiful daughter and I had no clue what to do with her hair. I have finally felt I am doing OK with it but still confused on some things. Mainly hair shrinking as it dries. Her hair is thick and really long when wet. No matter what products I use it won’t stay long and pretty. Any suggestions for that or am I not moisturizing enough?

Lindsey says:

I would love to know about your sons hair care process and how often you get it trimmed! My son is 2 and a half and his hair is very similar. We are trying to find the right products and work out a routine. It is kind of difficult when he hates getting his head wet 😉

Thanks a lot!
Lindsey

Barbara W says:

Well, you got some really in-depth marks here. Thanks for sharing great tips. Honestly, sometimes, it is difficult for me to take care of my hair because I am too busy. These guides may help me.

Baby Making Mama says:

I’m so happy you found them helpful 🙂

Nikki says:

I have a 5 year old daughter who is bi racial and her hair is curly but really thick and if we dont get it braided down then it just sticks up and is nappy and seems really dry no matter how much oil moisturizer conditioner or anything i put in it it soaks it up like nothing happened and i cant run my fingers through it nor can i get her curls i guess u could say to “drop” and its frustrating bc i cant do nothing with it unless i braid it put a weave in it or what not.. And her hair is shoulder length but u would never be able to tell how it just bunches up on her head can u please help me email me or something? I would like her to be able to have her natural hair down she loves hair and being able to “swish” it back to back lol

Baby Making Mama says:

I totally understand wanting to be able to swish it around 🙂 Are you using a moisturizer after you wash and detangle? Which one? Sometimes what I like to do is braid it up until it dries then take it down. That’s what I do to my hair too. It sorta makes it’s own style but I like it for those days that my hair just wants to stick up. It helps a lot with shrinkage.

T says:

Your kids are so cute. How did you come up with their nicknames?

Ab says:

I have tried everything with my daughters hair. It has terrible breakage. A big part of the hair problem is it is incredibly thick. And I find when I try to use multiple products such as the ones you discusses, it make a flaky caked up mess. She is 10 and we are both at our wits end. Can you please send?

Elizabeth says:

Can you post a picture of the comb you use to detangled? Please and thank you. The brush i currently use to detangled her hair makes it frizzzy from the ends.

Lola says:

I love this post I read it over and over again. xoxo <3

stacy says:

How do i get my 2 year old’s hair to i guess you could say “drop” down. Its like it just drys an just puffs up.
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Shauneese says:

My 1 and a half year old has hair similar to that of your sons just a tad thicker. He hates having me touch his hair unless hes taking a bath. What process and products do you use on your son. My Mom is hounding me to cut my sons hair but if I had the right products and system I’d love him to keep his curls

Nicola says:

I have a 15 month old daughter who is biracial with extremely curly hair and her dad (is black) keeps telling me to get her hair in braids as he says it will help her hair grow and get stronger however I’m scared it will damage her hair? I took her to an African hair salon when she was 10months old and they taught me how to care for her hair but never mentioned braids?

Meg says:

First, your kids have gorgeous hair! This article was really helpful. My daughter is 14 months old. People are starting to tell me I need to get her hair trimmed. I would love for her to have long beautiful curls like your daughter. How often does she get her hair trimmed and when did you start? Thanks!

Tina@ hair says:

They are looks grate.I used the cheap hair products for years. Now I’m dabbling in the more expensive brands found at salons.

Dana says:

Thank you so much for posting this!!!! My daughter has been wanting me to leave her hair down and I have drove myself crazy trying to figure out exactly how to without the frizz!!! Guess I wasnt using enough moisturizer in it!!! I use the whole line of Cantu for mixed hair!

Katie says:

First, your kids are absolutely gorgeous! My husband is biracial and one of our 4 kids came out with the most beautiful curls which I absolutely have no clue how to take care of. She is 6 and I have been trying to figure it out for a long time. Thank you so much for writing down the actual process. It doesn’t matter what the product is if the process isn’t followed. I am looking forward to trying out a few of these products and starting a better routine with my daughter. Hopefully she will learn to love her curls as soon as I learn to nourish them properly. Thank you again, from a clueless but hopeful, mom!!

Moira says:

Thanks for an amazing post! I’m biracial so will be trying this routine on my own hair. I was wondering what do you think about detangling with fingers instead of a wide tooth comb…which do you think is better in terms of doing less damage to the hair?
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Cheryl says:

Thank you! I’m hoping this will help reduce the tears of my bf’s two little girls during the morning hair detangling ritual! They have absolutely gorgeous curls so I’m trying to help figure out how to have less tears so that they can learn to love their amazing hair!

Kimberly says:

Good Day!

Hope all is well!

My daughter’s hair looks very much like your daughter’s. Only difference, my daughter’s hair length is pass her butt. She’s not a fan of detangling and it takes a very long time. I’m using Shea Moisture shampoo and conditioner on her hair. I love your results! You have beautiful children. I would like to know what products I should at least have. I don’t want to spend a lot of money on a variety of products if it’s not necessary but I would love to get the same results.

What are the best products to use on her hair type? Also, what would you recommend me to use for styling her hair?

Emerald says:

Thanks for sharing! My question is do you only comb through her hair when you wash it? My daughter is only 20 months old and I have to wet and comb through her hair every morning. And then once she takes a nap, it gets matted up again. I have some great products I’m using, I just think maybe my process is off. Lol Thanks!

Baby Making Mama says:

Usually just when I wash it, yes. Sometimes I do what you say and spray it down and comb through in the morning. If I twist it at night and let it down in the morning it tends to do really well. Just spray, comb and twist at night, then let it down in the morning. You sound like you’re on the right track!

Carol W says:

Hi! My question is, what style would you do to keep knots out in a 20 month old short curly afro? My daughters hair is not long yet but getting there and is super thick and gorgeous but not long enough for braids. Whenever she goes to sleep on it, it tangles up again because her curls are so tight. Thank u so much

Mo Square says:

Such a great post.! My curl pattern is much closer to your son’s than your daughter’s. My question is how do you keep it moisturized? I am 22 and have always worn a curly fro. I’ve never put a relaxer in my hair although I have highlighted it a few times. I am letting it grow out. It’s been around 1 year now and I’m at 7 inches. But the middle never wants to curl like the outside and no matter what I do it seems to stay frizzy. I haven’t used actual shampoo for about 3 years but still the middle stays frizzy. Any tips?

Candice says:

Heyyy, I have a almost 2 year old son who’s curls I would love to keep and learn how to take care of. Any tips and advice would be so nice!!! Thank you.

Shawn Michaels says:

Wow! I love your small girl’s hair. I have a baby girl 3 years old she has same texture of hair but her hair is not as perfect as the girl shown in the pictures. I truly love her hair. Will try your tips hope my daughter will also have the same perfect curls. Thumbs up for your work!

Izzys says:

My baby is 2 she has very very dry hair I’ve tryed most products, but her hair is so short ! Breakage is more common I’ve tryed to let her hair breathe by not putting it up I was OK once every week . I will try the Shea line as shown but do you have any other tips for short kinky dry hair and getting on the right track

Hannah says:

I have a three month old biracial daughter (her father is Ghanaian and I am white). I am using johnsons detangling shampoo on her hair twice a week and using johnsons detangling conditioner three times a week and using the johnsons detangling spray leave in conditioner every night in her hair. her hair is left soft but I find that no matter what I do the hair in the sides of her head stick straight out at the side and the hair on top will comb downwards until I get to the side and then it just sticks straight out. I don’t want her hair to be flat or straight as she has beautiful little waves that r becoming curls but I would like to know if its possible to have the hair go more down towards her shoulders and not straight out or do I just have to have patience and wait for the hair to get longer.

Sup says:

Omg cutest kids

Lynda says:

So I have a ton of questions! First off I’m a stylist and have been for 20 years however I’ve never worked with ethnic hair. Unfortunately my son passed away and I am raising his daughter who is five and absolutely gorgeous! My first question is could you list everything that you use on your daughters hair? And my second question as shampoo once a week do you leave her curls down for the entire week or do you braided up every day? I know that you stated at bedtime every night you re-moisturize but I wasn’t really sure as to what you did after that. I usually only shampoo her hair once a week however it sounds like I’m killing her when I go to do the comb out and I feel terrible about that! I have got to figure out how to do this if it kills me! Which leads me to my final question is there any chance you would move next-door to me?

Kathryn Malory says:

You have a gorgeous family! My son is almost 2 and he has hair almost the same length as your son’s. It’s a daily fight between my husband and I about cutting it. Mainly because it looks out of control most of the time. I think I wash it too often which is probably part of the problem. But what products do you use for his hair so the curls form like they do? When I use something on his hair it gets frizzy once it’s dry. Thank you for any help you can give! I don’t really want to cut all his hair off! 🙁

Laura Collins says:

Is there any difference between “regular” and “deep” conditioner??
Like, are there certain ones you must wash out, then others that are fine to leave in, therefore use during the “deep condition” part of the process?
And if so, what words should I look out for in the product description to tell me the difference between if it Must be washed out, or can stay in..?

Kim says:

I would also love to know more about boys hair care. I have 2 young boys, and the 4 year old wants to keep his hair long like his papa (who has locs).

Ashlynn says:

How often do you wash their hair?

Robin Solo says:

Hi! Im fourteen and biracial and I was wondering how often I should wash my hair? And how do I keep the curls from getting frizzy throughout the day??

First off, how dang cute are your kids!!
Thank you for this step by step. I have been doing a ton of research on how to care for my daughters hair. I love anything shea moisture. I am white, blonde, straight hair so I have a lot to learn haha. Have you cut your kids hair yet? I haven’t and won’t need to for a while but am petrified to do so!! Thanks for the great post.

Jennifer says:

I’m glad you found this helpful Merchon. So my daughter has had a trim, my son has had a few haircuts. I don’t do it myself! That would end in disaster. haha!

Samantha says:

I can get my 2 year old sons hair to do perfect ringlets the first day and sometimes the second if I rewet and use redkin Shea butter cream but by day 3 it starts getting sticky. Any tips? Or do I need to switch products?

Jennifer says:

Hi Samantha! Are you spraying it with a bit of water before adding the product? that could help.

Joanne says:

I am keeping my 4 year old biracial daughters hair conditioned enough (i think), but its not growing in length? What can I do? Its the length of your sons in this picture.

Candice says:

I have s biracial son who is 1. His hair is short with loose curls, waves, and tight curls(a majority) he has sensitive skin so I can’t use anything with frangrance or essential oils. Are any of the products frangrance free

Jennifer says:

I don’t have any fragrance-free products at the moment… Well, kinky curly may be, but I’m not sure. I’d consider looking in to them though.

DOnna says:

I have three biracial sons. Do you have any suggestions for short hair that is tightly curled? Is on length better than another?

Crystal K Castro says:

Question…. have you ever had to “thin out” your daughters hair? I have tried so many things/products on my daughters thick tight curled hair. It gets ‘nappy’ in the middle/back the reason why we get thinned out. We only wash her hair once a week to prevent drying but heard today and now your post to wait even longer like 10 days to wash. I’m definitely going to give this a trY as something HAS TO WORK! PLUS school starts next week!

Vanessa Riley says:

I found this to be VERY helpful! I am excited to put this new knowledge to use asap and get into a great hair routine for my biracial curly haired littles. I’ve been struggling up until now and my oldest will be 3 in December of this year (2017)! Better late than never right 😉😘

Jessika says:

Hello.
I would love to know how you do your sons hair. My son is biracial but his hair is no where near that long but is VERY dry.

Rebecca Stephens says:

Hello,

My daughter is 11 and I have been told she has “good hair”. The problem is even though I use a leave in conditioner it is so dry. She has her dads side with the coarseness. Where should I start? She has curls but her hair sits more like your sons. Please help, as I don’t have a clue on where to start or what to start with. Thank you for your time..

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